Early development?

[Lucy G]

Thank God I found this place!

Ok so I'm 13 and I started to develop 'up top' at around 10 and a half. This was horrible for me. I got teased loads at school in like y5 and y6 by other girls (and boys of course). I also got stared at especially in PE and stuff when we were changing.

Now I'm older and I'm like a load bigger than my classmates and I still get teased a bit. I actually hate it. I shave down below to make myself look younger but even so.

Has anyone else had this and what did you do about it?
Thanks
Lucy

[becca07]

Hey Lucy. I understand a bit what you're going through.

A friend of mine was in a similar situation in which she developed faster and earlier than our peers. She got a lot of attention and also alot of teasing. What I've found is that the girls were just jealous and the guys were...well...guys. She just brushed everything off and as she knows that people are just immature at this age and it will pass. But it def frustrating she said.

[Lucy G]

I think you're right about the jealousy bit. There are some girls my age who are still completely flat chested or nothing more than small lemons up there lol. Boys are just a pain in general. Thanks for replying :)

[amelia_]

I agree with both of you. Boys are just boys, you know. Try not to let their teasing get to you. And with girls, seems like either way there's teasing whether you're too big or too flat.

[JessC]

Hey Lucy. I understand a bit what you're going through.

A friend of mine was in a similar situation in which she developed faster and earlier than our peers. She got a lot of attention and also alot of teasing. What I've found is that the girls were just jealous and the guys were...well...guys. She just brushed everything off and as she knows that people are just immature at this age and it will pass. But it def frustrating she said.

This is exactly what my friend is having too. I'm the same age and I don't have a lot going on up there so the jealousy thing is definitely true... It will get better when everyone matures more and the rest of us catch up in size so you won't feel like you're alone :)

[becca07]

This is exactly what my friend is having too. I'm the same age and I don't have a lot going on up there so the jealousy thing is definitely true... It will get better when everyone matures more and the rest of us catch up in size so you won't feel like you're alone :)

ahh this is right on point. You said it better than i could haha. That is a great point i forgot about (i.e once all the other girls get their lemons/tatas in the jealousy should come off a tad for the most part.

[Lucy G]

This is exactly what my friend is having too. I'm the same age and I don't have a lot going on up there so the jealousy thing is definitely true... It will get better when everyone matures more and the rest of us catch up in size so you won't feel like you're alone :)

I wish I were more like you tbh. Although from the point of looking older than I am, when I was like 11 it made me look as if I was kinda sexual and more advanced which i really wasn't back then

[KatieCO2003]

I agree with both of you. Boys are just boys, you know. Try not to let their teasing get to you. And with girls, seems like either way there's teasing whether you're too big or too flat.

Yeah. Girls are vicious. And it seems like its not just jealousy, although that's a big part of it. People are especially mean to people who are different. I'm 13 and I'm still completely flat. People make comments about me looking like a boy or being a trans-boy. And it hurts. Ya know? We try to let things like this go because we know that they're meaningless and stupid. But they still hurt.

But, my solution is to remind myself that I hate having my emotions manipulated by other people more than I hate what they say about me. I can't control what they say, but I can control how I react to it.

[Lucy G]

Yeah. Girls are vicious. And it seems like its not just jealousy, although that's a big part of it. People are especially mean to people who are different. I'm 13 and I'm still completely flat. People make comments about me looking like a boy or being a trans-boy. And it hurts. Ya know? We try to let things like this go because we know that they're meaningless and stupid. But they still hurt.

But, my solution is to remind myself that I hate having my emotions manipulated by other people more than I hate what they say about me. I can't control what they say, but I can control how I react to it.

You look completely feminine!! And you're right about reactions-that's what these idiots are looking for

[JessC]

People are mean at our age usually because they don't like something about themselves and so it takes attention away from them. I think girls can be worse just because they already have all this pressure to be like a perfect Goldilocks.

I love what you said though Katie, you're so right!

[Lucy G]

People are mean at our age usually because they don't like something about themselves and so it takes attention away from them. I think girls can be worse just because they already have all this pressure to be like a perfect Goldilocks.

I love what you said though Katie, you're so right!

I second that

[amelia_]

Yeah. Girls are vicious. And it seems like its not just jealousy, although that's a big part of it. People are especially mean to people who are different. I'm 13 and I'm still completely flat. People make comments about me looking like a boy or being a trans-boy. And it hurts. Ya know? We try to let things like this go because we know that they're meaningless and stupid. But they still hurt.

But, my solution is to remind myself that I hate having my emotions manipulated by other people more than I hate what they say about me. I can't control what they say, but I can control how I react to it.

Yeah, actually when I think about it girls might be worse than boys.. I think it's just that the girls want to feel better about their insecurities so they put down everyone else, and that really sucks. I know it's really hard to just not let it bother you, but that sounds like the best way to handle it. I think the way you react to it is important, I mean in theory if you don't react they get bored and stop...at least that's what everyone says.

[Barbara.]

I also get teased a lot at school for my looks and my flat as a board built. You shouldn't worry what other people comments on although it does cut deep and hurts. I at one time came home hurt and crying of hurtful comments, but at the end of the day I have self love and lessens the pain. Just love yourself of who you are and worry less of what people comments on.

[Lucy G]

I also get teased a lot at school for my looks and my flat as a board built. You shouldn't worry what other people comments on although it does cut deep and hurts. I at one time came home hurt and crying of hurtful comments, but at the end of the day I have self love and lessens the pain. Just love yourself of who you are and worry less of what people comments on.

When I was quite young like 11, it used to bother me more, probably because I was conscious of the fact I was almost unlike any other of my friends but also strangely coz I was secretly smiling inside because I had something they didn't so the hurt kinda went away. Although I feel I'm far too big for my age (and general size) I feel less bad about it now I guess. But most of you have said that girls can be bitchy far more than boys. I guess boys just oggle over us and get turned on or something.

