i got a boyfriend officially today, how long do you spend on each base?

[biancas]

or just go by what he says?

[Mrstealyourgirl11]

um u have to let him be in charge in spend like 3 days out the week with him

[Bontigo Papi .]

um u have to let him be in charge in spend like 3 days out the week with him

um , no .

Basically , establish what you want and expect from the relationship first . Maybe you just want to be calm at the start and he just wants to rush things so sort that out first if you don't want your relationship to end on a bad thing .

[Barbara.]

Start slowly and get to know the person. Go at the pace that you both are comfortable with.

[zzzzzzzzzz]

or just go by what he says?

It is about communication, so is as much about what you say as he says. Some couples (and that can be boy/boy or girl/girl as well as boy/girl) take their time, weeks or months even before going all the way. Others can go all the way very quickly (within a couple of days). If that is what he wants, and you do too, go for it. Just don't feel pressured into something you're not ready for

[biancas]

um u have to let him be in charge in spend like 3 days out the week with him

i like seeing him so 3 days is easy :yes:

um , no .

Basically , establish what you want and expect from the relationship first . Maybe you just want to be calm at the start and he just wants to rush things so sort that out first if you don't want your relationship to end on a bad thing .

good idea :) i'll ask him about that soon

Start slowly and get to know the person. Go at the pace that you both are comfortable with.

thanks :) i like slowly i think, but i'll ask

It is about communication, so is as much about what you say as he says. Some couples (and that can be boy/boy or girl/girl as well as boy/girl) take their time, weeks or months even before going all the way. Others can go all the way very quickly (within a couple of days). If that is what he wants, and you do too, go for it. Just don't feel pressured into something you're not ready for

i'm not sure yet what it will feel like when he does each thing, so hard to figure what should be done :(

[ClaraWho]

What do you want from a relationship? Do you even know?

That's a question you should really have answered BEFORE getting into one. Is this a purely sexual relationship? Are there commitments/is it exclusive?

Do you really know the guy?
Well enough to trust him?
Do you know what he is into?
Do you care if he is only after sex and will move on when he gets bored?

Think it through.

~ Clara

[biancas]

What do you want from a relationship? Do you even know?

That's a question you should really have answered BEFORE getting into one. Is this a purely sexual relationship? Are there commitments/is it exclusive?

Do you really know the guy?
Well enough to trust him?
Do you know what he is into?
Do you care if he is only after sex and will move on when he gets bored?

Think it through.

~ Clara

i'm not sure what a romance relationship is like, so not sure.
not sexual but we had a big long delicious kiss :proud:
he is committed cos i asked if he has a gf and he said no.
i knew him before the kiss cos i knew him when he was doing his job for the last year.
and i always thought of him as a person to trust :yes:
what ya mean by 'what he is into'?
i think it would be horrible if he had sex with me and left :eek:
thanks i think a lot

[zzzzzzzzzz]

i like seeing him so 3 days is easy :yes:



i'm not sure whats ok to say :whoops:



good idea :) i'll ask him about that soon



thanks :) i like slowly i think, but i'll ask



i'm not sure yet what it will feel like when he does each thing, so hard to figure what should be done :(

Part of the experience is to enjoy each step and you are both happy in what you do. And to take it as fast or as slow as you are both happy with, and not let others dictate to you.

[biancas]

Part of the experience is to enjoy each step and you are both happy in what you do. And to take it as fast or as slow as you are both happy with, and not let others dictate to you.

as long as we keep kissing i will be very VERY happy always :yummy: heavenly :yummy: he smooches me really well

[JusticeandMercy]

You're 13. There's no need to rush, and there's plenty of guys that are willing to wait for sex. Just start out slowly and do what you're comfortable with. At your age, I would really advise against sex, but if your relationship lasts a few more years and you decide you're ready, there's nothing wrong with it. And if you want to wait until marriage, that's completely okay! Don't let anyone pressure you to go farther than you want to.

[biancas]

You're 13. There's no need to rush, and there's plenty of guys that are willing to wait for sex. Just start out slowly and do what you're comfortable with. At your age, I would really advise against sex, but if your relationship lasts a few more years and you decide you're ready, there's nothing wrong with it. And if you want to wait until marriage, that's completely okay! Don't let anyone pressure you to go farther than you want to.

your friendly :)
i asked my bf ttoday if it was to just focus on kisses and he said he knows i'm "good" and that he will be ok with that and that for me to tell him when i want more things. so it seems ok to wait it looks like :yes:
i knew he'd be the one :yes:
he has touched my bottom (and i had jeans on my bottom) but it was part of a standing up kiss to keep us balanced.

