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Cooper15
February 28th, 2014, 11:24 PM
This is going to be a sort of a long post, so bare with me. Also I am bisexual before I mention this story.

So, I've known this guy for a few months now at school, and It seems like he possibly likes me, and there are reasons for that being said. For example, I notice that he likes being around me, like if I'm at lunch, he'll come over and sit with me, and since the school I go to allows electronics out, he likes to go on my iPad, and plays games. I also trust him with my iPad too, so I'm not uncomfortable about that, as he has so far given me no reason to be. Like I said, he likes being around me, we get along real well, and he's just a really cool individual. We sometimes joke around with each other, like annoy each other ( not to actually annoy to the point of anger ). But the real thing that indicates that he likes me is that I see him looking at me, even though if he thinks I don't notice. Also when we talk, he tends to look at me for a relatively longer time then others would. Theres more though, the school I go to, is not biased about your preferences including sexual orientation, that being said, there has been other students there that have come out in every single category in sexual orientation without being judged or discriminated, as the teacher and councilors do not tolerate that at any extent. He himself, has not yet identified his own preference. The other day while at lunch, there were several others there that had gotten into that topic, and when he was asked, there was no response, though, I saw his eyes flicker a little, so that indicates something. Though, he is also attracted to girls too, as he personally asked one out already, but was rejected. Also, he tends to sometimes get kind of close to me, of course, not when doing work, but during free time. I also don't mind much. I personally think he is interested in me in that way, by the data that ive gathered, though I would like others opinions, also, I have yet to mention my sexuality preference at school, just for those wondering.

Mainly what I am asking is, do you think he likes me, and if so, what should I do?

Ill answer any question you ask to. Thanks if you have read/replied in regards.

ksdnfkfr
March 1st, 2014, 12:10 AM
Not trying to be snippy at all, but what exactly is it you are asking?

Alex_3869
March 1st, 2014, 01:58 PM
I'm not sure if he likes you or not. I mean, him looking at you and you being comfortable with him on your iPad and his eyes flickering when asked about sexuality doesn't equal feelings for someone. Don't get me wrong, he could like you. The other things like going to sit with you at lunch, getting along well are just being friendly and you two may just be really close. Does he know that your bi?

Cooper15
March 1st, 2014, 04:01 PM
Nope, no one knows.

I would also like to point out, if im having a bad day, he does notice pretty instantly, and does try to cheer me up, though its only happened twice, as I really don't have many bad days.

Hermes96
March 1st, 2014, 06:08 PM
ask him i'm sure he'll awnser you

Alex_3869
March 1st, 2014, 07:12 PM
ask him i'm sure he'll awnser you

Yeah I agree with this. Just be cautious about it

myfoodisnotshared
March 2nd, 2014, 06:01 PM
Well, it sounds sort of like me when I'm around my (unfortunately straight) best friend. You get close, you watch constantly, you avoid saying you're completely straight just in case. But that doesn't mean anything for certain, as he could just as easily be a nice guy who likes being your friend and happened to not answer a question.

Obviously the easiest solution is to come out as bi and just wait and see. Just as obviously, that's a pretty flawed plan, as it requires you to come out and that's a big thing to do. It's good to know there's a no-tolerance policy at your school - that should help if things get somewhere:-) - but that doesn't mean either of you would be comfortable coming out automatically.

I would just be subtle, for now at least. Have you tried asking if he's ever done anything with a guy? It's a good question, cause it can be answered honestly any way, and by nature suggests that you wouldn't be disgusted if he said yes. Try asking when you're on your own, perhaps talking about a similar topic - make sure you don't ever say you're straight in front of him though. If he likes you he'll take it as confirmation you're not interested.

Hope that helps, and good luck with him:-)

Living For Love
March 2nd, 2014, 06:10 PM
It's hard to say if he's actually interested in you or not, but I would say he seems a bit confused about his sexuality. Questions is: do you like him or not? If you do, and if you'd like to have something with him, I think it would be better if you told him you were bisexual than if you told him you had feelings for him. Come out to him first, see his reaction, he seems a really nice friend so I'm pretty sure he wouldn't discriminate you because of your sexual orientation.