Attracted to people too young for me?

[CynicalHats]

Okay so I'm gonna try to keep this short but I really really really need help. So, I'm 17 years old and bisexual. For the last year I've suffered extreme anxiety about being attracted to people too young for me. For the entire duration of this year I was never ACTUALLY aroused, it was just anxiety that I *might* be aroused. It's actually a type of OCD I believe. But anyway, I was never actually aroused, and I would always subject myself to "testing" to see if I was aroused by imagining having sex with them, and I never was aroused.

But anyway, a year later, I was sitting next to this 13 year old kid, and I was having anxiety like normal, but then he got a boner. I saw this, and I immediately also got a boner. I was genuinely aroused at the sight of his boner. Now he is way too young for me. I would never do anything to him. I don't want to be attracted to him...but for some reason I was aroused...

The good thing is I've never had any impulses or anything. I didn't feel the want or need to touch him, or do anything bad to him. In fact, even thinking about having sex with him makes my stomach curl. It just seems so wrong and is NOT a turn on.

But I don't get it. Am I really a pervert? Why did that turn me on? I'm so scared. Please help.

[Vegas2933]

If your eyes see something sexual no matter the gender or age, you'll get a boner. The penis is EXTREMLY sensitive, and can be made hard by the slightest physical contact or sexual thought. So don't brand yourself a pervert, he was sitting RIGHT NEXT to you! It was inevitable...

[pjones]

as Vegas2933 says anything can arouse us. seeing another boy with an erection, no matter what age he is, is definitely arousing to me and obviously for you too. being bi we're attracted to other boys to begin with so try not to worry about it.

[CynicalHats]

Thank you guys, this made me feel a bit better. Does anyone else have any advice?

[zzzzzzzzzz]

It's normal. You're not alone too, It happens. We all get boners at the worst of times sometimes. It just a case of trying to "think unsexy thoughts" when you get one.

[Jrunner]

That could happen even to a straight male teenager, because as someone pointed out, ANYTHING the slightest bit sexual can turn us on. Now, if when you are 25 the same thing happens... I dunno.

[Coolteenboy]

Horny is horny, regardless of age.
Most guys if they admit it, get turned on or hornybwhen they know another dude is boned.
But yes, 13 is too young to mess around. Juss go somewhere and jo to get rid of it.

[James2003]

No one can help who they are attracted to. Some guys like girls, some guys like other guys. Some people are attracted to the same race as they are, some like people of other races. The same is true of age. When you get older it matters less. My parents are 10 years apart and no one thinks anything of it but I have a couple of friends who are freshmen in HS and if they started dating a senior people would talk. There's a big difference between 13 and 17 as far as being mature goes. I wouldn't beat yourself up about being attracted or even turned on when you saw him bone up - I think that's a pretty normal reaction. Our hormones are tuned into anything sexual. The important thing is that you didn't have any impulses and didn't act on the attraction. I think you're just fine!

[ShineintheDark]

I don't think there's any proof of you being a pervert, just turned on at something sexual. Either way, as long as you know that you'd never be sexually attracted to someone that un-matured, you're fine.

[volleyballer13]

I wouldnt worry about it because lets say you were 25 and he was 21 (4 year difference) thats not a big deal. As long as you dont go forcing yourself on anyone that young or whatever then you will be fine. A four year difference once both people are at similar maturity (after puberty) it becomes no issue at all.

[eric2001]

Austin, I think you should find a boyfriend who'll then take up all your time and attention. When you do that, your attraction to younger dudes will start to fade away.

[Zachary G]

No one can help who they are attracted to. Some guys like girls, some guys like other guys. Some people are attracted to the same race as they are, some like people of other races. The same is true of age. When you get older it matters less. My parents are 10 years apart and no one thinks anything of it but I have a couple of friends who are freshmen in HS and if they started dating a senior people would talk. There's a big difference between 13 and 17 as far as being mature goes. I wouldn't beat yourself up about being attracted or even turned on when you saw him bone up - I think that's a pretty normal reaction. Our hormones are tuned into anything sexual. The important thing is that you didn't have any impulses and didn't act on the attraction. I think you're just fine!

James2003 has some really good points here, mainly No one can help who they are attracted to and I wouldn't beat yourself up about being attracted or even turned on when you saw him bone up - I think that's a pretty normal reaction.

[BoyOBoy]

its pretty normal

[ska8er]

Ur not a pervert. U just randomly get
aroused by sights-motions and thoughts
that ur mind plays tricks with. Ur not alone.
We all r going thru this. Just don't act on
some of ur impulses that u feel r wrong.

[Atlantis]

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