How to get better with girls

[mvsca]

Hi all,

I am a 16 year old boy. I will turn 17 in June

I have never had a girlfriend before, so I have never kissed a girl before, nor did any sexual things. I have liked a lot of girls in the past, but they never like me back. I don't know why that is the case.
I am certainly not ugly or unfriendly, but apparently I am not attractive enough. My friends seem to just be better with girls I guess.

At school I have a reputation being one of the best students, which may be a bit unattractive. Furthermore I don't go out often, but when I do I hate myself for not being able to even talk to any girls and kiss. Maybe this is because I am not experienced and I think that I am not good enough for those girls.

Despite all this, I am really longing for a relationship or any love. But on the other side, I am always really horny and would like to have a 'friend with benefits' or just a casual one night stand.

Could someone give any advice on how to get better with girls or anything other? I am pretty desperate

Thanks!

[Blank_]

The best thing you could do is be confident in yourself and talk to them, if you stop seeing them as a potential date and instead just as another one of your friends, you will find that it is a lot easier to talk to them. You should also not feel pressured to have sex or get a date/kiss during high school, as you said you are a great student, and you should instead focus on doing well in school and getting into the college of your dreams. High School relationships RARELY ever last, so at this point it may not be worth it to try and establish one.

Also, I doubt others see your intelligence as unattractive, and if they do, then they are clearly not the one for you. Never be afraid to be yourself!

[Jtyler]

Well I'm in the exact same situation haha but things seem to be changing a bit now that I've opened up and started talking to more people

[Deivis]

Just be friendly polite and you will find friends. Then you can start talking about what you intrested invite on date. If you want smt more be open and say if she does like that she will accept your offer. Don't be afraid of rejection gl.

[mvsca]

I have enough friends, and also friends who are a girl, but I am always being friendzoned by those girls..

That's why I think I should act differently around a girl I like than around a friend.

[scott2002]

Here's something my dad told me when I was in 7th grade and I was having trouble making friends. (And I think it applies twice as much to making friends with girls than with other guys):

Try much harder to be INTERESTED, and not to be INTERESTING.

What he meant was, avoid like hell talking about YOURSELF, and trying to impress people (and girls) by telling them what you feel are interesting things about yourself. Spend a LOT more time being interested in THEM. Ask questions and give compliments.

This admittedly can take some practice because it HAS to come off as very natural. But it has helped me tremendously in making friends, both male AND female.

[zzzzzzzzzz]

Here's something my dad told me when I was in 7th grade and I was having trouble making friends. (And I think it applies twice as much to making friends with girls than with other guys):

Try much harder to be INTERESTED, and not to be INTERESTING.

What he meant was, avoid like hell talking about YOURSELF, and trying to impress people (and girls) by telling them what you feel are interesting things about yourself. Spend a LOT more time being interested in THEM. Ask questions and give compliments.

This admittedly can take some practice because it HAS to come off as very natural. But it has helped me tremendously in making friends, both male AND female.

This is actually pretty good advice. I might use it myself!