really bad issues finding a girl?

[kittycat72]

Hi, sorry to bother everyone constantly with my stupid posts, but I'm having some serious issues with finding a girl to even try to get into a relationship with. I'm in high school and every girl that I know or would be interested are all impossible because either their already dating, or i've already asked and looked really stupid. I'm incredibly shy and i'm not really in that popular group of kids that can easily get whoever they want. I've tried one dating website and immediately stopped a day later because it just didn't feel right at all. I'm not in sports and I really am lost at what to do now and I feel horrible not having anyone love me and care for me to the point where I get really depressed quickly. Can anyone possibly suggest what they think I should do? Part of me feels like finding a dating website that could work, but I'm really shy and i don't know about that unless someone can be really confident about that. And everyone at my school doesn't seem really like options, because every girl i essentially know all are no's. And I know this sounds really stupid and selfish, but I really just want to be able to love someone who loves me back. I'm not really in it for the benefits aside from having someone to talk to and be there for you in that manor. And I really don't want to wait til college for any hope of dating.

Thank you all so much for your help!

[ska8er]

U have to make friends first before u think of
anything of a relationship. Scope out some girl
who is quiet and alone at school and befriend her
and then c where it goes. She doesn't have to b the
most beautiful or popular girl. She probably is just as
shy as u r and is looking for someone like u to rescue
her. To b honest u might have a better chance to find
someone if u wait til college.

[ClaraWho]

It sounds like you don't really have any close friends, would that be fair to say?

What is your situation with your parental unit?

Relationships aren't just finding someone of the opposite sex and hope they say yes. You should feel a connection first. Instead of jumping to the 'will you go out with me', just try asking 'how are you?', start with a friendship. Everyone wants to jump ahead 2 years these days, but you have to build from the ground up or there will be no foundation.

~ Clara

[Just JT]

Your getting some great advise here, very real to life. It's a process, and you can't rush that.

So your not into sports and stuff, that's fine. But if you even just go to some games and watch and learn about them it'll give you a common ground for conversation with "friends" to talk about. Go from there. It's not all about sports but the idea is to learn about other people's likes and interests and get to know each other. Even if it starts on something your not a big fan of, you get to know them More from There.

Join some clubs or other types of extra ciricular activities at school. And do the same stuff. Just getting to meet and know people is probably out 90% of it. Otherwise people are passing judgement of whether they "like" like you based on how you look, without even knowing you at all.

Just don't rush it, be yourself, and the rest will fall into place. When that right girl comes along, and they come along in all kinds of ways, so look careful, you'll know if, and it'll feel completely normal and natural, and you won't feel like you do now.

[Anniebanannie]

If you do stuff that interests you (clubs, classes), you'll meet people who share your interests and you'll be able to talk about that. It doesn't have to be sports.

[jamie_n5]

You really don't say much of anything about yourself. Your age would make a big difference on the advice you can get I think. You should try and get involved in activities for teens. You don't have to be in sports to make friends join in things like choir or clubs. Go to place where you live that teens hang out at. You need to just be patient and look for someone that stands out to you. Talk to them and get to know them and be friends. Don't push things so fast. Take your time you don't need to go on a date right away. It takes time. You could ask a girl to a school dance or something like that too. Hang in there and take your time.