Only sex...

[SammiB]

Can you have sex with someone without any need for an emotional connection or without really even knowing them? Do you consider oral sex, sex?

[KatieCO2003]

I don't think I could do that. If for no other reason than I feel like I need to trust the other person not to hurt me.Plus, I wouldn't let just anyone see me naked. And yes, I do consider oral to be sex.

[SammiB]

I don't think I could do that. If for no other reason than I feel like I need to trust the other person not to hurt me.Plus, I wouldn't let just anyone see me naked. And yes, I do consider oral to be sex.

Thanks Katie, I respect your opinion

[DerpyGirl]

Definitely not. I'm still a total virgin for that reason. I haven't found that connection yet

[RideOrDie]

I'd have to know the person pretty well to even consider having sex with them, but I can do it without having any emotional connection. It's a lot better if you're dating the person though. It feels more romantic and like you're closer with the person. I don't really consider oral sex. I think oral is more foreplay

[ChloeF]

I don't need to have a real emotional connection but l do need to know and like them before l'll do anything. Oral sex is sex but l don't think of it in the same way as having intercourse.

[Taryn98]

Yes I can have sex without the connection or knowing them, but it's usually not as good. Sometimes I like having sex just to relieve stress, so it doesn't really need to be special.

[Mollypop]

Yes I can have sex without the connection or knowing them, but it's usually not as good. Sometimes I like having sex just to relieve stress, so it doesn't really need to be special.

I'm the same way. It's definitely better with the emotional connection but it doesn't _have_ to be that way. It's like how it is with food...sometimes you're just hungry so you eat something and it's OK. Or you can eat something you really _love_ and it's much better than just getting past being hungry. That doesn't mean you have to starve when the only food around is stuff you like but don't really love.

[Londongirl01]

Having sex with someone you trust and have a connection with is best, for me anyway. I've had just sex only before but its been a bit mechanical and fumbled. Sex with in a relationship is always bettr

[Uniquemind]

Usually an emotional connection must be there and my fear of STI's keeps me pretty conservative, and the fact that I'm in a relationship.


But there are exceptions I've noticed even among girl talk among my friends

Like sometimes if the opportunity to sleep with a famous celebrity crush arose or even just a handsome guy, and a quick observation of them indicates a decent personality (and I mean a quick observation of personality), the panties would drop, perhaps even the risk of bear-back no birth control sex would exist.

Also if after a devastating breakup, sometimes a previously conservative person will go on a sexual wild streak either as a kind of coping mechanism, in search of emotional self-meaning. Same goes for being rebellious against parental rules once more and more freedom is awarded to you as you get older.



Not everyone does this, everyone is different, and even the same person may have sexual standards of behavior change depending on what they experience.


Then there's always that dividing line between your fantasies, and reality, and what in reality you'd make manifest into reality once both the opportunity arises and if the comfort level to make that fantasy become true in a safe environment becomes available.


Those who like risk taking stuff and love that thrill tend to have more sexual partners.


There are some scholarly studies linking risk taking personalities and larger bedroom numbers in a lifetime usually occurring between the teens to mid-twenties.

[Barbara.]

I could never and would never have sex with a guy unless I was romantically in love, which means a connection with him. Oral sex in my opinion is sex as any sexual contact is a form sex.

[KarmenP]

Can you have sex with someone without any need for an emotional connection or without really even knowing them? Do you consider oral sex, sex?
Yes you can those relationships can be hard to find. But those kinds of relationships work if both of you aren't in love. And yes that goes for all kinds of sex.

[Shiny Moon]

Been there, done that, so it's possible, or at least for me it was. I haven't done it with a stranger in like a year or so, but you should be careful if you do it. Having sex with someone you don't know IS risky, even more if neither of you use protection.

[stoneflowe96]

You can have sex without a relationship or emotional feelings, but this is nothing for me. I consider oral sex as sex

[Cute_Jenny]

no, i can not. I would be like a hooker.

[KatieCO2003]

be real you girls get horny too and want to get laid same as guys...

Yes, I get horny. But the thought of being used by a guy like some sort of disposable sex toy thoroughly disgusts me. Maybe that's just me.

