getting over a hopeless crush

[euan35]

I'll try to keep this as short as possible. Sorry in advance!

So basically, there was this guy in my school who was very attractive and really nice. He and I never talked, we weren't friends or anything, it was that type of crush where he'd pass by the halls and I'd get all nervous and try to steal a look (yeah cheesy i know). He was quite popular so I'd see him around quite a bit.

Anyway it's because of him that I figured out that i was bi. He graduated yr 12, and now he's away and sometimes I still think about him. I get jealous when my friends bring up the fact that since he's now of age and starting his 1st year in uni (college), he'll be probably have casual sex and etc.

I know that I had an irrational crush on him, and I feel kind of pathetic because of it . I think I like a new person now, but I still can't get him out of my mind.

I guess my question is, do you think I'll be able to get over him and not think of him ever? or are my friends right in thinking that since he made me realise i was bi, he'll never leave my thoughts? Also, any tips on getting over someone?

Thanks so much guys, sorry for the really long post :) :) :)

[Desynchronized]

Hey man it'll probably go away. All you need is more time and things to keep yourself busy with.
Also i'm kinda sorry to say but what your friends are telling you seems bs. He might just hold a special place in your mind. But no way its gonna clog up your brain forever.

[Zachary G]

Its always hard to get over your first real crush, its been years since I had mine, but I still think about him from time to time and that is okay. You will eventually get over him with time, but you will never forget him.

[Just JT]

Agreed,you'll never forget your first crush. But you'll get over him eventually
In reality, to help that, maybe try and make contact with him. If he doesn't respond or rejects any attempts by you to talk or be friends whatever, might just sway your opinion of him.
Or maybe start something you never imagined

[deleted101]

yea bro, don't stress too much about it! good luck...

[euan35]

thanks for all of the support guys! :)

[Emilyyy]

Yeah as others have said, these things take time so just try not to think about him and keep yourself busy with other things and the feeling will fade :)

[mick01]

Ya, crushes suck when you're in the middle of one but they do fade away. And then it's like "wtf was I thinking?" And I wouldn't assume you were bi just because you were either crushing or infatuated with one guy. Were you sexually attracted to him or other guys? Do you still want to have sex with another guy? You should probably try to figure some of this stuff out before deciding what your sexuality is.

[euan35]

Ya, crushes suck when you're in the middle of one but they do fade away. And then it's like "wtf was I thinking?" And I wouldn't assume you were bi just because you were either crushing or infatuated with one guy. Were you sexually attracted to him or other guys? Do you still want to have sex with another guy? You should probably try to figure some of this stuff out before deciding what your sexuality is.

Yeah dude, I'm pretty sure I'm bi. I find guys attractive more than girls (I think I'm crushing on a new guy now), but I find girls attractive too. Trust me, I've deliberated with myself about this quite a bit im fairly certain haha

[mick01]

I just thought you were basing or questioning your sexuality on just the one crush. But I guess not haha. And crushes really do suck, so be careful.

[euan35]

I just thought you were basing or questioning your sexuality on just the one crush. But I guess not haha. And crushes really do suck, so be careful.

Thanks for the advice bro :)