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[ceto2]

Can i ask something on here

If u knew ur other half ig boyfriend or girlfriend is on a site and u found out they are messaging someone else would u start to be concern about it after u come out of a bad relationship last time.

Just want to see what people say.

[AceOfHearts]

I would be cautious about it, take action when/if I found it necessary, but I'd never do anything rash.

[ceto2]

Came out of a very harmful n bad relationship as ex use to messege other females asking for things.

I am in a very good relationship now but it seem like he chating to others same sexes or females.dont know what to ask him. I never been this happy before.feel loved n care for.

[auser_name]

Im not going to lie, I would be very concerned. but this is only because my last boyfriend text other boys and I didn't think anything of it. but I later discovered he was sleeping with one of the boys he was texting behind my back. If I was in that situation I would ask him who it was and if I know them.

[Just JT]

Depends on the relationship your in. If your all ok with that then cool. But being a BF or gf shouldn't matter. If your not ok with it then I'd say something about it. In person. Maybe work it out. But tbh. Once a cheater always a cheater

[Atlantis]

Depression, Loss and Grief :arrow: Relationships and Dating

This fits better here.

[ClaraWho]

The question isn't 'if your partner talks to other members of the opposite sex, should I panic', so much as 'How do I feel less insecure'.

Has your current partner ever given you reason to doubt their loyalty? No? Then get over it. You cannot forbid him from ever having a conversation with another female. Actually I just reread your question and you say 'anyone else'. Really? Is he meant to just only speak to you till he draws his last breath? Or do you need recorded and notarised documentations of every conversation?

I'm deliberately highlighting how ridiculous an ask this is. Relationships require trust. It is not his fault that you haven't got the help for or worked out your insecurities yet, and he should not be punished for it. So in that sense there's nothing you can do. On the other hand communication is the most important thing. Tell him how insecure you feel, not in a 'so here are my rules' kind of way, but in a 'sorry if I act off, this is my problem and I need to work on it'. Really there's nothing one can do to prove they aren't cheating, and constant accusations always lead to break-ups.

You didn't say how long you've been dating or how commited the relationship is?

~ Clara

[ceto2]

We r very close n been togeather sometime