Boyfriend wants me to watch him have sex with another guy

[fuzzypaul]

Hi I was wondering what to do about my boyfriend wanting me to watch him have sex with another guy because I'm kinda confused as to what to do. Do I just sit there awkwardly and watch or do i do or say something.

[pconnor]

That sounds strange.

[ska8er]

Does he just want u to watch or
to join in? Maybe its a hint.

[fuzzypaul]

No he wants me to watch cause he thinks it'd be hot and then he wants to do something to me as they do it

[Uniquemind]

Sounds like an issue to be worked out with him and his kinks.

It boils down to this, what do YOU want from the relationship.

If it's uncomfortable to do this for him, don't.

[ClaraWho]

Very much in agreeance with the above. Is this something that you want? Are you comfortable with it?

Personally I would consider my relationship over if he wanted other people, male or female, sexually or romantically. But there are some people on here with very different, shall we say, relationship 'types'.

As for how to go about it, if you should say anything or logistics, replying to that would be against the rules and certainly not appropriate for this forum. Welcome to Vteen.

~ Clara

[Bontigo Papi .]

That's just crazy af . You really want to watch him ? I'm not saying you should join in either but you should know what you want , don't you think ?

[army martin]

If your not comfortable with it then say no. You should at least talk to him.

[redrider12]

This is a thing that you both need to talk about. I have a few thoughts about it, though.
1) Are you both willing to be in such an open relationship? Where you both know that you're having sex with other people?
2) What are you honest thoughts? Why do you think he wants to have you watch?

This is something one of my exes proposed to me. She wanted me to watch her do things with one of her best female friends. I personally couldn't find anything redeeming about watching my significant other be sexual with another person, male or female. The way I see it is this - If I wanted to see girl-on-girl, I'd do so online

[Emilyyy]

Totally agree that if this makes you feel uncomfortable you should tell him and you shouldn't take part in this, if he tries to force you or anything then that's abuse. He might be into some weird stuff but you don't have to be part of it.

[SethfromMI]

Sounds like an issue to be worked out with him and his kinks.

It boils down to this, what do YOU want from the relationship.

If it's uncomfortable to do this for him, don't.

this. if it is something you want to do, I would still talk about the boundaries of what is going to happen. I will caution by saying this, even when this stuff is agreed upon, after the fact, feelings have a way of still being hurt when it was not expected to.

any hesitation on your part and it should be a no and he should def respect that

[Uniquemind]

this. if it is something you want to do, I would still talk about the boundaries of what is going to happen. I will caution by saying this, even when this stuff is agreed upon, after the fact, feelings have a way of still being hurt when it was not expected to.

any hesitation on your part and it should be a no and he should def respect that

That, and sometimes agreeing to do something in theory while it's "just talk" turns out to be something completely different "as it's actually attempted or happening" and then the emotions react from that point.

So again I repeat my quote above, if it makes you uncomfortable or uneasy, don't do it, or stop if you dared to try it in an attempt to appease the relationship tension or are just naturally agreeable, and stop it.

[Jinglebottom]

What the actual fuck?

[Just JT]

Sounds like an issue to be worked out with him and his kinks.

It boils down to this, what do YOU want from the relationship.

If it's uncomfortable to do this for him, don't.

this. if it is something you want to do, I would still talk about the boundaries of what is going to happen. I will caution by saying this, even when this stuff is agreed upon, after the fact, feelings have a way of still being hurt when it was not expected to.

any hesitation on your part and it should be a no and he should def respect that

I agree with these guys. Should be something you and him talk about and sort out before anything. If you don't wana to then don't. There are no rules in sex really. Other than it's consensual and nobody get hurt (unles they want to) and even then in not nude lol!!

Communications is huge on a topic like this, and you should not be pressured by this.

But also, personally I question his motive. He can easily show or teach you what he wants to, or show it to you in porn. To have you witness irl....sounds like he's into something/someone more than just teaching you or just you

[BryGuy]

Seems strange but also seems like a troll post

[yngbijockVT]

as i bi guy - i kinda get where ur BF is coming from - BUT if you're not into it, then that's the end of discussion.

[Deivis]

He might want make your first time rl good ? But thats strange :D

[BlackParadePixie]

If that is something you're not comfortable with, tell him.

[biancas]

i think it would be dangerous to be with TWO nude guys :(

[Mollypop]

i think it would be dangerous to be with TWO nude guys :(

It's not dangerous. But you should know about expectations before you get into it.

[biancas]

It's not dangerous. But you should know about expectations before you get into it.

yeah