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Stronk Serb
February 27th, 2014, 03:15 AM
++LONG STORY ALERT++LONG STORY ALERT++
So, I had a conversation with my friend, for the sake of better understanding it, I will call her Jane. She criticized and then mocked my choices about music and dressing, the conversation went like this.

Jane: Why don't you go with the flow and start listening to turbofolk (Serbian music I despise), dress up like a football hooligan and stuff like that? Stop wearing that Sabaton hoodie, jeans and those boots.

Me: I don't go with the flow. Those are the average, I am above that (my ego got the better of me).

Jane: Why? You would be awesome, people would like you more.

Me: I don't care about someone else's opinion, I am not changing myself to appease people.

Jane: Why are you so against stuff the majority like?

Me: Because I dislike it. Sure, keep it to yourselves but don't shove it unto me.

Jane: So because you are a metalhead, when you go to a club, you are not going to dance to turbofolk music?

Me: I won't go to that club. I would go somewhere where metal is on the music list, or stay home.

Jane: Oh come on, you would just stay home?

Me: No, I would throw a metalhead party at home.

Jane: Wow, you are pathetic.

Me: That could be said for you. You go with the flow to appease people.

Jane: Oh yeah? I want to see you fight someone just like the "normal" people do.

Me: Ok, I will take you to the Iron Maiden concert. Me and my gang are gonna be very near the mosh pit, and that means a lot of ass kicking or getting our asses kicked.

Jane: No, my dad is going there...

Me: We will just go to a different area, if he notices you, who cares, just tell him you want to try listening to metal.

Jane: No, I am not going there, I hate metal.

Me: Sure thing.

Jane: My friend here disagrees with you too.

Me: Like I care.

Her friend: Wow, Sabaton, you are so lame...

Me: The same could be said for you, you didn't change that shirt for two weeks, and you only wear that tight leather jacket for three weeks. Did it grow with your skin so you can't take it off?

Her friend: I am not a speed (that drug that's similar to LSD) junkie like you.

Me: I am not a speed junkie, I only take regular doses of metal ;)

Her friend: Whatever...

Then the bell rang, so we went our separate ways. I was indifferent about what Jane and her friend said. I am not going to shape myself to satisfy people's demands. Now the question, I want to solve this problem, because Jane is generally OK, as a friend, and I want to keep it that way.

Body odah Man
February 27th, 2014, 06:11 AM
Good job comrade! You told that chick what's what! You shouldn't change yourself for a person but remain yourself is what I say and most people would agree with that so ya did the right thing. As for fixing things with Jane...can't help you with that. Sorry

AlexOnToast
February 27th, 2014, 06:38 AM
This made me LOL. You certainly told her off XD

Dalcourt
February 27th, 2014, 11:32 AM
You really did the right thing...why would you want to do things you aren't interested in, just be more popular among those people. They are obviously not worth it...
You really told them off, that's awesome.

Stronk Serb
February 27th, 2014, 03:10 PM
She's been mocking me again today. Screw it. I don't want a friend who will mock me. It's not that it really hurts me, but it makes me uncomfortable.

Karkat
February 27th, 2014, 03:53 PM
She's been mocking me again today. Screw it. I don't want a friend who will mock me. It's not that it really hurts me, but it makes me uncomfortable.

I don't blame you! If she's a true friend, she wouldn't feel the need to mock you for being you. If she can't understand that, she's not worth your time.

charlize2
February 27th, 2014, 04:15 PM
Ignore her, you're cool

Snydergate
February 27th, 2014, 06:45 PM
You go, I dont go with the flow either

Cygnus
February 27th, 2014, 10:13 PM
Unless you don't mind her bashing on you, then you should keep doing what you did, the key is not changing yourself for her, and you've done what will be considered right, well done.

kanine
February 27th, 2014, 10:24 PM
*Watches her float down the mainstream and quickly paddles to the shores of originality* No, but seriously, you did the right thing. And a real friend wouldn't mock you like that. If it's any consolation, your cool in my book.

Reks69
February 27th, 2014, 10:39 PM
Hey, a Serbian. And you totally told her. I hate it when girls try and do stuff like that

conniption
February 27th, 2014, 10:47 PM
Damn, you brushed her off so smoothly :P Good job.

