Why?

[MTB1997]

I have always wondered, Why is it "more" socially acceptable for a female to be openly gay/bi but not so much for a male???

[Elysium]

It's a stupid double standard, but it appears to me that it's somehow emasculating to be attracted to men, which I don't agree with at all.

[Tarannosaurus]

It's not, at least not where I live. For some reason some men find women being attracted to women attractive. So lesbians get harassment, prying questions and requests to take part in threesomes. It's not accepting, just annoying, to be objectified like that.

[Celtics]

its called males. Most males find lesbians hot, so they find it ok.

[Karkat]

Most men who 'accept' lesbians (and not gay men, is what I'm getting at) don't actually accept lesbians- they fetishize them. That's really all it is. Both sides are a long ways from actually being accepted.

[Hermes96]

most straite men find lesbians 'Hot' so they kind of give them less of a hard time but this does not always happen

[mww113]

Our society has created a false dichotomy of "gay" and "straight" and attempts to box people into fitting one of those labels. Especially with men, bisexuality is considered nonexistent or merely a front for homosexuality. The problem lies in that fact that if a guy gets labeled as "gay", it can be very difficult to shake that label. Therefore many straight guys constantly feel the need to prove themselves and their heterosexuality. They fear gay people because should they see some of themselves in us, they are afraid that they would be labeled gay.

As far as female homosexuality goes, if we take for granted that society is patriarchal. Or controlled mostly by straight men. Then the logical conclusion follows that female homosexuality is more socially acceptable because straight men fetishize it.

[ksdnfkfr]

Being gay isn't manly. Or some kinda crap like that.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Might differ in other places or societies but its only some peoples opinion or view.

[Aidoon123]

Unfortunately, that's how our society works. Gay people are seen as 'feminine' and embarrassing to the stereotype of men, who are meant to be 'masculine' and strong and brave. What amazes me is how all these people say how civilised humanity is, how intelligent we are, yet I still see people get beat up at school because they are gay, or because a rumour has been spread claiming they are gay. It baffles me how this negative stereotype came about, yes, it is not the ''natural'' thing that religion has taught us, but if it wasn't meant to happen, it just wouldn't. So I believe that some people are made that way for a reason, not because god wants to punish them, but because it is simply who they are.

[Luminous]

I don't think I've ever seen that before. But it does make sense that maybe some men are more okay with gay girls because of the whole pornographic/turn on thing or... whatever. I'm not sure.

[Karkat]

Our society has created a false dichotomy of "gay" and "straight" and attempts to box people into fitting one of those labels. Especially with men, bisexuality is considered nonexistent or merely a front for homosexuality. The problem lies in that fact that if a guy gets labeled as "gay", it can be very difficult to shake that label. Therefore many straight guys constantly feel the need to prove themselves and their heterosexuality. They fear gay people because should they see some of themselves in us, they are afraid that they would be labeled gay.

As far as female homosexuality goes, if we take for granted that society is patriarchal. Or controlled mostly by straight men. Then the logical conclusion follows that female homosexuality is more socially acceptable because straight men fetishize it.

Some straight, effeminate men get labeled gay and try to prove themselves otherwise solely for the fact that women take them out of their range of potential partners, which is unfortunate. That, and some people who are labeled gay just aren't gay. I don't think they should have to live with an incorrect label. They shouldn't display homophobia, but they shouldn't have to succumb to a rumor.

[mww113]

I'm not saying that they should have to live with false labels. My argument is that the labels and the labeling itself is problematic.

[Karkat]

I'm not saying that they should have to live with false labels. My argument is that the labels and the labeling itself is problematic.

And that's absolutely true. 100% agree with you there.

[Snydergate]

I find it to parallel with an adult having sexual relations with a minor. like a teacher with a student. Its not such a big deal when a female teacher has sex with a male student, but when a male teacher has sex with a female student, well...to quote the Joker "Then everyone looses their minds!"

[NickCollins]

I find it to parallel with an adult having sexual relations with a minor. like a teacher with a student. Its not such a big deal when a female teacher has sex with a male student, but when a male teacher has sex with a female student, well...to quote the Joker "Then everyone looses their minds!"

excellent point even though i think its complete BS
and great joker quote

[Karkat]

I find it to parallel with an adult having sexual relations with a minor. like a teacher with a student. Its not such a big deal when a female teacher has sex with a male student, but when a male teacher has sex with a female student, well...to quote the Joker "Then everyone looses their minds!"

Actually, where I live, I've noticed that female teachers with male students get far more criticism, and I've seen more of it in pop culture (in a negative light)

And adults are generally criticized if statutory rape goes on. (If it's legal, but still a minor with someone the age of majority, it's still looked down on, but technically you can't make as big of a fuss because no one's breaking any laws)