Anxiety Around Girls

[Andrew99]

Hey, I'm 17 years old, and I have real bad anxiety around girls. It's been like this for all my life, not just a typical nervousness that I guess most people get. I've obviously never had a girlfriend, kissed a girl or anything like that, or even been friends with a girl. This may sound smug and big headed but I don't think I'm bad looking, I work out most days of the week and I don't think I'm particularly ugly. I feel like some girls think I'm ignorant for not wanting to have a conversation with them. I do want to be able to talk to girls, I sometimes see a girl that I develop a massive crush for and there's nothing I can do about it and it just leaves me sad. When I go on nights out into nightclubs I don't have the courage to try and talk to girls then when I'm drunk. I thought when I was younger that I'd grow out of this, but I'm really starting to worry that I'll never have a girlfriend. I'm not a bad person, I just feel like there's a 'barrier like force' that stops me from being able to talk to a girl without being nervous or anxious, I would really like to get over this but I really don't know how. If anyone could help me I'd be truly grateful. Thank you

Also, I cannot approach girls, I feel like something is stopping me. This is usually more likely around more attractive girls. Sometimes attractive girls approach me, like when I was out this night this girl I have crush on tried to talk to me, but I couldn't really say a lot back, even when we were both drunk

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[ska8er]

Being drunk might give u a little courage
but it is not then true u. If u work out and
don't consider urself "ugly" I don't c why u
cannot start a conversation with a girl. I'm
sure there is someone out there that takes
notice of u. The first step is being a friend
and being urself. If u cannot handle this
then get to know girls online and then
maybe it will b easier to talk live with
girls.

[Andrew99]

Being drunk might give u a little courage
but it is not then true u. If u work out and
don't consider urself "ugly" I don't c why u
cannot start a conversation with a girl. I'm
sure there is someone out there that takes
notice of u. The first step is being a friend
and being urself. If u cannot handle this
then get to know girls online and then
maybe it will b easier to talk live with
girls.

Idk where to even start by messaging a girl online

[Just JT]

All girls or just the girls your attracted to?'

[ska8er]

Idk where to even start by messaging a girl online

Bro this forum right here. There r a lot of social
groups on VT-search them out and maybe u can
find one where u can talk with someone. U got to
start somewhere. Start a conversation with a girl
and get a hint of something she likes and then
ask her some questions. U can also try Facebook.
Its not that hard of a thing-a girl is not going to
cut ur nutz off online-maybe bruise u but not
ruin. ;):)

[Andrew99]

All girls or just the girls your attracted to?'

All girls

[Andrew99]

Bro this forum right here. There r a lot of social
groups on VT-search them out and maybe u can
find one where u can talk with someone. U got to
start somewhere. Start a conversation with a girl
and get a hint of something she likes and then
ask her some questions. U can also try Facebook.
Its not that hard of a thing-a girl is not going to
cut ur nutz off online-maybe bruise u but not
ruin. ;):)
How do I find these groups on this site?

[ska8er]

How do I find these groups on this site?

Bro-Go to ur Profile Page-Below the Large Virtual Teen Heading
Go to Community and click it on and then pick Social Groups
and it will take u to all of them.

[Andrew99]

Bro-Go to ur Profile Page-Below the Large Virtual Teen Heading
Go to Community and click it on and then pick Social Groups
and it will take u to all of them.


Thanks😊

[jamie_n5]

I think that with the seriousness of the problem that you describe I think that seeing a professional counselor might be the right thing to do my friend.

[VioletPerkins]

Nothing wrong with being anxious or nervous around girls. Just don't let it stop you from making new friends or starting a relationship with one. Pretend that you're talking to one of your guy friends when talking to a girl. It may make it easier to talk with someone that way. And be confident in yourself