Sexual attraction

[SammiB]

When you are sexually attracted to someone is it more about the person or their looks?

[Emilyyy]

It's a bit of both for me, mostly their looks though if I'm sexually attracted but their personality has to been good as well. Like if someone was really good looking but had a horrible personality that would put me right off. So yeah it;s a mixture of both but both must be good for me to be attracted to them sexually :)

[Emily 13]

Must be something wrong with me but I am sexually attracted to just about every guy I see at the moment.

[sara___]

If i am attracted to a guy based on his looks only it is someone i've never met and i'd say it was sexual.

But once i meet him no matter how hot he is if he is a jerk i would lose any sexual interest i had for him .

[VioletPerkins]

More about the person for me. How the person treats others, and his personality, is the most important for me. Good looks are just an added bonus

[Barbara.]

More about the person for me. How the person treats others, and his personality, is the most important for me. Good looks are just an added bonus
I agree with Violet, couldn't have said it any better.

[Taryn98]

The person not the looks

[Cute_Jenny]

the person and her/his brain

[angelina]

sure it is that person and his good manners

[Phosphene]

I really like what VioletPerkins said. To me, personality comes before looks, no exceptions. If I was sexually attracted to someone good-looking who treated everyone horribly, would I want to act on these feelings with that person? No way.

[LanaPole]

It's pretty much his looks, but at the emotional level it depends on the person. Sexually it's just the looks.

[Jamy]

The looks and character are both important but when somebody is attractive and has a character which isn't nice or even bad it will not be successful for me.

[BlackParadePixie]

Honestly it's both...separately or together. There are guys that I have been sexually attracted to because of their attitude or overall personality. And then of course there are guys I was sexually attracted to because they looked nice. And there have also been guys who were a combination of both.

[MaeFae]

I think a lot of the initial approach and introduction has to do with looks but beyond that if there is no connection, then I'm out. If I meet someone through friends and I am not super attracted to them physically but I still enjoy their personality, then I'll still try to get to know them better :)

[ClovesXIII]

well it's obviously looks since I can't sense someone's personality from just looking at them.

But I'm the kind of person that doesn't judge too hard on looks so i'm pretty much open to anyone at first glance.

[AzuPazu]

Surely looks would play some role. Though I realized it doesn't play that much of a big role to me after all (ended on liking someone whose looks weren't attractive to me until I got to know him).
Otherwise, what is attractive to me is hygiene, body care in general, voices (omg you have no idea how long I could listen to some people talk really ;;) and well a good personality.

[Miss Ophelia]

Personality is very important. Good look might attract you, but if there's "no one at home", the relationship gets a bit lonely.

[Anniebanannie]

It's some of both. But I think what counts in the long run is how you feel about the person.

[IzzyB]

It's some of both. But I think what counts in the long run is how you feel about the person.

My feelings exactly!

[clobo]

Must be something wrong with me but I am sexually attracted to just about every guy I see at the moment.

I think that's me too! lol

[ChloeF]

Looks to start with but a combination of both once l've met them but then again, l've got dog ugly guy friends who's personalities win with me every time.

[LITTLEANGEL19]

For me it would be compatibility (ie. do we gel/click) personality and to be able to trust them. Looks is not high on my agenda.

[IzzyB]

And there's no bigger turn-off then a guy who's a total jerk! Total buzz killer.

[Shiny Moon]

Honestly it's both...separately or together. There are guys that I have been sexually attracted to because of their attitude or overall personality. And then of course there are guys I was sexually attracted to because they looked nice. And there have also been guys who were a combination of both.

Pretty much this.

[shy_indian_chick]

Pretty much this.

I agree with this as well. Attraction is usually quite complex - it's not exactly one or the other.

[RavenTheGoddess]

Truth be told, I'm the kind of person to be more attracted to personality than looks.

[Raven Foxx]

It's a bit of both for me. But there is one girl who is attractive because of purely her kindness.

[Londongirl01]

Initially, Im attracted by their looks but they have to have personality if its to o anywhere further x

[nicole97]

Looks are good for creating an initial interest and catching an eye, but honestly, if I'm actually going to be intimate with anyone there's got be a strong level of connection beyond that.

[geanyna]

there has to be this moment when were clicking. looks, smile, smell, attitude, charisma – theres so much that can cause attraction.

[Suzy18]

The looks and character are both important but when somebody is attractive and has a character which isn't nice or even bad it doen't work of course.

[Brigje]

I agree with this as well. Attraction is usually quite complex - it's not exactly one or the other.

For me it is never one or the other but a mix of both.

[Trish_Lynn]

If I see a hot guy at the mall or where ever, of course I'll be sexually attracted to him.

But just because he's looks hot or has a great bod, if he comes across as a total jerk or just full of himself, that's a total turn off.

[jennycakes]

Agree with several other posts here. If I see a good looking person, of course I'll be sexually attracted to them. But after the initial meeting, personality takes over. They could be really hot but a total a$$. Good looks do not win over a terrible personality.

[DerpyGirl]

^ Absolutely 100% agree with Jenny. Your looks could be 10/10 but if you have a sh*tty personality, you're automatically a 2.

[yeehaw]

The looks and character are both important but when somebody is attractive and has a character which isn't nice or even bad it doen't work of course.

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