Crush

[GayAussie45]

So I have a crush on a guy at my school at the moment and we are both good friends, but I was wondering how to get closer to him for him to like me. He has said previously that he is straight however a lot of my friends think he's gay.

What are some ways that I can get closer to him and get him to try and like like me? He's really cute and I want to try and get ins with him.

People think he's gay because of the way he acts sometimes, like he sometimes slaps peoples buts during school (all boys school) and just the things he's interested in (dance, singing, theatre).

We're good friends but not as close as some of his other friends, Ive tried to have a sleepover with him but it has never worked out for whatever reason. What are some ways to get with him or get him to say he's gay?

[Straya]

try and do things where its just the two of you to get closer to him

[Atlantis]

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Relationships and Dating

[mick01]

I've heard people say, to HAVE good friends, you have to BE a good friend. In my opinion, trying to get closer with a guy "to get with him or get him to say he's gay" is not the way to a close friendship. Instead of projecting on him what you want him to be, or what you want to do with him, just accept him for who he is. And if he says he straight, just accept it as any good friend would. And if he senses your pushing a little too hard, he may keep you at arms length away (like the sleepovers that have never worked out???).

[Elysium]

I completely agree with Mick. Besides, if someone says they're straight, you should take them at their word and respect that, not act on unfounded rumors and suspicions to try to get him to "convert" or change his mind or something. By all means you can be friends with the guy, but you may want to try getting over your crush.

[Desynchronized]

He's claiming to be straight. You gotta respect it dude. You can't do anything over that.
Also all the things your friends are considering him gay for(singing, dancing, theatre) aren't even any measurements to consider people gay. If a guy sings it just doesn't make him gay. It means he likes singing.
That being said become good friends with him. Getting to know him better would prolly go a long way.

[ska8er]

U cant force or make him say he is gay or
ur going to lose him as a friend. The best
thing is to continue to b his friend. U say
he is into dance-theater-singing-y don't u
get involved in the same in school and u
will b closer to him and have something in
common.

[Fourth]

Just because your friends say that he is gay does not mean he is. Maybe he is really straight like he says or maybe he is shy to admit he is gay, but that does not mean you need to force him to open up to you. The only way to know him better and get closer to him is to be a real sincere friend, and be the best one out there.

[Just JT]

I've heard people say, to HAVE good friends, you have to BE a good friend. In my opinion, trying to get closer with a guy "to get with him or get him to say he's gay" is not the way to a close friendship. Instead of projecting on him what you want him to be, or what you want to do with him, just accept him for who he is. And if he says he straight, just accept it as any good friend would. And if he senses your pushing a little too hard, he may keep you at arms length away (like the sleepovers that have never worked out???).

I completely agree with Mick. Besides, if someone says they're straight, you should take them at their word and respect that, not act on unfounded rumors and suspicions to try to get him to "convert" or change his mind or something. By all means you can be friends with the guy, but you may want to try getting over your crush.

He's claiming to be straight. You gotta respect it dude. You can't do anything over that.
Also all the things your friends are considering him gay for(singing, dancing, theatre) aren't even any measurements to consider people gay. If a guy sings it just doesn't make him gay. It means he likes singing.
That being said become good friends with him. Getting to know him better would prolly go a long way.

U cant force or make him say he is gay or
ur going to lose him as a friend. The best
thing is to continue to b his friend. U say
he is into dance-theater-singing-y don't u
get involved in the same in school and u
will b closer to him and have something in
common.

Just because your friends say that he is gay does not mean he is. Maybe he is really straight like he says or maybe he is shy to admit he is gay, but that does not mean you need to force him to open up to you. The only way to know him better and get closer to him is to be a real sincere friend, and be the best one out there.

Imo these are the advise that can be given on this.
Your "friends" are really out of touch with reality, and give shitty ass advise on someone else's sexuality. Which is none of their business.

On you getting closer as friends? That just takes time, and not being pushy. That's all, common interests, common thinking, and enjoying each other's complaint. I got plenty of straight friends. Many I'd hop into bed with in a minute lol!!! But I also know we probably wouldn't be good friends after. And for
A few minutes of pleasure it's not worth the loss

A true friend has no other motive in mind other than being friends, and someone who is considered a trusted friend is who he would, maybe, tell he's gay or bi. But that's his choosing, when he's ready.

Don't go converting him, you'll both loose out

[JakeyZ]

Only Perdue him if you know he's gay directly from him.