My view on love vs. what most see/feel.

[Dennis Chaney]

Well as the title says, this will be a little insight to what I view differently opposed to most when it comes to love. Alot view love and relationships as full of pain/heartache when it comes towards the end of said relationship. Well I do not, whether a relationship works or not, I know in the end that all the feelings that I felt were true, and instead of looking at all the negative/pessimistic aspects of that relationship, I look at all the happy and enjoyable moments and cherish them as so. Just like the old saying, its better to have loved and lost then to not have loved at all.

The reason behind this quote, is the fact that love isn't something that everyone in this world gets a chance to experience, and the ones that do should be ecstatic that they had the chance, when a lot of people only get to dream about having such.

Every time I have lost someone that I loved and cared for, whether i wanted to admit it or not, made me a stronger and better person, and it taught me how to be a better partner for when I do meet the person I am meant to find. With each chance we are given there is a chance to improve ourselves both mentally and physically. We are given these options in life on a daily basis, will we choose to look at the negative side and feel despair? Or will we look at it as a learning experience and grow from the situation? The path we choose heavily determines the type of emotions you will have to these situations.

Thanks for reading my friends, Just remember these are my views, and it took me a long time to get to this level of understanding, so I do not expect people to look at it the same way as I do, but maybe this will help encourage some of you I hope :)

[AzuPazu]

That is a beautiful saying. However.. I don't think everyone can agree. I'm glad this view works for you but I prefer experiencing beautiful moments with my friends than with someone that will end up hurting you more than anything else.

[Dennis Chaney]

That is a beautiful saying. However.. I don't think everyone can agree. I'm glad this view works for you but I prefer experiencing beautiful moments with my friends than with someone that will end up hurting you more than anything else.

Yeah I can understand how most wouldn't, because I too use to feel the same way about it, but as you grow and mature more, you start realizing a lot of things that you use to have a certain view on have changed, and I agree that it is a amazing feeling to share such moments with friends but have also learned that some friends become like family to you, and then if you ever have a disagreement or worse, it hurts even more so or equal to that of someone you love of a different nature, So i guess you can consider it a double edged sword, no matter how careful you are you can still end up hurt, that's why I choose to live the way i do, because i know that is only a matter of time before someone hurts you, you just have to determine which people are worth the pain, and whether or not you can look past it to a better future.

Thanks for your input, I like to see everyone's opinions, it helps me to learn :)

[AzuPazu]

Yeah I can understand how most wouldn't, because I too use to feel the same way about it, but as you grow and mature more, you start realizing a lot of things that you use to have a certain view on have changed, and I agree that it is a amazing feeling to share such moments with friends but have also learned that some friends become like family to you, and then if you ever have a disagreement or worse, it hurts even more so or equal to that of someone you love of a different nature, So i guess you can consider it a double edged sword, no matter how careful you are you can still end up hurt, that's why I choose to live the way i do, because i know that is only a matter of time before someone hurts you, you just have to determine which people are worth the pain, and whether or not you can look past it to a better future.

Thanks for your input, I like to see everyone's opinions, it helps me to learn :)

I guess you do have a point there. I'm just different with friends than those I like I guess. When you're close to someone, you're more likely to open (in my case at least). You share stuff, they get to know your flaws. I think it will always hurt more for me to lose someone that used to be that close.
I'm never that open with friends, I would never call them when I'm close to a breakdown by example.

[Dennis Chaney]

I guess you do have a point there. I'm just different with friends than those I like I guess. When you're close to someone, you're more likely to open (in my case at least). You share stuff, they get to know your flaws. I think it will always hurt more for me to lose someone that used to be that close.
I'm never that open with friends, I would never call them when I'm close to a breakdown by example.

Yeah that is true, I guess it is all just a matter of how you are with different types of people in your life.

[Uniquemind]

I have a mixed view combining aspects of both of your outlooks on human relations be it friend, platonic family, or romantic/sexual.

I see everyone being an entity unto themselves with a sphere of influence (like gravity) that has a ripple effect -some stronger than others- depending on their distance and position to other entities (others).

There's this constant exchange of energy and information, some synergistic, others destructive, still more possessive.

Each of these entities has to a of micro-interactions occurring just within themselves as well (neurotransmitters, bodily functions, etc.)

So I use the cosmos as an analogy to relationships.

Some have larger social networks, are richer or poorer, affecting their social-gravitational force.

This affects how others orbit you, and you them.

Romantic relationships are trickier because the balance had to be just right so as not to drift apart not collide into each other in mutual destruction.

If such an even happens, you'll change and learn from experience, or drift on, and sometimes a 3rd party influences the orbit (a social asteroid so to speak).

[Dennis Chaney]

I have a mixed view combining aspects of both of your outlooks on human relations be it friend, platonic family, or romantic/sexual.

I see everyone being an entity unto themselves with a sphere of influence (like gravity) that has a ripple effect -some stronger than others- depending on their distance and position to other entities (others).

There's this constant exchange of energy and information, some synergistic, others destructive, still more possessive.

Each of these entities has to a of micro-interactions occurring just within themselves as well (neurotransmitters, bodily functions, etc.)

So I use the cosmos as an analogy to relationships.

Some have larger social networks, are richer or poorer, affecting their social-gravitational force.

This affects how others orbit you, and you them.

Romantic relationships are trickier because the balance had to be just right so as not to drift apart not collide into each other in mutual destruction.

If such an even happens, you'll change and learn from experience, or drift on, and sometimes a 3rd party influences the orbit (a social asteroid so to speak).

I haven't necessarily heard of it being put that way before, but it is definitely interesting to me, thanks for your insight :)