[Stronk Serb]

How to put it, some guys like to be in charge, but that doesn't mean you should be a slave. Simply do what he wants if you like it and object if you don't. If he likes you, he will respect you.

[biancas]

How to put it, some guys like to be in charge, but that doesn't mean you should be a slave. Simply do what he wants if you like it and object if you don't. If he likes you, he will respect you.

when we were on the telephone a few hours ago he asked me naughty things.
but he's careful when we kiss cos he knows his my first boyfriend and that i'm not a fun girlfriend.

[zzzzzzzzzz]

i kind of wish i could just marry him now lol
is it still possible to be hurt even if i am feeling lubricated?
his kisses are very exotic and i become lubricated all over the front of my panties so i hope that helps me.
i'm very interested in condoms/pills i will read a lot i think :)

The first time can be a bit sore, if your hymen is still intact. There will be a bit of pain initially with that. After that, it is communication. It should be a good experience for you

[biancas]

The first time can be a bit sore, if your hymen is still intact. There will be a bit of pain initially with that. After that, it is communication. It should be a good experience for you

sounds a little rough :eek3:
i wear jeans so far with him so he touches my thighs over denim :)
i only wear open bottomed clothes with my girl friends.

[LanaPole]

sounds a little rough :eek3:
i wear jeans so far with him so he touches my thighs over denim :)
i only wear open bottomed clothes with my girl friends.

First time will hurt a little. If he's gentle, it shouldn't be bad and afterwards it's the most wonderful thing ever.

[zzzzzzzzzz]

sounds a little rough :eek3:
i wear jeans so far with him so he touches my thighs over denim :)
i only wear open bottomed clothes with my girl friends.

The good thin is it does say like you are taking your time with your boyfriend. And it sounds like you are enjoying things so far :-)

[biancas]

First time will hurt a little. If he's gentle, it shouldn't be bad and afterwards it's the most wonderful thing ever.

after lozing their virginity do people like having sex everytime or still mbate too?

The good thin is it does say like you are taking your time with your boyfriend. And it sounds like you are enjoying things so far :-)

yep!
after i come home from his date i imagine it over in my head again and its really fun+pleasuring

[zzzzzzzzzz]

after lozing their virginity do people like having sex everytime or still mbate too?
people will continue to do both. Sometimes with each other in their relationship if they want


yep!
after i come home from his date i imagine it over in my head again and its really fun+pleasuring
Cool. It really sounds that you like him ;-)

[biancas]

Cool. It really sounds that you like him ;-)

thanks :cloud9:

[ceto2]

take things slow n dont rush into anything that u dont want.

[LanaPole]

[QUOTE=biancas;3493886]after lozing their virginity do people like having sex everytime or still mbate too?

everyone I know still masturbates. Sex doesn't really stop me from masturbating.

[biancas]

take things slow n dont rush into anything that u dont want.

i think that way too, for sure :metal:

[QUOTE=biancas;3493886]after lozing their virginity do people like having sex everytime or still mbate too?

everyone I know still masturbates. Sex doesn't really stop me from masturbating.

wow i wonder if my dad or his gf do.

[LanaPole]

i think that way too, for sure :metal:

[QUOTE=LanaPole;3493960]

wow i wonder if my dad or his gf do.

Might be a little different for adults.... they're not as horny as us teenagers. But my parents are sexually active.

[ceto2]

My parent's r the sam. Not like us college people

[The1uwant]

um u have to let him be in charge in spend like 3 days out the week with him

ummm, no!!

You do not have to let the guy be in charge nor do you have to let him "run the bases" if you don't want him to. There is no set "amount of time" to take things to the next level.

[biancas]

[QUOTE=biancas;3494098]i think that way too, for sure :metal:



Might be a little different for adults.... they're not as horny as us teenagers. But my parents are sexually active.

my dad and his gf close their bedroom door at night but dad doesn't let me close my bedroom door.
but when dad is out i close my bedroom door and i don't think dad's gf ever tells him :D

[JusticeandMercy]

The hymen thing that was mentioned earlier is actually a myth. The hymen only partially covers the opening, but if you go fast or don't have enough lubrication, you can tear it.
Just something to put your mind at ease.

