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Gustave_the_Croc
February 28th, 2014, 10:01 AM
Last year was an eventful year for me, creating a friendship, falling in love with that friend and not knowing it at the time. After that and some other 'instances' I feel like I've been pushed away from having a close friendship with a girl, considering one, or in my case both of you develop feelings for one another.

I'm 16 years of age and never had a girlfriend, I consider myself a perhaps, 'hopeless romantic', I find girls with visible make-up a turn off. Whenever I feel I like someone I like their personality before their looks and sometimes forget about caring about looks all together if I believe they have a beautiful mind, which in my books over rules a beautiful body.

So, even when I've liked these girls, I've never felt the want to actually date them, I'd rather have them as people I talk to at school, without getting personal. But there is this one girl I've started talking to last year on facebook and I've only really had one conversation with her in my OP support class. She is really smart, she does a lot of high end subjects at school and strives to get a good OP score, as do I. She is also an avid Halo fan like me and she freakin' Russian, I dig Russia (the country lol, don't ask why). She is perfect for me, she in my opinion is the one I've been waiting for.

Now for the problem, when I started talking to her on FB it was early morning and she was the only person online to talk to, so whatever. I talked to her about stuff, over the course of few days we talked, both of us evenly starting our own conversations. But, a lot of the time she talked about this guy she liked (or still likes or goes out with). He's an idiot, not gonna lie. They still hang out and stuff, but I don't know if they are seeing each other. Now, since I think she is perfect for me, I want to ask her out. But I don't want her to say no, because she is really nice person that I enjoy talking to, except I don't think I could go through a close friendship with a girl ever again.

Last time we talked was wednesday in my OP support class that she just moved into. When we were walking out of class to go home, I was talking to her about a book I've been reading, but when we came to where we had to split off, we stood their for a moment until I turned around and said "Cya!", maybe she was waiting for me to say something, I don't know. But I feel like the reason she was splinting off from me was to go to the other guy, who she says is her best friend and he says she is his bestfriend. I've been in that situation before, I think they do like each other without knowing it.

Another issue I have is my physicality, I eat healthing the same things everyweek, but I have to maintain a constant weight of about 100kg for the sport I do, gaining muscle and loosing fat would work and I can do that, because I have done that, but I just don't have the time to go to the gym. I feel personality might not be enough, for some people. But It's hard to judge myself, because I know certain parts of me are good, my face is good looking according to certain 'girls who are menial friends' and my shoulders are freakin' tank, but I do store a lot of weight in my gut, and I don't know what people think of that.

So yeah if you've bothered to read this, than you're awesome, Some feedback would be nice too.

Miserabilia
February 28th, 2014, 10:18 AM
I also find girls with visable make up a turn off, your not alone!
Anyway,
if she talks to you about a guy she likes she probably just sees you as a friend,
I dunno.

Gustave_the_Croc
February 28th, 2014, 10:32 AM
I also find girls with visable make up a turn off, your not alone!
Anyway,
if she talks to you about a guy she likes she probably just sees you as a friend,
I dunno.

Yeah, but he hasn't being mentioned this year though, maybe she realized shes smarter than him, by a lot.

radsniper
February 28th, 2014, 04:32 PM
when you were splitting i think she expected you to say something it seems she is starting to have feelings for you but i can't be positive

Gustave_the_Croc
March 2nd, 2014, 04:31 AM
I'm gonna try ask her out tomorrow and see what happens

radsniper
March 2nd, 2014, 03:49 PM
good luck

Croconaw
March 2nd, 2014, 04:19 PM
Good luck. Let us know what happens.

Gustave_the_Croc
March 3rd, 2014, 02:12 AM
So today I had biology first up and the two classes we have were together for a project and the girl I like was in the other class. About mid way through class she came up to me and sat next to me, we talked about biology camp as we went on different days and what not. It was fine and I was talking to her comfortably, but asking her out it really daunting to me, in the afternoon I saw her with 2 different guys within about 10mins and I don't know her involvement with them at all, whether they are just friends or not. So obviously I couldn't ask her out, the second guy she was with looked to be a bit shady. I just don't want to ask her out and get a reply along the lines of "I have a boyfriend" or "I like someone else". A lot of her friends are guys though and I don't like those particular people as people, they are very immature, where as she is not.

Croconaw
March 3rd, 2014, 06:09 AM
It doesn't hurt to try. You'll have closure.

Dwemer
March 3rd, 2014, 06:14 AM
Goodluck u have nothing to realy loose :)

Verto
March 3rd, 2014, 11:22 AM
You might as well go for it. If it doesn't work out, it's a learning experience. Not to mention people's mind can change in time, and at least your on her radar afterwards at that point.

xban
March 4th, 2014, 07:55 PM
I wouldn't say make up is a turn off for me. Those stuffs are created by "God" just for girls so that they can look pretty. But I think a girl should look pretty without make up also. That's important later on in a relationship.

Gustave_the_Croc
March 5th, 2014, 05:26 PM
I asked her out in Russian yesterday plainly "I want to go out with you" in Russian and she said yes!

Gustave_the_Croc
March 6th, 2014, 12:37 AM
Only problem is that her parents are really strict and I have to get their permission to date her. She's never had a boyfriend before, because of her parents. I think it's really good though, with her parents concerned about her well being. I'm actually kinda more nervous about asking her parents if I can date her, than just asking her to go out.