Its Pretty
February 27th, 2014, 11:45 PM
Silly teenage girl is silly.

death-metal
February 28th, 2014, 11:32 AM
Woah mate, you rule! \,,/
That's a common metalheads' problem, I guess.
Whenever someone says anything like that to me, I'm like "You want to listen to my opinion? Okay! My opinion kinda tells you to go fuck yourself and play the five-fingered flute to you stupid talentless music!"
I hate it when people bash on me because of the music I listen to or the gigs I attend.
But, just be you! Don't give a rat's arse to what they say!
Hails mate! \,,/

Stronk Serb
February 28th, 2014, 12:25 PM
Woah mate, you rule! \,,/
That's a common metalheads' problem, I guess.
Whenever someone says anything like that to me, I'm like "You want to listen to my opinion? Okay! My opinion kinda tells you to go fuck yourself and play the five-fingered flute to you stupid talentless music!"
I hate it when people bash on me because of the music I listen to or the gigs I attend.
But, just be you! Don't give a rat's arse to what they say!
Hails mate! \,,/

She said she was sorry and the usual stuff today. I didn't take the apologies seriously, but I met a metalhead chick, and some of my other girl friends asked me if I needed help hooking up with the metalhead chick. I was like sure thing, but a bit later.

death-metal
February 28th, 2014, 01:00 PM
She said she was sorry and the usual stuff today. I didn't take the apologies seriously, but I met a metalhead chick, and some of my other girl friends asked me if I needed help hooking up with the metalhead chick. I was like sure thing, but a bit later.

Woah mate! Lucky you are, really!
Make sure you seal the deal haha..there aren't much metalhead chicks around. The one's I meet in gigs are mostly taken and are like 5-10 years older than me.

Stronk Serb
February 28th, 2014, 01:50 PM
Woah mate! Lucky you are, really!
Make sure you seal the deal haha..there aren't much metalhead chicks around. The one's I meet in gigs are mostly taken and are like 5-10 years older than me.

If things go well, I am thinking of taking her to the Iron Maiden concert in June. She freaked out when I said IM is coming to town.

Synyster Shadows
February 28th, 2014, 10:02 PM
I don't blame you! If she's a true friend, she wouldn't feel the need to mock you for being you. If she can't understand that, she's not worth your time.

I agree with Ren here. If she isn't cool with your likes/dislikes and mocks you for them, she isn't worth your time

death-metal
March 1st, 2014, 12:01 AM
If things go well, I am thinking of taking her to the Iron Maiden concert in June. She freaked out when I said IM is coming to town.

Lucky...wish I had a metalhead girlfriend. Oh how happy would I be..

Stronk Serb
March 1st, 2014, 02:20 AM
I agree with Ren here. If she isn't cool with your likes/dislikes and mocks you for them, she isn't worth your time

Yeah. I am new in school so there's a lot more people to be friends with.

Croconaw
March 2nd, 2014, 02:21 PM
I'm laughing my ass off right now. That's amazing. :lol:

Ethe14
March 4th, 2014, 10:08 PM
Well that was pretty awesome, true friends don't talk like that so like you said it's not worth your time.

Ben101
March 5th, 2014, 02:37 AM
She isnt your friend if she has been doing that. I never have gone with the flow, I never really had any friends who accepted me before a few months back, Now I could safely say I have one best friend and one other friend, and a few others who are there. They accept me for who I am. If your 'friend' doesnt accept you for who you are, there not worth wasting your breath on.

Stronk Serb
March 5th, 2014, 11:17 AM
Woohoo, she called me a necrophiliac today because I went to school in a Disturbed hoodie. I told her that she is a damn good looking corpse. I am totally cutting ties. I found my own group and they are ok with my choices, and think I am cool in a way.

death-metal
March 5th, 2014, 01:09 PM
Woohoo, she called me a necrophiliac today because I went to school in a Disturbed hoodie. I told her that she is a damn good looking corpse. I am totally cutting ties. I found my own group and they are ok with my choices, and think I am cool in a way.

Lucky you! I'm kinda jealous to be honest

Stronk Serb
March 5th, 2014, 01:32 PM
Lucky you! I'm kinda jealous to be honest

Don't worry, you will find your group sooner or later. Everyone does. While they are not all metalheads, they are kinda crazy like me.

ArtemisLianCrock
March 6th, 2014, 12:19 AM
Well done! It isn't always easy to ignore what other people are pressuring you to do. If they can't accept you the way you are then that is there loss.