Scared To Masturbate...

[Sevun]

Hey y'all. Over the course of the past two years, I have heard how amazing it is to masturbate and to orgasm. I've been horny for many days from watching certain things ;) and have stayed up late to rub one and let the animal within my roam free. However, I have 4 concerns. One, my parents are typical Asians and I am well known through my friendship groups as the smart academic one who is innocent, and I feel like I can't enjoy myself sexually without feeling sin (not religious) and letting down their expectations. Secondly, my slit is placed higher up and my foreskin often balloons around it when I pee unless I pull it back. When my foreskin balloons, the trajectory of my pee can be inconsistent. So with this in mind, I'm afraid my cum will go all over the place and making a huge mess (I don't want to hold a sock over my penis bc that's unhygienic and who wants to restrict their first supposedly amazing orgasm?). Thirdly, I'm afraid I might make a humungous moan and my well to do parents will find out and things will be awkward. They would definitely frown upon it I think. And lastly, I want to try anal penetration to reach my prostate (the pleasure is supposedly to be legendary), but in the back of my mind I find it a rather large step (much bigger than masturbation), I'll find something unpleasantly brown in there, my finger will be too pointy and feel weird, and that it may even get stuck in there. Jeez I am one big worrier! Please help kind people of VirtualTeen Forums!!!

[Hermes]

...One, my parents are typical Asians and I am well known through my friendship groups as the smart academic one who is innocent, and I feel like I can't enjoy myself sexually without feeling sin (not religious) and letting down their expectations.

You are talking as if two things are mutually exclusive: that people are either academic and therefore disciplined or they are undisciplined and sexual. It's true that there is only a certain amount of time so if you were to spend it all chasing girls maybe your studies would suffer but that doesn't mean you can't spare a small amount of time to reward yourself with an orgasm when you feel like it.

If you're accademic the chances are your parents are too and they must have managed to find time for sex because they had you. You could argue that's different because sex does something useful that masturbation doesn't but that is an oversimplification. Masturbation make you feel good, helps you control your horniness and is good for your prostate.

The other thing is our parents start off thinking of us as "their little boy" but we all grow up and they have to get used to the fact you are changing from a boy into a man sometime so there isn't really any point in trying to delay that adjustment.

Secondly, my slit is placed higher up and my foreskin often balloons around it when I pee unless I pull it back. When my foreskin balloons, the trajectory of my pee can be inconsistent. So with this in mind, I'm afraid my cum will go all over the place and making a huge mess (I don't want to hold a sock over my penis bc that's unhygienic and who wants to restrict their first supposedly amazing orgasm?).

I'm uncut too and I find my skin is usually back as I cum so it doesn't get in the way. If you're worried about it, though, just choose to do it somewhere where a bit of a mess wouldn't matter. Bear in mind it is only a few ml of liquid, not a whole bladder-full like when you pee.

Thirdly, I'm afraid I might make a humungous moan and my well to do parents will find out and things will be awkward. They would definitely frown upon it I think.

I don't moan and I think most guys can control it. If you are worried, though, can you pick a time when they're out of earshot?

And lastly, I want to try anal penetration to reach my prostate (the pleasure is supposedly to be legendary), but in the back of my mind I find it a rather large step (much bigger than masturbation)...

So don't start with this. Get used to doing it the without this first and then branch out.

[Sevun]

You are talking as if two things are mutually exclusive: that people are either academic and therefore disciplined or they are undisciplined and sexual. It's true that there is only a certain amount of time so if you were to spend it all chasing girls maybe your studies would suffer but that doesn't mean you can't spare a small amount of time to reward yourself with an orgasm when you feel like it.

If you're accademic the chances are your parents are too and they must have managed to find time for sex because they had you. You could argue that's different because sex does something useful that masturbation doesn't but that is an oversimplification. Masturbation make you feel good, helps you control your horniness and is good for your prostate.

The other thing is our parents start off thinking of us as "their little boy" but we all grow up and they have to get used to the fact you are changing from a boy into a man sometime so there isn't really any point in trying to delay that adjustment.



