Go back to my ex or move on

[goldfish23]

I am so confused
So I broke up with my boyfriend of two and a half years last September when we both went to uni, mainly due to distance. Since then I feel like I have been through the worst time of my life. I've had problems with alcohol which led to me being in pretty awful situations, one of which was me being raped at university. I felt like I was completely on my own as I tended to shut myself in my room and not go to my lectures for weeks on end. So my state of mind has not exactly been great. However recently (the past month) I have started speaking with my ex again. It has been the best feeling to catch up and rekindle old feelings again, however it doesn't quite feel the same as I feel like the trust is not there so much anymore. He knows about what I have gone through since our breakup and genuinely wants to be with me again. I do love my ex, however, just before we started speaking again I did meet someone else. At first it was just friends but recently we confessed we both do like each other. I have known him less than two months and I feel like I have a lot of trust to build with this guy, which I find extremely difficult, but I'm quite attracted to him. He is kind of like a breathe of fresh air after a stale end to a relationship and forced conversation. He compliments me and always seems interested in me which isn't what I was used to with my ex. However I also feel like maybe when you start speaking to someone that is what is like when they want to win you over? and since I was with my ex for so long, perhaps those original efforts stopped after a while and maybe that would happen with this guy in the long run? I feel like if I was to cut things off with my ex for this new guy I would lose him forever then, and when I picture my future in my head he is in it.
Then I think, maybe at the moment I am just better off on my own whilst I sort my head out, I still feel pretty unstable to be entering into another relationship or letting someone (back) into my life again. Idk if I am looking for advice or just somewhere to rant haha, but there it is

[Just JT]

Being a victim like that and having trust issues is common. Been there. Blows.

Think you already gave yourself the info you need to make a decision. Your feeling unstable, are you taking to someone about the rape?

I'd explain to your ex exactly how your feeling. If he truly cares for you he'll understand, perhaps it's to much to fast for right now.

The other guys....how much you share is up to you. Opening up to someone knew is hard I know, but if entering a serious relationship, he should have an understanding of some stuff to some degree. Not everything, but some, so he knows some
Stuff might be sensitive or something

[Emilyyy]

It's a pretty sticky situation this. From what you wrote I think you need to take time out to really weigh up the two options. You and your ex clearly still have some flame alive so to speak and I think it could work out between you two again but if you really like this new guy then maybe it's time to move on. Personally, seeing as you seem really worried about losing your ex for good, I would maybe give that another try.

[JakeyZ]

For god sake just take a minute without him. Think about if it's what you really want. You've already experienced a relationship with him so you know what it's like.