When should I ask him out?

[sammyg7241]

So, I've had a huge crush on this guy for a while now. He knows I have a crush on him, but when he found out, he was dating someone and they broke up about a week ago. We're really close friends so we talk about a lot of things and he said he doesn't want to date for a while, which I understand. However, I have no idea how long I should wait to ask him out or if I should even do it at all. (By the way, I know for a fact he is Bi)

Any advice is greatly appreciated!

[mick01]

Has he given you any indication that he might be interested in you? What did he say and how did he react when he found out you had a crush on him? If you've gotten some positive sign that he might be interested I would just ask him if he'd be interested in going out on a date with you at some point. Btw, was he dating a girl or a boy?

[sammyg7241]

Has he given you any indication that he might be interested in you? What did he say and how did he react when he found out you had a crush on him? If you've gotten some positive sign that he might be interested I would just ask him if he'd be interested in going out on a date with you at some point. Btw, was he dating a girl or a boy?

I'm not 100% sure but I think he has given me some indication that he might be interested. When I told him I had a crush on him, he took it really well. He said he'd kinda suspected it but didn't want to ask if he was wrong, and just moved on. He was dating a girl.

[mick01]

And also, why are you so positive he is bi? I think this information is helpful to give you decent advice.

[sammyg7241]

And also, why are you so positive he is bi? I think this information is helpful to give you decent advice.

He came out to me this year and told me.

[mick01]

Well that's cool then. My only advice would be if you really value the friendship, and think you could be best friends for a long time, I wouldn't ask him on a date. I might want to just keep him as a friend. If you do date him, and things go bad, you may lose him altogether. Maybe you could do a friends with benefits thing, which is what I have with one of my best friends. That way, there's no pressure that comes with a relationship.

[sammyg7241]

Well that's cool then. My only advice would be if you really value the friendship, and think you could be best friends for a long time, I wouldn't ask him on a date. I might want to just keep him as a friend. If you do date him, and things go bad, you may lose him altogether. Maybe you could do a friends with benefits thing, which is what I have with one of my best friends. That way, there's no pressure that comes with a relationship.

Thanks for the advice. I think this would be good especially because he isn't out to his family yet, and he's afraid of coming out to them because his parents are super religious and he doesn't know how they would react. My problem is, I have no clue how you would start this...