[biancas]

The hymen thing that was mentioned earlier is actually a myth. The hymen only partially covers the opening, but if you go fast or don't have enough lubrication, you can tear it.
Just something to put your mind at ease.

that's ideal! i think about it everynight since my new bf and i think it would be really good if he doesn't hurt me too much in my imagination of it.

also i kind of rehearse for it now because now if i heard dad snooring i know he won't be awake enough to hear me enjoying lol. and if his gf hears me i think she won't make a deal of it ;)

[zzzzzzzzzz]

that's ideal! i think about it everynight since my new bf and i think it would be really good if he doesn't hurt me too much in my imagination of it.

also i kind of rehearse for it now because now if i heard dad snooring i know he won't be awake enough to hear me enjoying lol. and if his gf hears me i think she won't make a deal of it ;)

It is about communications too. If and when U and Ur B/F "do it", if he's hurting you, let him know. Take it slow at first so that you get to know what's good!

[biancas]

It is about communications too. If and when U and Ur B/F "do it", if he's hurting you, let him know. Take it slow at first so that you get to know what's good!

my finger is doing ok with me and not hurting, so i think i will first try with his finger before his erection etc

[zzzzzzzzzz]

my dad is in the office when my bf is with me in my bedroom, and the office is close to my bedroom so we aren't gonna have sex nup.
yep most don't marry but i'd love to marry my bf really badly, i imagine it a lot :yummy:



my finger is doing ok with me and not hurting, so i think i will first try with his finger before his erection etc

Hehe I'm sure he will enjoy that as much as you!

[Trivium]

Don't worry about bases. If you're both into it, it will just run itself, and lead up without you knowing it.

[biancas]

Hehe I'm sure he will enjoy that as much as you!

its awesome in my head ;)

Don't worry about bases. If you're both into it, it will just run itself, and lead up without you knowing it.

especially if i don't wear jeans with him :D

[Trivium]

its awesome in my head ;)



especially if i don't wear jeans with him :D

That would definitely help lead things to where you want them to go. lol

I really hope it goes well for you!

[biancas]

That would definitely help lead things to where you want them to go. lol

I really hope it goes well for you!

i want to wear dresses or skirts but i know if i do i'll want sex too, but i definitely think i should wait till i'm married/
so i'll just wear jeans with him :)

[Trivium]

with my bf i'm in the boobs base but i keep my jeans on always. he put his hand in my top for my boobs.

my gf said she's not attracted to girls so our fun is not like a base or anything its just friendship affection with kissing and cuddling :)

on myself alone i have my finger :yummy:



i want to wear dresses or skirts but i know if i do i'll want sex too, but i definitely think i should wait till i'm married/
so i'll just wear jeans with him :)

That is totally up to you. Don't let him pressure you into anything you don't want to do.

[pconnor]

I see that you are only 13--too young for sex in my opinion.

[Just JT]

Sex is a thing. Don't rush it. Your young.

The time spent on what ever base will depend on how you feel curioutity and urges. And advancing SHOULD be something mutual. And when yiur ready. Not before.

Just enjoy the moment. A lot or fun can be had at even "1st or 2nd" base.

Take your time

[biancas]

That is totally up to you. Don't let him pressure you into anything you don't want to do.

he touched my sports bra under my top, he did not ask but i think it was a good idea.

I see that you are only 13--too young for sex in my opinion.

my dad's gf's exhusband said i was mature and i generally talk with teachers more than most of us but i agree i don't think i'm ready for sex, or maybe i am ready intellectually but not physically :)

Sex is a thing. Don't rush it. Your young.

The time spent on what ever base will depend on how you feel curioutity and urges. And advancing SHOULD be something mutual. And when yiur ready. Not before.

Just enjoy the moment. A lot or fun can be had at even "1st or 2nd" base.

Take your time

after he touched my sportsbra i have been really thinking about him at night in a sexual way so i really love him doing because if i imagine that moment i have an orgasm really nicely. so i think its ok to stay on that for a long time :yes:

[Trivium]

he touched my sports bra under my top, he did not ask but i think it was a good idea.



my dad's gf's exhusband said i was mature and i generally talk with teachers more than most of us but i agree i don't think i'm ready for sex, or maybe i am ready intellectually but not physically :)

i
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after he touched my sportsbra i have been really thinking about him at night in a sexual way so i really love him doing because if i imagine that moment i have an orgasm really nicely. so i think its ok to stay on that for a long time :yes:


Staying where your st with him is probably a good idea since you're both enjoying yourselves.

[scott2002]

For me, it's been three months and I'm just now getting to second base. (If kissing is considered to be first base, that is.)

[biancas]

Staying where your st with him is probably a good idea since you're both enjoying yourselves.

yes and there are other bases i like but only like imagining them not doing them yet :)

For me, it's been three months and I'm just now getting to second base. (If kissing is considered to be first base, that is.)

kissing is fun and really passionate, also my bf put his finger in my mouth and we liked it a lot :yummy: