Talking To My Parents

[sammyg7241]

So, I recently noticed a lump on one of my testicles. I want to go see my doctor but I have no idea how to talk with my parents, more specifically my mom, about this. I've never really had that open relationship with my parents about this stuff and it feels really weird. On top of that, normally when I go for my yearly checkups, my mom always brings my brother and I at the same time to save some time, but my pediatrician always does both of our exams with our sibling and our mom in the room. It usually isn't that bad but this is totally different. Any suggestions are appreciated!

[refrigeratorx]

You could always bring it up to the nurse at school, and maybe they could check to see if there should be any concern. If not, you could tell your parent you're not feeling well and need to go to the doctor. Then, When you're called just say like "it's fine u can wait here it'll be quick" and hope she just goes for it.

If not that, you should just tell her. Especially since I had something similar and they might schedule follow up tests that she will need to know about anyways

[tigers]

Just go to school nurse or doc soon its really important ��

[Tommy Lion]

Be brave and tell her. And please go to a doctor as soon as possible!

[azurzg]

I would not mention "a lump" to my parents, but I would say that I think I need to see a doctor about one of my testicles. Is they asked, I would probably say "pain in my testicle".
Please see a proper doctor as soon as possible!

[Cloud_Strife]

So, I recently noticed a lump on one of my testicles. I want to go see my doctor but I have no idea how to talk with my parents, more specifically my mom, about this. I've never really had that open relationship with my parents about this stuff and it feels really weird. On top of that, normally when I go for my yearly checkups, my mom always brings my brother and I at the same time to save some time, but my pediatrician always does both of our exams with our sibling and our mom in the room. It usually isn't that bad but this is totally different. Any suggestions are appreciated!

Hi Sam,

If you've noticed a lump on one of the testicles, then you shouldn't let embarrassment get in the way of being reviewed. Your health holds priority over that.

While you have had checkups with your brother previously, those were for annual/yearly checks; which would not have otherwise been for a specific query or issue. If you do outline that you found a testicular lump or even a vague complaint of 'discomfort' in the abdomen or groin, I'm sure that they would not hesitate to have you reviewed.

After all, if your parents would go through the effort of having you being seen annually to make sure you were well through screening checks anyway, the fact that something has already been detected would almost certainly have you being seen by your family doctor without hesitation.

It's a good thing you've been checking yourself routinely. I hope the checkup is uneventful and that things end up okay.

Take care mate.

[SethfromMI]

get checked out asap man. nothing to be ashamed of and if there is a possible problem, you want to catch it sooner rather than later. your parents won't say no to seeing a doctor. as far as having privacy, since it is not a normal checkup, I guess you can ask her if you can be alone with the doctor while they do the checkup, but I think that in the end will be totally up to her. regardless, get checked out and soon

[tvsigeys]

My folks both have a medical background so any stuff like this was pretty clinical. But do suck it up and get looked at sooner than later. School nurse route seems viable too, if that's any better

[german_boy]

First of all, it sounds as if you got a "varicocele". Many people our age got it, it's not dangerous. However, I'd suggest seeing a doctor. Isn't it possible to consult one without your parents knowing it? If not, you'd have to tell your parents sooner or later. Maybe you can talk to your dad first.

[Falcons_11]

Like the rest of us here have told you you have to see a doctor asap. This could be nothing. But then again it could be serious. Only a doctor can tell you. If you don't have anyone else to talk to about taking you to a doctor you must tell your mom (she will find out anyways). Don't be afraid to talk to her about your medical problems. After all she gave birth to you, changed your diapers when you were a baby, she knows what you penis and testicles look like. Don't let this stand in the way of getting you medical attention quickly. Good luck and I hope this problem isn't very serious.

[ShineintheDark]

If it's really a lump it's really mportant you get it checked so either talk to the school nurse or just swallow the pill and speak to your parents. No other options really

[Alex_Swim]

You need a new doctor...
If S/He thinks its ok for a 16 to do a physical with your mom/sib (hopefully little bro) in the room, that's just wrong.

Your physical should include things like are you sexually active? And if the Doc wants a honest answer, your mom/lbro should not be in the room.

My Dad had me move doctors when I started middle school, I started going to a young adult doctor. I went in alone. Doc would tell dad at the end anything dad needed to know, but would ask me first if it was ok to tell dad that item.

But talk to your mom, school nurse to get a appointment. Your mom should wait in the waiting room. That's what that room is for. Also suggest to the doctor that maybe you are a little old for a Pediatrician.

[Harrier]

Same exact thing happened to me. Except one ball got swollen while the other didn't (maybe got a bit bigger). I was scared too. Dad was out of town. Tho I would be just as embarrassed to talk to him. After idk 3 days and it hadn't gone away I told her. At that point I felt I had no choice. Maybe if I had an older bro but I don't. But anyway at that point I was cared. Idc that my mom saw. Idc that 2 nurses saw. I was scared I had cancer or something! It was just an infection or something. I took some pills and it went away quite fast actually. Afterwards I hardly even thought about it. It was truly a life or death moment or so I thought.

[INACTIVEchaosphere]

So, I recently noticed a lump on one of my testicles. I want to go see my doctor but I have no idea how to talk with my parents, more specifically my mom, about this. I've never really had that open relationship with my parents about this stuff and it feels really weird. On top of that, normally when I go for my yearly checkups, my mom always brings my brother and I at the same time to save some time, but my pediatrician always does both of our exams with our sibling and our mom in the room. It usually isn't that bad but this is totally different. Any suggestions are appreciated!
Just explain that you were doing a self-administered health exam and found something of interest. A school nurse could definitely be a good idea, since they could confirm your suspicions and she cold save you the effort and time of explaining this whole thing and being checked out if it isn't necessary.
Bottom line, it is and always will be more important to catch these things early, rather than beat around the bush. Let us know how it goes.

[scott2002]

We had a program in school this year. Lots of awkward laughs and joking from many guys. It was a VIDEO on how to examine our nuts for possible testicular cancer. It recommended rolling each testicle between your finger and thumb like once a month, and best after a shower when everything is nice and loose and relaxed down there. I guess between 15 and 25 is when this happens most often. And finding a hard lump DEFINITELY needs to be checked out.
If it was me I would just be honest and tell my dad that I think I feel a lump in one of my testicles. I'd let him check me, too, and see if he thinks he feels the lump, too.

[Kyle37]

Casually bring it up as you got a lump down there. Trust me your parents will probably be just as embarrassed as you are and will totally understand. Just do what they tell you after that and you'll be golden.

[ChaseDakoda]

Hey Sam. Obviously you're examining your testicles in the shower or something. That's great that you're doing it. Last year I was playing basketball and they threw the basketball to me a little harder than I would have wanted. It hit me right in the groin I went down fast. I was taken off the floor totally embarrassed doubled over and puking. Everybody that was over 15 I think Saw me in the locker room totally embarrassed again my parents took me to the emergency room to make a long story short I had a testicular tension and I had to have an operation. I at that point didn't care who saw me all I know is I felt better but please don't let the embarrassment of your mom or dad seeing you being examined stop you from seeing the doctor for telling about it because those are your boys and you have to take care of them. I hope you luck please keep us informed.

So anyway back to you a lump or anything unusual should always be checked out I would tell your dad first especially you may want to even ask an older brother or some relative that you really are close to them and tell them they may be able to help you out. My case was extreme that doesn't happen to a lot of guys.

And wear a strap, jock always.

[TWDjacob]

Just be straight out and say it. As awkward as it will probably be for you it's definitely something that should get checked out if you think there's a problem. Not worth the risk to just let it go

[SillyPecker]

If this troubles you, please please go to your dad, it will be just as important to him. You are his son, and if he really remembers what being a teen is like he'll understand , I personally think that there is a part of every dad that want to talk about these things with his son...

[pjones]

Sam
Hope you spoke up and have seen a doc, as everyone says it is important. Your mom is fully aware you have a penis and testicles so never let that be the reason you don't bring up health concerns to her. I'm sure she wants you to be as healthy as possible.

[bpk1234]

If you cant verbally say it, try texting it to them. That's what I did when I came out because I was too embarassed at the time time to say those words.