do you ever flirt with ppl that you don't want a relationship with?

[biancas]

i have a boyfriend but i like flirting still, it feels nice, not sure why!
none of the guys i flirt with are people i'd want to kiss/date, but i still feel nice flirting :)
does anyone know what i mean?
when we were doing a group activity in class on monday i was sitting with my knees up and boy was facing me and looking at my undies.
i wear jeans when i'm with my boyfriend to stop us from going fast so i guess its fun to show my undies to a non-bf cos it won't go anywhere lol.
i sound really evil now that i read it :(

[Croconaw]

I would never flirt with anyone I am not dating. If you flirt with people you aren't dating, it's like you're playing a game with them. That's completely wrong, unless of course you tell them you have no intentions to date them. Unfortunately, I wouldn't be okay if my significant other was flirting with other girls. I would be mad at her.

[Hideous]

Honestly, if I ever caught my boyfriend flirting with other guys, I would back out. You're with me for a reason, and if I'm not good enough on the outside or inside, might as well just leave. Otherwise, staying single is the best way to go if you're flirting with other people or a polygamous relationship.

[RJH98]

I don't intentionaly, but girls have told me that I have a way of talking and moving that sometimes comes off as flurtatious, eventhough I don't intend to be flurtatious with them. This especially happens when I am a little drunk. But I am single anyway so being flurtatious is a good thing. It did lead to me making out with a few girls that I wasn't necessarily interested in, but I didn't mind either...

[biancas]

i definitely won't flirt anymore :(
i'm not sure why i did it :(
i'd never go nude for anyone (even my bf, unless we'r married of course!), so i don't know why i like my knees up in class :(

[Phosphene]

I would never flirt with someone I don't want to have a relationship with. Tbh I think it's really shallow and especially disrespectful if you have a boyfriend/girlfriend. I know I'd get really upset with my partner if I caught them flirting with someone else... it would make me insecure and I would start questioning my partner's sincerity, and probably go so far as to break it off.

[jamie_n5]

Sure I flirt with people all the time. I love to interact socially with people all the time. I am a waiter so I am constantly dealing with people. It is a blast getting reactions from people. Makes for great tips too.

[Melodic]

I'd never flirt with someone I'm not interested in. Recently, someone kept flirting with me and leading me on despite not ever wanting to commit. It hurt me pretty badly and made me think I wasn't good enough. So I'd never do that to another person.

If you are a flirt, just be honest about your intentions. If you can't do that, you shouldn't be flirting in the first place.

[Beauregard]

I don't flirt with other girls when I'm in a relationship.This would be mean and I wouldn't want my girlfriend to flirt with other guys.

When I'm single I do flirt but not with someone who isn't my type or anything. Sure it can be that it turns out the girl I flirt with isn't the right and I lose interest but I never flirt with people I know I'm not interested in from the beginning. It would feel wrong.

[ClaraWho]

Not sure I would call flashing your underwear at strangers 'flirting', more 'acting sexual towards others'. If you are deliberately performing an action for the purposes of gaining a sexual reaction from others, or yourself, then I'd consider that cheating even if not physical. For example, imagine you were sending that as photos to other guys. Dress it up how you want, it isn't being faithful to your partner/relationship.

I agree entirely with a lot of what has already been said, particularly the post by Hideous.

~ Clara

[Trivium]

I love to flirt. It's natural to flirt, it makes both involved feel really good.

[Shiny Moon]

I don't. I do it only if I'm interested in the other person.

[yeehaw]

Some people tend to say I flirt with a lot of people but honestly that's just how I am naturally, and I don't mean it in that kind of way it's just me being friendly. I'm friends with a lot of guys and most people tend to think I'm trying to get in their pants but that's not the case. There have been some times where people have taken my friendliness the wrong way and have been accused of leading them on etc etc.

[biancas]

Dress it up how you want, it isn't being faithful to your partner/relationship.


i agree its definitely my worst behaviour.
don't even find the guys attractive i've even done it with adults who i'd never think of as a lover!
just do without thinking when my legs feel strange :(
i will not do it ever again!

[The1uwant]

i have a boyfriend but i like flirting still, it feels nice, not sure why!
none of the guys i flirt with are people i'd want to kiss/date, but i still feel nice flirting :)
does anyone know what i mean?
when we were doing a group activity in class on monday i was sitting with my knees up and boy was facing me and looking at my undies.
i wear jeans when i'm with my boyfriend to stop us from going fast so i guess its fun to show my undies to a non-bf cos it won't go anywhere lol.
i sound really evil now that i read it :(

i'm the same way

[biancas]

i'm the same way

me too :yes: or i was but not from now on :)

[Uniquemind]

Some people tend to say I flirt with a lot of people but honestly that's just how I am naturally, and I don't mean it in that kind of way it's just me being friendly. I'm friends with a lot of guys and most people tend to think I'm trying to get in their pants but that's not the case. There have been some times where people have taken my friendliness the wrong way and have been accused of leading them on etc etc.


I relate to this.

[lliam]

In my case, flirting is just a spontaneous two-way situation, often toocwith girls, which I don't know or even will ever see again. Therefore, flirting doesn't necessarily mean that I've a serious interest in the person with whom I'm flirting.

And I suppose that works for the girls, I flirt with, as well.

[beckiirs]

I don't think flirting is a big deal, it's fun and it feels good. No one should have any expectations of you just because you flirt. I feel it is healthy and normal to flirt with other people as long as you know where the boundaries are

[Emilyyy]

I used to but don't really do this any more as it leads to hassle. Plus if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend then you really shouldn't be flirting with others, that's just a whole load of bad stuff ready to explode

[bunnyhabit]

i love to flirt with sexy body language at everyone i meet.

[JakeyZ]

I do but never if I'm in a relationship

[ShineintheDark]

Well there are different types of flirting. Most is fairly harmless and fun, which is why I sometimes jokingly flirt. More serious, persistant flirting is usually when it crosses a line. It hardly ever reaches that stage in non-romantic settings anyways

[Microcosm]

To intentionally flirt with someone with which you don't want a relationship is manipulative because the intention is clearly to have personal needs for attention met at the expense and desperation of others. It is leading someone on, and that is inconsiderate. Not to mention it is disrespectful and violative of the commitment of a relationship. Selfish and shameful, if you ask me.

Edit: It may be wise to define to what extent I consider conversation to become "flirting" here: Showing someone your "undies" is flirting, acting as if you would enjoy hooking up with them when in reality you would not do so, and teasing them or making clear, legitimate sexual advances on them with no intent to follow up.

[SethfromMI]

I try my very best to not flirt with anyone I am not interested in/know there could never be a relationship with. I will not lie, I have bee guilty of doing this before, but I try my best to not lead people on. it is not fair to them

[geanyna]

i have a boyfriend but i like flirting still, it feels nice, not sure why!
none of the guys i flirt with are people i'd want to kiss/date, but i still feel nice flirting :)
does anyone know what i mean?
when we were doing a group activity in class on monday i was sitting with my knees up and boy was facing me and looking at my undies.
i wear jeans when i'm with my boyfriend to stop us from going fast so i guess its fun to show my undies to a non-bf cos it won't go anywhere lol.
i sound really evil now that i read it :(

no, doesnt sound evil at all, just fun. im the same. i love flirting with anyone who has a nice charisma. just looking into eyes, smiling... and i love showing off too. just feels goooood.