I'm uncut too and I find my skin is usually back as I cum so it doesn't get in the way. If you're worried about it, though, just choose to do it somewhere where a bit of a mess wouldn't matter. Bear in mind it is only a few ml of liquid, not a whole bladder-full like when you pee.



I don't moan and I think most guys can control it. If you are worried, though, can you pick a time when they're out of earshot?



So don't start with this. Get used to doing it the without this first and then branch out.

Mate, thanks for the advice. A lot of the time it's just "what's going to happen next" when you reach that stage of almost ejaculating, so yeah cheers, really appreciate it :)

[TheTallGuyPH]

Hey y'all. Over the course of the past two years, I have heard how amazing it is to masturbate and to orgasm. I've been horny for many days from watching certain things ;) and have stayed up late to rub one and let the animal within my roam free. However, I have 4 concerns. One, my parents are typical Asians and I am well known through my friendship groups as the smart academic one who is innocent, and I feel like I can't enjoy myself sexually without feeling sin (not religious) and letting down their expectations.

Well, I am not boasting but I can say I'm also smart, the academic one in our class. BTW, I'm a Filipino who lives in the Philippines (Yes, some of the guys don't identify Filipinos as Asian. The truth is we're Asian). I have Asian parents. All in our class including me expect that we are all educated with sex. We expect that we all masturbate which is true. I don't feel anything like I was making a sin 'cause it is natural and we NEED it (to answer our sex drive and to exercise our reproductive system). My parents know I jerk. My friends do to. Your father might've jerked when he was young. Mine did. For short, it's natural.

Secondly, my slit is placed higher up and my foreskin often balloons around it when I pee unless I pull it back. When my foreskin balloons, the trajectory of my pee can be inconsistent. So with this in mind, I'm afraid my cum will go all over the place and making a huge mess (I don't want to hold a sock over my penis bc that's unhygienic and who wants to restrict their first supposedly amazing orgasm?).

Circumcision. Or do it during your shower? Have you tried to pull it back when you cum?

Thirdly, I'm afraid I might make a humungous moan and my well to do parents will find out and things will be awkward. They would definitely frown upon it I think.

Gag. Use gag.

And lastly, I want to try anal penetration to reach my prostate (the pleasure is supposedly to be legendary), but in the back of my mind I find it a rather large step (much bigger than masturbation), I'll find something unpleasantly brown in there, my finger will be too pointy and feel weird, and that it may even get stuck in there. Jeez I am one big worrier! Please help kind people of VirtualTeen Forums!!!

I have tried it but I still haven't achieve orgasm with it. Well, I suggest you clean it. I don't have enema (I am not sure if that how you call the thing you use to clean your colon.), but instead I used plastic bottle and squish it for the water to go inside of me and I bounce and I sit on the toilet and let it out. Repeat it at least 3 times. Now it is clean. I tried to finger myself and I was about to get an orgasm but it didn't continue. And I found out that while something throbs your hole, you sometimes lose your erection.

[ska8er]

Y don't u just try to forget everything that
u seem to b obsessed with and enjoy just
rubbing one out. Many of us have had the
same probs u believe u have but when we
have to release the animal within us at that
point nothing else matters. U worry too much-
just enjoy it.

[Kyle37]

You can still jerk off and do well at school (unless it consumes to much of your time, so be careful). In terms of foreskin, and how inaccurate it is when cumming, it doesn't really matter and its pretty consistent as opposed to be, as pee rushes out like a hose, but cum is more gooey. So if you shoot with your foreskin covering your slit, it should just drip down. You don't need to moan if you don't want to. And finally, in all my years of experience, I've never done anything anally so I can't help you with that.

[Hermes]

Mate, thanks for the advice. A lot of the time it's just "what's going to happen next" when you reach that stage of almost ejaculating, so yeah cheers, really appreciate it :)

What is going to happen next, if you can persuade yourself to keep going, is the best, most intense and enjoyable sensation and then afterwards a sense of peace and relaxation. It is a pity to miss on that which is why I suggested choosing a time and place so you can put you mind at rest about those fears and then go for it.

