Do I really continue the cycle?

[ThePageantQueen]

Ugh. Hi there. It's been literally forever since I've even been o the sight, life seemed to be going decent enough to try to handle it all. Well, apparently life never stops throwing those curveballs at you.

I just broke up with my almost 2.5 year boyfriend (with various "breaks" here and there) about two months ago and it's definitely been rough. You see, I'm REALLY close with my mom, always have been. Well, I've dated this guy ever since I met him back in the summer before 8th grade (2.5 years ago). Things were great for a while (he was a hugely popular kid on the football field being tested up as a 9th grader, just a total jock) but then a few months into it the cheating cycle began. Anyway, it cycled around multiple times and then this last time, I'd had enough. But he comes from a neglectful homelife and thus my mom and his relationship grew IMMENSELY strong. It's constantly a struggle between my mom and I. She wants me to get back with him, but I just don't know if I can feel the same way. I've been hurt so many times before, how do you recover from it? He's supposedly been "changing" and he's been trying to prove himself that he can be the boyfriend I actually wanted him to be, but should it be too late? All my friends are against hi because he's hurt me so badly SO many times, but my mom (one of the people I literally care about the most) thinks I should give him another chance. Then again, sometimes she also agrees that he's done me so wrong that it's almost too hard to come back from.

I just don't know. Help?

[LRSSS02]

Do what you know is right in your heart if I were you, I would try one more time and tell him that if he slips up even the slightest that it is over for good.

[Just JT]

Once a cheater always a cheater
He'll never change, it's already programmed into his moral standing
And you won't change that

[ska8er]

Its tough after a long relationship to let go
especially when u have been hurt, Ur friends
as well as ur Mom r telling u how bad he has
treated u even tho she is as confused as u r
but I would try to look for someone else who
will appreciate u more. I just came off of a yr
relationship with my girl who cheated on me
and I hurt too but I guess after awhile things
get stale and its time to find someone new.

[kyle_01]

I agree with Just JT, once a cheater always a cheater. You could go ahead and give him another chance. But the problem about giving people who cheated on you a second chance is that they lose respect for you. Either consciously or unconsciously. So even though it is very difficult, i would just try to move on to look for someone that appreciate u more as ska8er was saying.

[idefineme]

Looks like you're atill into him ,but what he did to you is not cool,and you recognized it's a cycle .the only thing that stares me in the face about this is that your mom's bias should not dictate your relationships.

[Deku]

Alright, this clearly shows that you need to end this for your sake. You do know that this cycle will continue on and on and on, and personally if I were you, that's a clear sign that I would need to stop it. Almost every guy in a situation like yours does this, and it's all because of who that person is. You can't change that and he can't, no matter how many times. You need to explain to your mom that you can't take it anymore, and she needs to realize that you're in pain. You've already given him another chance, and clearly he can't commit.

Of course, this is all my opinion, so do what you personally feel is the right thing to do. I don't know, maybe give it one last chance and see if he's telling the truth. But, if you are that hurt, don't continue in this cycle. It's not good for your wellbeing and he needs to know how you feel. ;)

[Adarest]

You can still be friends with him since you know each other so well, but I wouldn't recommend to date him again. You have to accept that he might cheat again and doing so repeatedly didn't prove he would stay faithful to you. I'd say stop dating him and keep it platonic friendship. Sorry, no more love for him.

[Uniquemind]

You mom's bias in this is inappropriate, especially since it's her daughter that's been hurt multiple times. Most parents don't give boys like your ex a chance like that.

I know if I were in your shoes, I'd be out, especially with the types of STI's that aren't curable because of antibiotic resistance nowadays.