Need help coping with puberty

[Avolnation]

I don't have any older sibling so I can't really ask them for help. I'm 15 and I've matured a lot faster than most of the people I hang out with; I have a really deep voice and a mustache and hints of a beard and i hate it. this Christmas instead of games and toys my aunts and uncles got me things like body spray and shaving cream. I still want to be a child but all these changes are happening and it's stressing me out. My mom gives me a hard time for it too. She freaked out when my voice changed and it made me even more paranoid. I decided I just want to keep my facial hair and it's grown quite a bit but she kept making it awkward idk what to do

[NZPerson]

Ok first things first. Puberty happens and you cant stop it or slow it down.
Second, beards and moustaches look TERRIBLE if you cant grow one fully and luciously which very very very few people can do before theyre even twenty. Im sorry if it sounds mean but its just the facts. If you wanna keep it thats ur choice but you need to realise that puberty happens and just need to come to terms with that.

Shit man i wish i could be a kid again, all id have to worry about was making my bed and doing homework but we all have to grow up eventually.

You mum wouldnt make shaving awkward if you did it, shes doing u a favour. While it may seem like shes freaking bout ur deep voice shes probs just excited your growing up.

[ska8er]

Ur becoming a man-y do u want to continue
to b a child? If u have a heavy beard I would
shave it but if it is not that noticeable with a
few fuzz and the mustache keep it-I'm sure
other guys will envy u and the girls will think
its Hot. Don't get paranoid over puberty-Listen
Bro-"we r all going thru this"-u think ur alone.

[datboijoey]

I don't have any older sibling so I can't really ask them for help. I'm 15 and I've matured a lot faster than most of the people I hang out with; I have a really deep voice and a mustache and hints of a beard and i hate it. this Christmas instead of games and toys my aunts and uncles got me things like body spray and shaving cream. I still want to be a child but all these changes are happening and it's stressing me out. My mom gives me a hard time for it too. She freaked out when my voice changed and it made me even more paranoid. I decided I just want to keep my facial hair and it's grown quite a bit but she kept making it awkward idk what to do

I'm getting my dirtstache now too! Dude it's a great thing! Be happy your maturing! :)

[jamie_n5]

Well some of us do mature earlier. I was early too and can understand kind of how you feel. I guess you just have to accept this as a part of life. I did. I can remember taking out some of my toys to play with one day and suddenly I felt so awkward and didn't care to play with toys anymore. That will happen to you someday too I am sure. For now just do the things you like doing. If you don't shave however your peers may give you a load of crap too. Why don't you wait until this summer break and then let your beard grow out. Good luck my friend.

[DocMcLovins]

I don't have any older sibling so I can't really ask them for help. I'm 15 and I've matured a lot faster than most of the people I hang out with; I have a really deep voice and a mustache and hints of a beard and i hate it. this Christmas instead of games and toys my aunts and uncles got me things like body spray and shaving cream. I still want to be a child but all these changes are happening and it's stressing me out. My mom gives me a hard time for it too. She freaked out when my voice changed and it made me even more paranoid. I decided I just want to keep my facial hair and it's grown quite a bit but she kept making it awkward idk what to do

I didn't think 15 was young to be getting those things like voice and stache. My 13 yo friends are getting that already. Some of them. I wish I was. I would just be cool with it and happy you are becoming a man. Doesn't mean you have to change what you like. You're 15 you can still do child stuff. For your mon sounds like she needs a chill pill but you can't really worry about what other people do, just gotta do what you want. If you want to keep your beard then keep it. She can't MAKE you shave. But imo beards are gross. But do what u want.

[Makawhile]

TBH I had a similar problem with my parents but I was just honest and told them I'm changing and I can't be their little boy anymore and embraced the changes, I'm sure if your honest they'll be more supportive

[Just JT]

Without sounding mean, maybe there giving you a polite hint about how you smell or look...

Even if you don't have a full beard if you keep it trimmed it looks much better like you care. Maybe shave your neck up to your jaw line and shave a defined line on your cheek to. It shows you have an interest in hygiene and appearance.

Going back in time....bro we all do, I know I'm not alone when I say I feel like my childhood was stolen. It's justbhow life is bro, just keep doing what your doing and try and feel good about yourself. It'll pass and get better ok?

It will

[Hermes]

Some cultures have a "coming of age" ceremony that marks the transition to manhood, like the Bar Mitzvah in Jewish tradition in which a boy becomes responsible for his own compliance with the Torah and therefore becomes a man under Jewish law.

In may ways, though, the transition is not so sudden. As you mature you will expect, and be expected, to adopt more responsible and adult behaviours and show less childish behaviour but it's not like you suddenly swap action figures and spaceship models for a driver's license and a job and it's not like you suddenly swap having fun for being all serious. So, there is time to adjust but at the same time I think you do need to be looking forward with a positive attitude rather than looking back.

It sounds like you have also started to worry a bit about what other people think of your level of maturity. In the case of your aunts and uncles who don't know you as well, they may be playing safe, thinking that buying you something too childish would be bound to cause more offence than buying you something adult.

I think it can be hard for parents too, mums in particular, because there is a sense in which you will always be "her baby" - the one she had 15 years ago and her becoming aware or how far you are on the journey to manhood now will maybe set her thinking about when you might move out and go to college of set up house with a partner etc. But there is time between now and then. Time for you to mature mentally as well as physically and time for her to get used to the idea.

[Kyle37]

For 15, thats not really early to be experiencing those things. Don't worry, your family members are just having a little fun, and maybe don't know what to get you now that you're older (you probably wouldn't really care for a hot wheels set anymore). So next Christmas, give them hints on what to get you.

This question is really not about puberty, its just more of just a general kind of feelings that you have with other peoples actions as you get older. You'll experience this kind of shit all throughout life, not just 15 so buckle up.

[NewLeafsFan]

Welcome to puberty!

It sounds like you hit puberty really fast and hard (no pun intended). There are a lot of advantages to hitting puberty early.

I find it very strange that you hate your facial hair but you want to keep it.