[harristhetank]

Side question, does it mean you have never had an orgasm before?

[pconnor]

You should try it. Pick somewhere private. Maybe the shower.Easy cleanup and no-one will hear you.

[Sevun]

What is going to happen next, if you can persuade yourself to keep going, is the best, most intense and enjoyable sensation and then afterwards a sense of peace and relaxation. It is a pity to miss on that which is why I suggested choosing a time and place so you can put you mind at rest about those fears and then go for it.
Thanks man :) Will do when I have some free time (got this massive science research investigation project at the start of this year)

Side question, does it mean you have never had an orgasm before?
Yeah... xD
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Also guys, when I say that I'm academic, have typical Asian parents, considered innocent, I'm just basically trying to say that it feels wrong compared to my typical expectation of a good person. This is due to at my school, we have a whole bunch of popular douchebags who jerk off, have complete disregard for their education, and ask for nudes, and it's silly, but I feel like masturbation would mean I would be associated to them in some horrible way. Also, being brought up in the way of my parents and being considered innocent has also made me want to disassociate with these people so masturbation would just go against all of that.

[Jericho14]

Well you can either stay up late or wake up early (while they're still sleeping) to masturbate but just shoot the cum on your body and then clean it up on toilet, And yep try not to moan as well..

My parents doesn't expect me to masturbate (Because it's a sin/We're catholics) while they don't know i've been doing it for a year now, Im sure my dad used to jerk off but was forced to stop it

[Sevun]

You can still jerk off and do well at school (unless it consumes to much of your time, so be careful). In terms of foreskin, and how inaccurate it is when cumming, it doesn't really matter and its pretty consistent as opposed to be, as pee rushes out like a hose, but cum is more gooey. So if you shoot with your foreskin covering your slit, it should just drip down. You don't need to moan if you don't want to. And finally, in all my years of experience, I've never done anything anally so I can't help you with that.


After reading this comment again, I think have also realised that getting addicted to masturbation and losing focus on my studies is a fear of mine, so yeah, you can also put that down as a reason.

[harristhetank]

Thanks man :) Will do when I have some free time (got this massive science research investigation project at the start of this year)


Yeah... xD
~~~
Also guys, when I say that I'm academic, have typical Asian parents, considered innocent, I'm just basically trying to say that it feels wrong compared to my typical expectation of a good person. This is due to at my school, we have a whole bunch of popular douchebags who jerk off, have complete disregard for their education, and ask for nudes, and it's silly, but I feel like masturbation would mean I would be associated to them in some horrible way. Also, being brought up in the way of my parents and being considered innocent has also made me want to disassociate with these people so masturbation would just go against all of that.
Lol man you have missed out! Masturbation is completely and you are literally the first teenage guy I met who hasn't had an orgasm before!

[Sevun]

Lol man you have missed out! Masturbation is completely and you are literally the first teenage guy I met who hasn't had an orgasm before!

Lol it's not like I have decided to not do it ever again. Masturbation is completely what?
And, I guess there's always a time for firsts ;)

[harristhetank]

Lol it's not like I have decided to not do it ever again. Masturbation is completely what?
And, I guess there's always a time for firsts ;)

completely normal lol that was a typo. So are you ever gonna masturbate or not?

[Pratik]

My friend don't worry about it...its normal to masturbate daily once or twice to refresh our body and mind and everyone have same experience in their life .....so just enjoy...

[Sevun]

completely normal lol that was a typo. So are you ever gonna masturbate or not?

Yes, when I'm ready.

[Sevun]

Bump

[Cassius16]

It's definitely normal! Just go somewhere private and I'm sure you'll work it out over time

[conradpjones]

Lol man you have missed out! Masturbation is completely and you are literally the first teenage guy I met who hasn't had an orgasm before!

I've never had one bro

[Dalcourt]

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