Popularity - so easy, but so hard

[Blablabla36489]

Hi, guys! I'm 13 and 1/2 and go to the 7th grade. I don't know if I have already posted topic similar to this, but never mind.

I'm, as I have said, the 7th grade and in my school, there are a lot of popular people. Now, I've always wanted to be one of them or just know them and hang out with them, but the problem with me is that I'm too much shy. Some of my class mates (which I only talk with in school) are kinda popular and know everyone in higher grades. When I'm with them and they talk with some of their friends, even when I have chance to tell something, I lose my thounge because of shyness. I don't hang out often because of it. It's my cross and I have to destroy it in some views.

What are your opinions? How can I get closer to them? I really like to hang out and talk with people. How can I invite someone out so it doesn't seem weird?

[ugaboy]

I think you just need to really work on not being so shy. One of my friends was like that, but he got over it. We kinda pushed him to get over it, as me and another friend decided we would ask what he thought about certain things, and we waited for his answer. It took some time, but he is not at all shy now. If you have a really close friend that you can talk to about it, they might be able to help you in the same way.

Inviting someone to hangout does not seem weird at all. Just do it - that may be all that you need to open up some.

Good luck.

[Rdsxbaseballfan]

I was shy all my life, I'm a senior in high school now and I still am on some occasions... The way I got over it was by a friend. I wouldn't say I was popular but I was friends with a lot of the popular kids because of sports and such but I mainly hung out with the less popular kids because they were my friends from the beginning. One of the popular kids, freshman and sophomore year of high school, would just kind of Harass me (in a good way), util I got over it... Some times you just have to ask, and risk getting the answer you won't like( I have to follow my own advice when I get back to school), my friend once told me(the popular one) just go up to some random person and say, "do you want to have sex" although I never said that, it got out of my shell... It's difficult to break the shyness but it will happen and I've it does, it will be easier and easier.

[frisbee25]

Hi, guys! I'm 13 and 1/2 and go to the 7th grade. I don't know if I have already posted topic similar to this, but never mind.

I'm, as I have said, the 7th grade and in my school, there are a lot of popular people. Now, I've always wanted to be one of them or just know them and hang out with them, but the problem with me is that I'm too much shy. Some of my class mates (which I only talk with in school) are kinda popular and know everyone in higher grades. When I'm with them and they talk with some of their friends, even when I have chance to tell something, I lose my thounge because of shyness. I don't hang out often because of it. It's my cross and I have to destroy it in some views.

What are your opinions? How can I get closer to them? I really like to hang out and talk with people. How can I invite someone out so it doesn't seem weird?


Dude I am in 7 th grade. Just say something that is in an agruement that will make you popular. Or just help everybody

[xandyx]

Hey I'm in 8th and I guess popular, but not like the most popular. Idk... But anyway, just be yourself and don't worry what people think and people will naturally feel comfortable with you and want to hang with you. I guess sometimes you have to fake being confident until you start to feel it for real. Just make yourself talk even if its uncomfortable and it will get easier. Good luck...

[backjruton]

I'm popular but for the wrong reasons.

I'd say it's better to have your own little friendship group but also be the kind of person that is known by the whole school XD

I've never been with any of my friends outside of the "workplace" though. I get anxious, don't think I'd be able to handle it either for some reason

[Fanta_Lover44]

I'm the same, i'm quite shy but sometimes you just got to think of it as a few seconds to shine, and try talk as much as you can without boring people. Sometimes its easy sometimes its hard. You just got to try and get out of being shy though...

[SciMassKid]

Trust me you do not want to be one of the popular kids.

[ScottishCanary]

As other people have already said, don't try too hard to be super popular. It is far better and easier just to be yourself, that way you are not feeling like you have to put on a particular personality just to speak to friends. Though just having confidence in yourself helps a lot. When I started at my new school in Scotland I had no friends and had to just use my confidence to speak to new people and build friendships. Good luck, you can do it!

[ksdnfkfr]

I'm not sure how being popular works. Seems you either have a knack for it or you don't. My one and only friend is fairly popular and has a groups of buddies. Now I hang with them when he does, because I am his buddy. But I am not one of them. So it's actually kinda lonely being with them. They are nice to me, but I just do not connect with them because of my autism. A good benefit is that technically I am one of them, because of my friend, and they will always stick up for me if anyone tries to bully me - which the entire school knows.
But I can not say exactly what it is about my buddy that makes him popular.
He is good looking and has charisma, so maybe that's it, idk.

[NeuroTiger]

I'm quite a popular guy.
I try to click to everyone since my objective is-to make a difference in the lives of people around me.
So, probably...this was somewhat my driving force to become popular.
Remember, popularity is earned.