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Victor02
February 18th, 2017, 10:30 AM
I would like some help with understanding a girl in my class, since I have no idea how to interpret her signals;
I guess I might as well call her "This Girl".

Anyway, This Girl has been my classmate for a little more than a year now - we became classmates in autumn 2015.
She is the kind of girl who seems like a good person but also has a lot of temperament - if you have ever seen the Swedish movie known as "Show Me Love" in America, then she is a little bit like the character Elin.
Anyway, This Girl and I tend to often provoke each other and end up in what most people would probably think are arguments, but it has never really been "serious", it's somewhere in between - both serious an playful at the same time, if that makes sense.
However, I have always assumed that she doesn't really like me that much, and I have always felt like she is more or less mad at me all the time for some reason.

But recently, something weird has been happening.
A few weeks ago one of her friends (let's just call her "Friend", lol) suddenly came up to me during a lesson when we were working individually, and she told me that This Girl liked me; and Friend actually sounded very sincere when she said it, she was like "This Girl likes you, why don't you go talk to her?".
I was very surprised by this, because I couldn't believe that This Girl really liked me at all, especially not that much - but I couldn't see any signs that Friend was playing tricks on me at all, she seemed completely honest.
Still, I couldn't believe it, so I didn't do anything that time.

A few days later, This Girl sent me a note in the middle of a class, where she flat out asked me if we could be together.
I didn't respond that time either, since I still wasn't sure how to deal with all of this, and then a few days later she gave me another note (she looked a bit thoughtful this time) during another lesson, where she asked me why I didn't respond.
I wrote back to her that I didn't know what to respond, and then she gave me yet another note that just said "Forget about it, then!".

Ever since then, she has seemed really irritated at me.
She gives me an angry look when she sees me and tries to avoid me, and when I manage to bring up all those things she had done then she exclaims "it was just a joke!!!" and walks away.
I haven't actually told her that I like her myself yet, but she doesn't really give me a chance to do that either.

What do you think about this?
Is she interested in me?
Or has she really been joking about this all along?
I am not sure what to make out of this.

Uniquemind
February 18th, 2017, 02:59 PM
She feels rejected and spiteful you made her make the first move.

It wasn't a joke, you'll just have to meet her face to face and clear the air and confusion and provide a decent explanation as to why you froze up when she asked you to become a couple.

You need to understand why you didn't say "yes" if that's what you really wants. Did you freak out about being asked in public?

Blank_
February 19th, 2017, 09:11 AM
It sounds like she was genuinely interested in you, but may have taken your reactions (or lack there of) to her notes as you being disinterested in her. Now she probably feels betrayed and angry at you, and might not have the same feelings for you still. The best thing you could probably do is confront her about the situation and try your best to explain yourself, and see if she'll still take you since you like her.