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Andrew99
February 9th, 2017, 07:32 PM
Hey. I'm 17 years old, and I'm a very shy person. Not just around boys but around girls especially I have no confidence. I'm not very popular and I only have 1 or 2 close friends in life. I can't bring myself to start a conversation with a girl, and if a girl starts a conversation with me I feel so awkward, nervous and I can't get my point across. This isn't in an act of rudeness, i physically feel like there's a barrier preventing me from talking to girls around my age. My friends laugh at me for this which doesn't exactly help, but when I was younger I always thought that this would just blow over with age, but I'm worried that this has gotten too far now.

As I've gotten older I've obviously became more interested in girls. I see a girl I find attractive and as much as I want to go up and start talking to a girl, I can't bring myself to do it and it leaves me feeling upset and depressed.

I try to do activities to boost my confidence. I work out pretty much every day and follow a diet to help keep me in good shape, I thought this would help boost my confidence not only with girls but in general but this didn't seem to be the case. To be honest, I don't think I am aesthetically ugly myself, but I just lack any ability to socialise with people, and instead have a few close friends.

Having got this far in life now without a girlfriend, befriended a girl or anything along those lines, I'm worried that this isn't going to stop. At the moment there's a girl in my school who liked my profile picture on Facebook, who seems really nice and she is pretty, I want to start talking to her (obviously as a friend at first) but I don't have the confidence to do this. She seems 'on my level' but I don't feel like I can approach her for obvious reasons.

So I was wondering if anyone could offer any advice, I was wondering about telling my mother about this and seeing if there's any help I can get, or do you think there's another way I can solve this? Thank you for reading

ska8er
February 10th, 2017, 05:36 AM
I suppose u can open up to ur mother as to
u being anxious bout making or talking to
friends and c what her opinion is but as for
the girl on Facebook-continue the relationship
online until u get to know her better and then
if she is still interested ask her if it is ok for the
two of u to talk in person. She admired ur photo
so tell her u admired hers and start talking bout
things that u both have in common.

Andrew99
February 10th, 2017, 04:42 PM
I suppose u can open up to ur mother as to
u being anxious bout making or talking to
friends and c what her opinion is but as for
the girl on Facebook-continue the relationship
online until u get to know her better and then
if she is still interested ask her if it is ok for the
two of u to talk in person. She admired ur photo
so tell her u admired hers and start talking bout
things that u both have in common.

I haven't spoke to the girl on Facebook in my life, so how can I continue the relationship if there wasn't one to start with. So what I'm basically saying is, how do I start something off?

ska8er
February 10th, 2017, 06:15 PM
I haven't spoke to the girl on Facebook in my life, so how can I continue the relationship if there wasn't one to start with. So what I'm basically saying is, how do I start something off?

Sorry i must have gotten u mixed up with
someone else but what i said above can also
go with what u r experiencing. Go on a social
media site and befriend a girl-admire her and
start an online friendship and over a period of
time it might b a bit easier for u to communicate
with girls. Im sure they r not gonna bite u over
the web.

Andrew99
February 10th, 2017, 07:35 PM
How do I befriend this girl?

ska8er
February 10th, 2017, 11:00 PM
How do I befriend this girl?

Go on Facebook-scan profiles of girls that
interest u or someone from school-admire
them and if they r interested they will admire
u back-then start up a conversation with them.
But remember-B Urself. If u think a girl will not
like u-don't give up. If u don't have Facebook-
find another social site-there might b one on here
for making new friends. :)

Andrew99
February 11th, 2017, 05:27 PM
How do I start a conversation with the girl? I've never spoke to her before and I feel like if I message her she will ignore it since we don't know eachother. I'm too anxious to go up and talk to her in school too, so I'm stuck☹️

scott2002
March 9th, 2017, 05:01 PM
Andrew, I've looked at a lot of what you've posted and I'm not seeing if you ever shared how old you are right now? I'm 15 and I'd feel comfortable giving you ideas if you're in the 13-15 range (because that's the only range of girls I know very well). If you're older, or a lot older, I can't speak to that cuz I have no experience with girls older than 15 or 16.

I know guys my age that seems whenever they're saying anything they're feeling sorry for themselves. That brings others down and they don't want to be around those people. (I know I don't)