Shy me stops myself from getting a girlfriend

[Luuc]

I just need to vent a little bit...

I've been talking to this girl since last Saturday, and today we saw each other again at a party. Problem uno: She is 14, and I'm 17. Nothing major and it's definitely doable, yet you'd have to agree it is something rather unusual.
Basically there's this "friend" of mine who was making fun of me for talking to her, because the 'oh-so-huge' age gap... Me talking to girks IS a huge deal to me because I have always been shy af, and people can tell. Especially my friends can tell, and they always tease me about it.

Nevertheless, we ended up talking privately (because I honestly don't give a fuck about what my friends think even if it makes me feel more unsure about the situation...) and I could definitely tell there was "something" between us two, but not to which extent. So when she said something like "i do really like you", I held her hand and I think she did like it, but yet I was too much of a shy fuck to actually kiss her. It was perhaps the most obvious thing I was meant to do, yet I did fuck it up.

I just wanna know what you guys think about the age gap, and how to deal with myself being so shy around girls in the future, and I wanna know how much I did wrong when I decided not to kiss her in the end. Because I definitely would have loved it...

[ska8er]

If u got to the point of holding her
hand u were not that bit of being shy
but she is too young for u. Seems like
she is a bit forward. My opinion.

[mick01]

I have to disagree with ska8er a little bit. You could argue that the age difference is too much. But if you really like her and she likes you, it's worth pursuing a little bit. Just as long as neither are pushed into doing stuff you don't want to do. It seems like it's a first time experience for both of you. So just experience it a little bit.

[Luuc]

She has always been going for more mature/older boys and I figured if both of us felt the same way it would work imo. I'd never pursue her into anything either

[ska8er]

I have to disagree with ska8er a little bit. You could argue that the age difference is too much. But if you really like her and she likes you, it's worth pursuing a little bit. Just as long as neither are pushed into doing stuff you don't want to do. It seems like it's a first time experience for both of you. So just experience it a little bit.


I was hinting on that she is- I suspect underage and he
is considered as much as an adult-they should b careful
what leads to what especially older guys who r being led
on. They could have a good relationship but cool anything
that can get out of hand and b sorry for later. Then some
teens will do anything if the time is right and not think any
thing bout it.

[Luuc]

I suspect underage and he is considered as much as an adult-they should b careful what leads to what especially older guys who r being led on.

Age of consent where I live is 14 though, so I'm not sure if it'd still be a problem in that case?

[ska8er]

Age of consent where I live is 14 though, so I'm not sure if it'd still be a problem in that case?

Maybe not. Age of consent varies from country to
country and state to state. U just have to follow what
ur conscience tells u I guess. :)

:usflag:

[Luuc]

Well, I still know no more than I knew before I asked this, so what about my other questions? :)

[ska8er]

Don't listen to ur friends-its ur life not theirs.
U messed up on the kiss. Next time a girl
moves in on u-reciprocate. Again u got to
hold her hand-that goes well past shy. I
think ur doing ok no matter how unsure u
think u may b. Don't know what kind of
answers u want. B urself with meeting girls
even if it is uncomfortable. If u r shy then ur
shy. Whats so bad bout it? If a girl takes an
interest in u-ur doing something right.