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Meganium
March 13th, 2017, 01:41 PM
There's this girl who I'm into, who I haven't had the pleasure of seeing super often. A friend of mine set me up with a couple of trial runs to interact with her more closely, but outside of those two instances, i only really see her in hallways and in passing around campus.

In the few times I have met with her though, I feel like we've hit it off pretty well, and unless I just really can't gauge well, I think it's safe to say that she enjoyed my company.

I've been building up the nerve to ask her out for about a month now, and I finally have it, but I've been focusing a bit much on planning and shit and I'm afraid of picking a boring spot to hang and shit like that.

However, that's besides the point. My main concern for the moment is the action of asking her out in the first place. There's a local flower show in the city this weekend, and I'd like to ask her to go there with me followed by lunch and maybe some wandering if it goes well enough. So at least I have a plan.

But again, the odds of me seeing her and catching her alone to ask her out in person are slim. And just a few hours ago I found out that it'd be more difficult because campus will be closed due to snow, and I'm only thee for two days a week.

So a whole bunch of things are running through my mind: "Would it be too late to wait until Thursday to ask cause that's when I'm next able to ask in person?"

"Should I wait for a different opportunity entirely?"

"Given how quiet she is, would she respond well to even being asked out by a guy as loud as myself?"

And more. A lot of them are sorta baseless, but they're still lingering in my mind and it's pretty damn annoying.

I feel like the easiest route to doing this would be to ask her out via text, but I'm not sure if that's an appropriate way of going about it. I've been pretty much isolated from girls for all of high school, so I don't know if that's a sign of something negative or cowardice or something like that.

Also, I don't have her number, so I'd have to ask a mutual friend for it, so I don't know if that would come off as creepy, or something, I really have NO idea what the hell im doing here.

Any advice I can get would be greatly appreciated. Regardless of what happens, I'd just like everything I need to make sure that I make the most of his chance. Never really had to gall to go for a girl before, so this is all new territory. Thanks!

ClaraWho
March 13th, 2017, 01:59 PM
Seems odd you've been 'isolated from girls'. Just remember to treat her like you would anyone else you liked, I see a lot of nonsense on here about 'girls having secret codes' and such. Anyway, in answer to your question I don't see any issue with texting if you never get to see each other in person. It'd only be weird if you texted her whilst seeing her regularly in person. Start it off by saying something like 'We never get a chance to talk, how are you, etc', then go ahead and ask if she wants to go out somewhere. There's a chance she might think as friends, so play it by ear and if in doubt make it obvious in a non-creepy way.

~ Clara

Meganium
March 13th, 2017, 06:51 PM
Seems odd you've been 'isolated from girls'

Yeaaaaahhhhh. I went to an all boys boarding school. There were trips to sister schools but they were spread pretty thin, to say the least. Plus the girls there weren't very nice anyway.

As for everything else, Thanks!

Meganium
March 15th, 2017, 10:58 AM
Just an update. Asked her out and she said yes! Thanks!

Croconaw
March 16th, 2017, 01:51 AM
Congratulations! :)

IzzyB
March 24th, 2017, 07:55 AM
Haha! Yay! Happy ending!

Katrinchen
March 24th, 2017, 12:04 PM
Haha - YESSS - Congratualtions :*