Do not take what you have lighlty

[Stronk Serb]

So I have seen a recurring trend in my love life. With one of my exes, after 14 months of dating we started to grow apart a bit because of school etc. We just did not pay attention to eachother for the next two months and even though together, we were lonely. I decided that it was a phase and that it will be over in a few weeks after my schedule is all clear, but she found a cure for her loneliness in the arms of another guy, she cheated on me. Then with my another ex, we were dating for about a month until she started behaving like shit to me which lead to an argument and our break-up. I would blame myself partially but I literally did nothing wrong. I was always there for her, always listening and she started behaving like shit and trying to break some friendships, I choose friends over girls any time. I broke up with her because I felt lonely during the last week of our relationship and she behaved like I am her personal dog. The moral of the stories is, treat your more significant other how you would like to be treated. For a relationship you need two, not one willing and one unwilling.

[Just JT]

I'm sorry all that happened. I think when stuff goes bad sometimes people don't know how to handle it and try and find any reason to make something happen like a fight to break up. And never really deal with the "why" part of the problems. But sometimes it's not worth it either

Good luck with the future search if there is one

[Croconaw]

I'm sorry that happened. It is very sad. You don't know what you have until you lose it all. I am so lucky my girlfriend has given me so many chances. That must mean we are meant to be. I agree that a relationship should never be taken lightly.

[Phosphene]

I've never had a painful breakup like you describe and I'm sorry you had to go through that, but I'm happy that you've learned a valuable lesson from them. Your view on how a good relationship should work is so right; I'm sure that in the future you'll find someone with more respect for you.

[Stronk Serb]

This was more meant as advice to you all. I found someone a few days ago so it's all good.

[jamie_n5]

That is so true. In any relationship or friendship or just generally to anyone you should treat people the way that you want to be treated. Everyone deserves your respect until the point where they do something that would cause you to loose that respect.

[Beauregard]

Yeah sometimes we don't treasure a relationship till it's over.
I have my first serious one and I hope it works out well.