Does she like me and should I do something?

[byrne99]

Im a 15 year old boy and I have a crush on this girl my age. She lives quite far away and i only see her about once a month but we get on really well. Ive known her since I was born but its only in the last 6 months ive noticed how much i liked her. She always laughs really hard at my jokes even when they're not funny and seems to like me (as a friend) but this may just be her being nice. She looks at me at lot when something funny or weird happens; like she's sharing an inside joke or trying to gauge my reaction She is only like this when there are less people around though; when we're in a big group she pays less attention to me. The last few times i've seen her though I noticed her staring at me and when I look she quickly turns away. She sometimes seems upset or quiet when I talk to other girls in the group we hang out with. But she doesn't seems to like it when I try to impress her. Like she was joke lifting some light weights and I helped her. I brought down my actual weights and she could barely raise them at all. But she seemed miffed or disinterested that I could. Sorry if this seems lame its just odd behaviour compared to how she normally acts around me.

BUT... Even IF she does like me, I'm not sure what to do. I don't have any experience in this kind of thing and I don't want to make things awkward coz our families are close. I really like her, to the point where I get minor separation anxiety, but I don't want to ruin our friendship. I'm not even sure how close she considers me a friend as she acts nice towards everyone. Even if it was mutual, I couldn't really meet up with her more often so a proper relationship seems impossible.

I feel like I have to do something as seeing her but not knowing is torture. I always feel depressed the day after I see her because of the frustration of nothing happening. But at the same time, I would hate to make things awkward. Suggestions?

[jamie_n5]

I definitely think she likes you. You are both at the age where you are beginning to think about a serious relationship. The bad thing is that you don't see each other much. When your not together do you text or call each other to stay in touch? If not you could try do that for a first step. You could also tell her that you miss her and think of her all the time when your apart and see how she reacts to that. Good luck man.

[byrne99]

Thanks man. Yeah we do a bit but not that much, I was thinking about messaging her more, I'll definitely do that.

[Uniquemind]

I think she likes you too.

But your trying to "impress her" as if she was a guy.

Guys probably care more about how much another guy can bench press, more than most girls do.

It's like the context is wrong:

Example:

Guy 1: I can bench press 80!

Guy 2: I can bench press 150! I'm better!

Your situation:

The girl: I can bench press these 15 lbs weights

You: I can bench press 50! Whose better?

The girl (not wanting to loose face): attempts, fails, is annoyed because she wasn't asking about a contest, she was trying to be playful.


Your job is to pickup on those playful opportunities, and use them to flirt and eventually start a conversation about establishing a relationship and what each of you want out of the future.

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Now I think you owe her a gratitude present, I recommend something she can wear something that fits her size and style. (Earrings, bracelet, rings, stuffed animal)

When you see her again see if she wears it or keeps it close.

Then slowly start spending time with her once you learn to drive (so start studying the drivers handbook and laws of the road) and slowly if you're as close as you say you are start dating.

It's highly likely she's shy and doesn't show affection much when your with groups because she doesn't want to be teased playfully by the group.