I think I'm gay?

[xandyx]

I think I might be gay but I'm not sure. I don't really act gay at all ...like I play hockey, baseball etc...and had a few gf's...and don't know/talk to any gay people at school etc. but lately I've thought about boys instead of girls and I don't know why. It seems like its getting more and more and I don't even really WANT to be gay but no offense to people who are. i like gay people and stuff and have no problems but a lot of people do that i know.

what do you do? :-\ I hate this. I would like lose all my friends I think and I KNOW my parents would have a meltdown. Why me? :mad:

[Mastretta]

What is acting gay? Having gfs doesn't mean you're straight, nor playing sports, what is gay stuff? If you loose friends over your sexuality they're aren't your friends. Your parents if you are and they accept you I say forget them no need to have toxic people around you.
You're young and most likely you're straight a lot of people question and explore there sexuality.

[Bmble_B]

Most likely hormones, depending on ur age

[Alex_3869]

Okay, first of all, "acting gay" has nothing to do with actually being gay. I know perfectly straight people who don't like sports, who aren't very masculine etc. I also know completely gay people who love sports and cars and all of those other things typically associated with being straight, so acting gay has nothing to do with being gay.

Second off, the things you are experiencing May just be hormones, or they could be something more, but only you are the one who knows.

Third off, it doesn't matter if you don't know or talk to people who are gay in school. Being gay isn't a disease, if you know or talk to a gay person, they are not going to make you gay. You were born with your sexuality, it doesn't come by talking to gay people.

Fourth, if your friends all ditch you because of your sexuality then I think you need new friends. And if your family have a meltdown, that is their problems surround yourself with people who will bring you up for who you are, not bring you down if you don't fit what is "socially acceptable".

And if it turns out not to be hormones then you could be straight, or you could be bi. But remember, if you don't have both a physical AND an emotional attraction to boys. If you just fantasies about them sexually, or their bodies or whatever then you aren't gay/bi. If you can't see yourself wanting a relationship, or an emotional connection with a boy, then your straight.

[JacobIN]

There is not a gay "way of life". I'm bi and I don't act gay. I like sports, shoot guns, and actually have more conservative views than liberal views.

TL : DR There is no way to act "gay"

[Luminous]

Don't worry about acting gay, there's no such thing. It sounds to me like you're bicurious or bisexual, not gay. Are you physically/sexually attracted to guys, girls, or both? How about emotionally? Don't think you have to be able to answer those questions right now, it could take a while for you to figure it out, anywhere from days to years. If you are physically and emotionally attracted to girls, but sometimes get curious about what it would be like to be with/have sex with a guy, you're bicurious. If you are physically and emotionally attracted to both, you're bi. And yes, you could be gay, but it sounds to me like you still have some attraction to girls. Maybe you're gay and bicurious - that's possible too. (Being gay but curious about the opposite sex sometimes). Please don't stress over it. Allow yourself to have feelings and attractions, even if they are not to girls. You will figure it out.

[Celtics]

I know someone that is gay and is more "straighter" than any straight guy i know lol and same with girls. Hate this stereotypical stuff.

[Ethe14]

Some gay people that I know don't act very gay, they love sports more than I do, shoot guns and other stuff. You still have time to figure what your oreintation is.

[xandyx]

I know someone that is gay and is more "straighter" than any straight guy i know lol and same with girls. Hate this stereotypical stuff.

Sorry I didn't mean to offend anyone like i said i like gay people just a lot of people around me don't and I guess I'm just new to this stuff. :-\

Don't worry about acting gay, there's no such thing. It sounds to me like you're bicurious or bisexual, not gay. Are you physically/sexually attracted to guys, girls, or both? How about emotionally? Don't think you have to be able to answer those questions right now, it could take a while for you to figure it out, anywhere from days to years.

I don't really know whats going on. Just pretty confused right now and really freaking out to be honest. i just know that I liked a guy and stuff not to long ago and i think more than just physical but not sure. Like i said..confused.

don't stress over it. Allow yourself to have feelings and attractions, even if they are not to girls. You will figure it out.

I don't know its so hard not to stress. I know a lot of people here don't think this way and its okay everyones different but its hard not to because of my beliefs and stuff. I don't know if I should allow myself or not. Like I feel like both ways...this sucks so bad...