[Desdemona]

I know what you are going through. My tits went from nothing to 32d in a year between 12 and 13. Boys would tease me and grab them and it was really horrible and in the shower after PE The girls would stare at me. They are catching up now though so it has gotten better. It doesn't help that I live with my dad and he is completely oblivious when it comes to girl things so I got a bra way too late.

[leahmae]

I can relate to what you are going through. I developed at a way early age. I remember my friends were really interested in what was going on with my body, I think part of it was jealousy and part of it was curiosity. The attention from the boys was horrible and embarrassing. I can personally say that it gets better as you get older and the other girls start to catch up to you. Believe it or not, the field does level out.

[Fiona2]

But, my solution is to remind myself that I hate having my emotions manipulated by other people more than I hate what they say about me. I can't control what they say, but I can control how I react to it.

I really like this way of thinking. I'm almost 15 and completely flat and I have a lot of muscle tone for a girl. I really don't get teased much but I know other girls can be mean.

[Miss Ophelia]

I was pretty flat to start with and was a bit jealous of some of the other girls, although I didnt make a fuss about it and wasnt rude. Over the course of a year, I really developed and my boobs grew quite a lot and overtook some of the other girls and I found myself on the other end of the stick.

Having said that, I do get some admiring glances now from boys and girls. :)

[Desdemona]

Yeah, actually when I think about it girls might be worse than boys.. I think it's just that the girls want to feel better about their insecurities so they put down everyone else, and that really sucks. I know it's really hard to just not let it bother you, but that sounds like the best way to handle it. I think the way you react to it is important, I mean in theory if you don't react they get bored and stop...at least that's what everyone says.

Female bullying, in my experience, can definitely be more evil than male. Guys don't organize campaigns of terror like chicks do. They fight or hurl insults at the spur of the moment. Girls make plans for long term terror. One tip: get guy friends. It helped me and I could hang with people that were less scheming and who actually like and appreciate that you look good instead of being jealous of it.

[amelia_]

Female bullying, in my experience, can definitely be more evil than male. Guys don't organize campaigns of terror like chicks do. They fight or hurl insults at the spur of the moment. Girls make plans for long term terror. One tip: get guy friends. It helped me and I could hang with people that were less scheming and who actually like and appreciate that you look good instead of being jealous of it.

I think that's a really good idea, I'm friends with a few guys as well and they are pretty chill, there's almost never any drama. Although I imagine there would be times where guys would get a crush on me or one of my friends and get defensive it hasn't actually happened yet lol.

[Desdemona]

I think that's a really good idea, I'm friends with a few guys as well and they are pretty chill, there's almost never any drama. Although I imagine there would be times where guys would get a crush on me or one of my friends and get defensive it hasn't actually happened yet lol.

When I get interested in a guy or him in me, my shyness breaks out and it goes no further. Natural protection. Hah. And sad. I hate myself for it.
But the guys who are properly friend zoned are super nice to hang out with. I have always gotten along better with guys than with girls.

[Anniebanannie]

Female bullying, in my experience, can definitely be more evil than male. Guys don't organize campaigns of terror like chicks do. They fight or hurl insults at the spur of the moment. Girls make plans for long term terror. One tip: get guy friends. It helped me and I could hang with people that were less scheming and who actually like and appreciate that you look good instead of being jealous of it.

That really is a good idea. This experience shouldn't be so hard, but it's like no one (or almost no one) can escape it.

[amelia_]

When I get interested in a guy or him in me, my shyness breaks out and it goes no further. Natural protection. Hah. And sad. I hate myself for it.
But the guys who are properly friend zoned are super nice to hang out with. I have always gotten along better with guys than with girls.

I'm the same way actually. I've had plenty of crushes but when I'm around them it always feels tense and I get so nervous I can't do anything. I'm really awkward :/ I agree with the friend zone though, being around guys that I know and am close with is easy cause there's no pressure or anything.

[LITTLEANGEL19]

Hiya Lucy Hope you are enjoying this GREAT and well-run site, yep VT ROCKS.
I was the opposite I only started puberty at 13 and also got some looks and comments but that was their problem as I was happy with my body and always will be.
Lucy don't let anyone get to you JUST BE PROUD OF YOUR BODY.
Take Care XX

[Desdemona]

I wish I were more like you tbh. Although from the point of looking older than I am, when I was like 11 it made me look as if I was kinda sexual and more advanced which i really wasn't back then

A few more years, and everyone will have tits and it won't matter. Focus on that thought. I really love my body now. I wouldn't mind smaller tits, but I definitely like what I have.

[Suzy1234]

I developed early too Lucy. What kind of advice are you after?

[Atlantis]

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[Cangirl]

I know it sucks and I try not to be like that but yes girls are very mean to each other. Its not something I ever try to do because it seems like there is so much agains us and I dont want to make somebody else feel bad.

Im small up top to but I'm growing and i think its pretty much the same for girls like me and other small girls and girls that are already have woman sized boobs. We both get teased about our bodies and it hurts right?

I hope when everybody is past puberty then the teasing will stop and it wont be such a big deal anymore. Who knows Lucy, maybe some of your friends will end up bigger than you! Hang on :)

[marrisa]

I developed early as well.Girls can be so mean.Like a lot of the other girls have said,they are just jealous.But they will catch up.Don't let them bother you.Puberty is a tough time but it gets much better.Love yourself and your body.

[Atlantis]

I developed early as well.Girls can be so mean.Like a lot of the other girls have said,they are just jealous.But they will catch up.Don't let them bother you.Puberty is a tough time but it gets much better.Love yourself and your body.

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