Name Calling

[Leemac1999]

I've gotten into my first gay relationship and I'm really happy but there is one thing which I'm confused about. When we are kissing and getting into it he normally says something like " I really like you, even though you're a fanny " and I don't know if he's doing it jokingly or if I'm overreacting. I don't know what to do because it ruins the mood when we are close.

[ClaraWho]

Communication is the bedrock of a solid, healthy relationship. This needs to be brought up when you are alone and it's quiet. Tell him how it kills the mood and how it makes you feel, say he might not have realised it was upsetting or off-putting to you, but could he please stop.

If you never talk about an issue, you can never resolve it.

~ Clara

[AceOfHearts]

Communication is the bedrock of a solid, healthy relationship. This needs to be brought up when you are alone and it's quiet. Tell him how it kills the mood and how it makes you feel, say he might not have realised it was upsetting or off-putting to you, but could he please stop.

If you never talk about an issue, you can never resolve it.

~ Clara

Clara is right. You need to be able to talk about these things, and if you don't feel comfortable saying them or you're scared then it's probably not very healthy for you.

[Just JT]

I agree. If he's really into you and you into him it shouldn't matter Ormiston make a difference. So just ask him and say something. Never know what he'll say but you'll understand where he's coming from then. And he should stop. If not then I'd consider his motives and how they make you feel.

Communication is huge, in any relationship. If you can't talk about it then it may not be all that of a relationship as you thought

[ska8er]

I've gotten into my first gay relationship and I'm really happy but there is one thing which I'm confused about. When we are kissing and getting into it he normally says something like " I really like you, even though you're a fanny " and I don't know if he's doing it jokingly or if I'm overreacting. I don't know what to do because it ruins the mood when we are close.

Ask him y he is making a comment like that-that
u r confused by it. U know him better of what he
says and does-u should get a hint of that. Is he
smiling when he says that? He may be Bi and
questioning his sexuality when he is with u.
Don't overreact just give him time and c how
he further acts.

[jamie_n5]

If it bothers you then talk to him about it. It might be just a pet name or object of affection from him.

[Emilyyy]

He's probably just joking around to be honest but if it really bothers you and you would rather he didn't then just politely tell him that you don't really appreciate it.

[Zachary G]

Communication is key to a good relationship. If he doesnt know how you feel, how is he expected to act accordingly? You have to let him know.