Can't do more?

[luvhorses4]

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 3 months. I love him alot, like a whole bbunch. And I know he does to, he's proven that over and over in the short amount of time we've been dating.
I have told him that I won't have sex before marriage and he agreed to that. But we try to do other things that dont include sex.
But every time he tries to get me to do something I just can't get in the "mood". I feel awkward and it feels serious so i have a very hard time getting into doing things (further then kissing but less then having sex if that makes sense) and I've told him this and communicated to him but we can't seem to find a way I don't feel awkward. What are some thing we would try? Maybe ways to make it less serious and more fun (I'm the type of person who overthinks everything). Is it normal that nothing really turns me on (only like 1 or 2 things sorta work, I've never been completely turned on I dont think) or is something wrong with me?

Thank you! Any feedback is greatly appreciated

[Just JT]

Couple things come to mind. One, he shouldn't be pressuring you. Your not ready for what ever it is he's trying. But also, even though you live him, you sure your sexually attracted to him?

That opens a can I know but....

[luvhorses4]

Couple things come to mind. One, he shouldn't be pressuring you. Your not ready for what ever it is he's trying. But also, even though you live him, you sure your sexually attracted to him?

That opens a can I know but....

But the thing is I want to do things with him, he's not pressuring me at all but we do discuss it alot.
I'm 100% sure I am sexually attracted to him. Small things he does make me want to do stuff with him but when it comes time to do it i overthink it all.

[Just JT]

But the thing is I want to do things with him, he's not pressuring me at all but we do discuss it alot.
I'm 100% sure I am sexually attracted to him. Small things he does make me want to do stuff with him but when it comes time to do it i overthink it all.

Are you 100% sure of your sexuality?
Some people just don't like sex

[jamie_n5]

I think that you being up tight and committed to not having sex before marriage may make you less likely to get turned on. Your inhibitions are most likely blocking a strong sex drive. I also think we boys have maybe a stronger sex drive and tend to think with our little head instead of the big one most of the time. Hopefully you will get along and he will understand. You will know when the time is right for you. Just keep trusting your instincts.

[luvhorses4]

Are you 100% sure of your sexuality?
Some people just don't like sex

Yes 100% sure I'm straight. I want to have sex when im married and i am attracted to him in alot kf different ways. I just get nervous and overthink (I have anxiety idk if that could be it) when the time comes to try something

I think that you being up tight and committed to not having sex before marriage may make you less likely to get turned on. Your inhibitions are most likely blocking a strong sex drive. I also think we boys have maybe a stronger sex drive and tend to think with our little head instead of the big one most of the time. Hopefully you will get along and he will understand. You will know when the time is right for you. Just keep trusting your instincts.


I've definitely thought about my intentions of waiting until I get married are "in the way" of my sex drive. But i never ment to intentionally shut down every time we try something

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[jamie_n5]

Well like I said you will know when the time is right for you so don't let it spoil your romance.