Also I'm very small and it would be very easy for a guy to force me to do things and seriously hurt me and there wouldn't be any way for me to stop him. I'm already scared enough by the thought of a guy laying on top of me and sticking himself inside of me. I think if I really liked and trusted a guy, I'd be ok with it. But letting a stranger put me in such a vulnerable position, where I have no control? No. Again, maybe just me.

[ChloeF]

Yes, I get horny. But the thought of being used by a guy like some sort of disposable sex toy thoroughly disgusts me. Maybe that's just me.

Also I'm very small and it would be very easy for a guy to force me to do things and seriously hurt me and there wouldn't be any way for me to stop him. I'm already scared enough by the thought of a guy laying on top of me and sticking himself inside of me. I think if I really liked and trusted a guy, I'd be ok with it. But letting a stranger put me in such a vulnerable position, where I have no control? No. Again, maybe just me.

Being apprehensive because you're fairly petite is understandable but if you were to do it, you're doing it because you're horny and you want to have sex with someone. You're taking advantage of him just as much, if not more than he's taking advantage of you. You want to enjoy yourself so you're going to be active rather than just laying on your back.
You're never someone's sex toy unless you want to be.

[LITTLEANGEL19]

Can you have sex with someone without any need for an emotional connection or without really even knowing them? Do you consider oral sex, sex?

Why would you even want to have sex under the circumstances you describe, As you could be putting yourself in real danger. Yes I would consider oral sex as "sex" but I would NOT consider it as losing your virginity,
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[LanaPole]

Sex and relationships are separate to me. I don't need a connection or know the guy before doing anything sexual. Oral sex is sex I suppose but doesn't count as losing virginity.

[angelamartines]

Can you have sex with someone without any need for an emotional connection or without really even knowing them? Do you consider oral sex, sex?

You sure can... In Sex and the city they talked about it being "good manners" under some circumstances :yeah:

and oral is sex too... To me it's the best possible sex...

Yes, I get horny. But the thought of being used by a guy like some sort of disposable sex toy thoroughly disgusts me. Maybe that's just me.

Also I'm very small and it would be very easy for a guy to force me to do things and seriously hurt me and there wouldn't be any way for me to stop him. I'm already scared enough by the thought of a guy laying on top of me and sticking himself inside of me. I think if I really liked and trusted a guy, I'd be ok with it. But letting a stranger put me in such a vulnerable position, where I have no control? No. Again, maybe just me.

You are stronger than you think... Don't consider yourself a victim! If you want to then just do it and if you dont want to say no and fight back if you have too... Otherwise all sort of douchebags will go after you because they'll see it pretty fast that you consider yourself easy picking... And if you want sex then you're not some disposable whatever... You're a woman with natural needs... That includes eating, breathing, and having some level or "sex happpiness" as my shrink says...

[geanyna]

yes i need emotional connection to have sex... but not necessary love. desire or attraction are also emotional connections.
i dont mind one night stands but from my experience sex is more fulfilling it you know each other.
and no i dont count bjs as sex. otherwise my sex count would go through the roof. bj is something between kissing and sex.

[SamanthaJames]

yes i need emotional connection to have sex... but not necessary love. desire or attraction are also emotional connections.
i dont mind one night stands but from my experience sex is more fulfilling it you know each other.
and no i dont count bjs as sex. otherwise my sex count would go through the roof. bj is something between kissing and sex. How many bj's have you given?

[geanyna]

How many bj's have you given?

three... within last week ;)
enjoying single life.
in my whole life: no idea.
you still know your bj count?

[SamanthaJames]

three... within last week ;)
enjoying single life.
in my whole life: no idea.
you still know your bj count? I love giving bj's and swallowing. I have given alot of them. I'm also single so I can blow anyone I want.

[Candy in CT]

You can but you have to be in what I call "The Mood" Oral is sex. If it make a guy cum it is sex.

[Trish_Lynn]

Being apprehensive because you're fairly petite is understandable but if you were to do it, you're doing it because you're horny and you want to have sex with someone. You're taking advantage of him just as much, if not more than he's taking advantage of you. You want to enjoy yourself so you're going to be active rather than just laying on your back.
You're never someone's sex toy unless you want to be.

What Chloe said...

And true oral sex may be sex but just because I give s guy a BJ doesn't mean I'm going to "have sex" with him.

[yeehaw]

What Chloe said...

And true oral sex may be sex but just because I give s guy a BJ doesn't mean I'm going to "have sex" with him.

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