He sorta cancelled our date?

[Melodic]

So I met a guy on Tinder a few days ago. We've been really hitting it off. He shares my passion for music/theater and is looking for a serious relationship. We vibe well together.

Anyways, he asked me on a date last night and I thought he meant another night so we started discussing it but he wanted me to meet him last night which I misunderstood. I had to volunteer straight after work and I told him that.

So anyways, I apologized and asked if we could meet another night which he brought up tonight and I agreed. We haven't discussed it since and no plans were set. He's been talking to me off and on throughout the day and hasn't mentioned the date.. at all. I thought about bringing it up but I don't want to seem needy.


Did he get nervous or what? He seemed like he really wanted to go on a date with me.

I haven't really online dated before and I don't want to put myself in a place where I get hurt.

[ska8er]

I really cant follow ur post but u only know
him a few days I think its too early to meet
straight off but explain to him that somehow
plans got mixed up and could we make another
time to get together. If hes interested it will not
matter what happened. If he ghosts u then lose
him. IDK if u r meeting online or in real life that's
y I cant follow ur post. Be careful.

[Melodic]

I really cant follow ur post but u only know
him a few days I think its too early to meet
straight off but explain to him that somehow
plans got mixed up and could we make another
time to get together. If hes interested it will not
matter what happened. If he ghosts u then lose
him. IDK if u r meeting online or in real life that's
y I cant follow ur post. Be careful.

Thank you for your advice and you're totally right. We were so excited that we were getting along so well that we sort of rushed things when neither of us were ready to go that next step and meet. And we were planning to meet out somewhere since we both live in the same city. I should have clarified that.

Yeah, anyways. I'm gonna take some time to get to know him more and slow a tad down before we start dating.

Thanks again for the advice! :)

[Uniquemind]

It's possible the initial "misunderstanding" triggered a inadvertent game of "play hard to get", and so maybe that's a factor.

This might be a social-mind game at this point.


A less cynical view of humanity would suggest that calendars just aren't matching up, but you and him do have pure intentions.


Another thing to clarify is this meet up for a sexy fling, or a relationship? If it's the former then perhaps he's not as serious about this as you initially thought, due to other girls being available to him?

Either way be safe!

[Melodic]

It's possible the initial "misunderstanding" triggered a inadvertent game of "play hard to get", and so maybe that's a factor.

This might be a social-mind game at this point.


A less cynical view of humanity would suggest that calendars just aren't matching up, but you and him do have pure intentions.


Another thing to clarify is this meet up for a sexy fling, or a relationship? If it's the former then perhaps he's not as serious about this as you initially thought, due to other girls being available to him?

Either way be safe!

It was definitely for a relationship. We both said we are looking for a serious relationship.

[ThatIsThis]

It was definitely for a relationship. We both said we are looking for a serious relationship.
Be careful. Most of boys just want sexual things in relation. never trust easy.