Friends with benefits,

[Tobyisnotdead]

Me and this girl have an agreement as to what counts as a purely sexual relationship and an actual relationship. Right now we've already done more then most couples, but I want to start an actual relationship with her. What would be the best way to tell her?

[ska8er]

In a sexual relationship u r more controlled
by who u c and what u do-in a way it is like
a marriage. In a friendship u r more open
with each other.

[Tobyisnotdead]

In a sexual relationship u r more controlled
by who u c and what u do-in a way it is like
a marriage. In a friendship u r more open
with each other.

I know, and that's why I don't want to ruin what wre have, but I like this one romantically now, not just sexually.

[ska8er]

I know, and that's why I don't want to ruin what wre have, but I like this one romantically now, not just sexually.

So u started out sexually and now u want
to b in love? Romance leads to sex. I know
where ur coming from but it seems backwards.

[Tobyisnotdead]

So u started out sexually and now u want
to b in love? Romance leads to sex. I know
where ur coming from but it seems backwards.

Friends with benefits is just for the sex, however I want to actually start an exclusive relationship with her.

[Dalcourt]

Friends with benefits is just for the sex, however I want to actually start an exclusive relationship with her.

And what are her feelings about it? I mean you have to talk to her about it if you what this. I have a fwb relationship going on for a few years now and I don't have romantic feelings and will never have my friend knows that and well if it would be different for her it would be really awkward and maybe ruin our whole friendship.
For this reason a fwb usually isn't recommended.

So talk to her and it will either work out or it won't.

[Tobyisnotdead]

And what are her feelings about it? I mean you have to talk to her about it if you what this. I have a fwb relationship going on for a few years now and I don't have romantic feelings and will never have my friend knows that and well if it would be different for her it would be really awkward and maybe ruin our whole friendship.
For this reason a fwb usually isn't recommended.

So talk to her and it will either work out or it won't.
The thing is we'll go out places alone together but the relationship isn't exclusive. Maybe fwb wasn't the best way to describe it, like I've had a couple hook ups while we've been in this "relationship." I just want it to be exclusive. What would be the best way to tell her, while still being friends if she's not cool with it?

[Dalcourt]

The thing is we'll go out places alone together but the relationship isn't exclusive. Maybe fwb wasn't the best way to describe it, like I've had a couple hook ups while we've been in this "relationship." I just want it to be exclusive. What would be the best way to tell her, while still being friends if she's not cool with it?

How to tell her? Difficult to say since I guess this really depends on a lot of things. The best way would be to find out what she thinks about the current relationship. I mean does she have other hook ups too? Doess she talk about other guys with you?
I guess that's the best way to find out how she feels about it.

And well just be honest...tell her your real feelings and the reasons why you want it to be exclusive now.

And about your friendship surviving if she doesn't want...I don't know, could you keep it up without getting jealous when she is with another person? If you can and don't hold any grudges for hurt feelings of being rejected your friendship can survive

[Tobyisnotdead]

How to tell her? Difficult to say since I guess this really depends on a lot of things. The best way would be to find out what she thinks about the current relationship. I mean does she have other hook ups too? Doess she talk about other guys with you?
I guess that's the best way to find out how she feels about it.

And well just be honest...tell her your real feelings and the reasons why you want it to be exclusive now.

And about your friendship surviving if she doesn't want...I don't know, could you keep it up without getting jealous when she is with another person? If you can and don't hold any grudges for hurt feelings of being rejected your friendship can survive
Good thing I'm not the jealous type. I don't know maybe I'll just ask her what she thinks about the current status of our relationship. Thanks guys.

[jamie_n5]

Well I think you answered your own question. The best thing that you can do is talk to her and tell her how you feel and see what she says. Then you can figure out if you want to continue as you are or get romantic. You are awfully young to be doing what you are doing anyway if you ask me.

[Tobyisnotdead]

Well I think you answered your own question. The best thing that you can do is talk to her and tell her how you feel and see what she says. Then you can figure out if you want to continue as you are or get romantic. You are awfully young to be doing what you are doing anyway if you ask me.

No point in limiting the amount of pleasure I want if I don't have too. As long as the things I'm doing don't affect my personal goals. Thanks for your concern though.