[ksdnfkfr]

Why me? :mad:

What do you mean why you? Like most every 13 year old guy in the world comes here and asks, "do you think I might be gay?". Relax :)

[pianoman237]

Remember that you are yourself, and be careful not to let others, even if they are close to you like friends or family, push you into any sort of person you are not. Take your time thinking about your sexuality, and don't let yourself get too nervous over it too soon. You're still you! You love other people, and they might be of one gender, they might be of another, they might be of both... but that doesn't change you, and hopefully others will realize that. I don't necessarily know what to say about homophobia, except that, if you think you are LGBTQ, you should carefully come out to people you trust... for example, one of the first people I came out to was a teacher. Building a base from those valued people, if you decide to come out publicly, then you will always have people to help you. Homophobia is sad :( And if you're straight, then you're straight! :) Best of luck!!

[NickCollins]

you might be bi or it's just your hormones

[Wyatt 13]

Dude let me share with you my story. I'm gay closeted. I'm 13 y.o I'm just like any other guy in my school, I play soccer in 2 teams county and school, I'm a biker rider I like fishing I'm not acting gay and I don't know whats the way the gays act. I am just a normal person that happened to like boys. Maybe are hormones maybe not, but is 2 soon to find out. My advise, don't label yourself man have fun and try 2b happy with your family.

[Zachary G]

I think I might be gay but I'm not sure. I don't really act gay at all ...like I play hockey, baseball etc...and had a few gf's...and don't know/talk to any gay people at school etc. but lately I've thought about boys instead of girls and I don't know why. It seems like its getting more and more and I don't even really WANT to be gay but no offense to people who are. i like gay people and stuff and have no problems but a lot of people do that i know.

what do you do? :-\ I hate this. I would like lose all my friends I think and I KNOW my parents would have a meltdown. Why me? :mad:

there is no such thing as "acting gay", you are or you arent. the same with being straight, you dont act it, you are or you arent. I am just like you, but I am gay, I play sports, and horse around with the guys and do normal boy stuff. those people that had a problem with my being who i am are no longer a part of my life and as far as my parents go, just when i thought they would have a shit fit, they turned out to be my biggest supporters. dont be so quick to judge yourself or anyone else. it is what it is and its all going to be alright.

[MechaSniper]

Like all the other forums its your horomones. your only gay if you have feelings for them.

[xandyx]

there is no such thing as "acting gay", you are or you arent. the same with being straight, you dont act it, you are or you arent. I am just like you, but I am gay, I play sports, and horse around with the guys and do normal boy stuff. those people that had a problem with my being who i am are no longer a part of my life and as far as my parents go, just when i thought they would have a shit fit, they turned out to be my biggest supporters. dont be so quick to judge yourself or anyone else. it is what it is and its all going to be alright.

Well my family is super religious so I'm like screwed when it comes to my parents. :( If Im gay or whatever i mean.

I didn't mean "acting gay" like that, I guess. I just meant like ...idk. Like not very closeted and "out" and proud and stuff. Idk what I mean. I'm dumb...

[Zachary G]

Well my family is super religious so I'm like screwed when it comes to my parents. :( If Im gay or whatever i mean.

I didn't mean "acting gay" like that, I guess. I just meant like ...idk. Like not very closeted and "out" and proud and stuff. Idk what I mean. I'm dumb...

dude, you arent dumb, dont say that. you are just confused thats all and need to figure it all out

[Ethe14]

Well my family is super religious so I'm like screwed when it comes to my parents. :( If Im gay or whatever i mean.

I didn't mean "acting gay" like that, I guess. I just meant like ...idk. Like not very closeted and "out" and proud and stuff. Idk what I mean. I'm dumb...

Your not dumb, you just unsure of who you are. You've got plenty of time to find out. Who knows you might just be really curious.

[xandyx]

dude, you arent dumb, dont say that. you are just confused thats all and need to figure it all out

Can I ask something? How did you figure it out and like it and stuff? Like we're the same age right so how did you figure out fast? I still feel like mind blown and scared idk why.

Your not dumb, you just unsure of who you are. You've got plenty of time to find out. Who knows you might just be really curious.

To be honest I hope it is just curious. But not judging anyone or anything just saying for me.

[Zachary G]

Can I ask something? How did you figure it out and like it and stuff? Like we're the same age right so how did you figure out fast? I still feel like mind blown and scared idk why.



To be honest I hope it is just curious. But not judging anyone or anything just saying for me.

just take it easy dude, dont stress it. you have plenty of time to figure it all out. ok? at least you have someone to talk to about it -- if you want

[Virginiakid]

I feel the same way as you do. You might be bisexual and just prefer guys over girls.