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Mayuri
January 2nd, 2017, 08:03 PM
I'm not really sure what I want to say here so I'm just going to say what comes into my head... Sorry if this ends up being kind of long...

Term starts again in 3 days, and I'm kind of freaking out at the moment. I go to a boarding school with a lot of international students. Right before the end of term before everyone went home for christmas, something happened.

Most of the girls dorm was completely empty, and there were just a few stragglers (myself included) left behind, waiting to go back home for Christmas. Until this last year and a half maybe 2 years, I've never had a crush on anyone before. I guess I was so concerned with liking people that I'm told I should like, and trying to understand why I should like them, that I never realised that I never really liked guys much, and didn't really understand my attraction to girls.

That is, until a new girl transferred to our school. This new girl from Canada started at our school. She didn't seem to make friends very quickly (kinda like me) and seemed kinda quiet (also like me). She's so amazingly pretty, she's slim and slightly taller than me, and has long wavy brown hair and when I look at her I get butterflies in my stomach.

I guess it took me a while to realise that I actually had a crush on her, or to understand what it was that I was feeling.

I'm a fairly shy person so I've never been very good at introducing myself to people. But eventually I kept making excuses to see her even if I had no idea what to say or do. I kept on telling the small group of friends that I do have that I was going to the library to study, and then I'd end up just sitting near her reading (she seems to spend a lot of time reading in there).

This went on for a few weeks, and then I eventually got the courage together to say hi to her, and we began talking a little bit more but it still felt kind of awkward. She caught me looking at her quite a bit and I guess I'm not the best at being subtle so I probably made it really obvious whenever I tried to quickly look away.

So this went on a for a little bit up until just before christmas. With term nearly over, we could do pretty much whatever we wanted and I kept going to the library to see her. As that last week went, people started packing and getting ready to go home for Christmas, although it turned out that I was going to be one of the last people to leave. As everyone left it became a lot quieter and eventually there was just a handful of students left at school still. There wasn't much else to do so I went back to the library as usual, and she was there again. For whatever reason (maybe just loneliness with almost everyone else being gone for xmas, I don't know), this time we got talking. It was so exciting finally getting to talk to her properly and even though there were lots of awkward silences, we ended up talking quite a lot.

With less than a week to go before term ended, we turned up at the library the next day to be told that they're closing up for christmas and that they won't be open again until after christmas. With nothing else to do we decided we should hang out for a bit. We went for a walk to the nearby village (we're not really supposed to but it's not that hard to sneak out if you time it right and don't mind walking over fields).

I don't quite know how to describe it but it felt really special for some reason being alone with her like that. And somehow, being almost forced together like this made it very easy to talk suddenly. While we were walking we talked about lots of stuff and I actually felt close to her. We got some food from the local shop in the village and walked back, and sat around on a bench in the schools garden talking for hours and hours until it got dark. We decided to meet and go for a walk the next day as well. It seemed kind of lonely the night before, being alone after we'd spent the whole day together, so I jokingly suggested a "sleepover" in my dorm...which she actually said yes too.

So again we made our way across the fields to the nearby village to buy food and snacks for that night. We quickly hid the snacks in my flats fridge when we got back and then went back to the garden to talk some more. This time when it started to get dark we went back to our dorms, but this time she went and gathered some of her things and came back over about half an hour later in her pyjamas with a pillow. We ended up watching films until fairly late at night, talking and laughing about things. We ended up holding hands. Then when we started talking about going home for christmas (I was being picked up the next day in the afternoon), I had to be stupid and started getting upset.

When she asked why, I said I was going to miss her. This seemed to surprise her or catch her off guard, and she seemed kind of upset and said she would miss me too... ...and kissed me.

I nearly freaked out then and there because it surprised me so much. We sat around kind of awkward for a bit until I tried to say something to her although I couldn't get the words out. She kissed me again (which was what I was awkwardly trying to ask for) and the rest of the night was fairly similar to that.

We ended up sleeping together on the sofa (not in a sexual way). The next morning I felt kinda awkward, because I'm still not sure entirely how comfortable I am with what happened. I really really liked it and I really like her but.. everything happened so fast that I'm not even sure what to think about it.

I really really like her and I think I want to be with her more. But at the same time I'm kinda scared about what people will think/say (especially when I have to live with everyone until we leave school).

We go back to school on Thursday, and I'm freaking out because I'm not sure if this means that we're girlfriends now or how I'm supposed to act and I don't know what to say to her.

We've swapped mobile numbers but there isn't very good signal where she lives, and because of the time zones too it's made it hard to talk over christmas. We've spoken as much as we can but I've still not dared to ask if we're going out or anything and I don't really know what to do when I see her in person again :(

I'm really shy and awkward as it is but I have no idea what to do now...

Sorry I didn't mean for this to end up being so long.. :/

Bontigo Papi .
January 3rd, 2017, 07:42 AM
Some love story ...

Clearly , you want her . the problem is you can't deal with what others are gonna say or think . If you really like this girl , then nothing should come between the two of you .

Emilyyy
January 3rd, 2017, 07:59 AM
Nice story. I think with this one you're going to have to wait until you go back to school and see where it goes from there to be honest. Try and hang out with her a bit after you go back and see if she wants to talk about what happened. I mean have you spoken about what happened over the Christmas and New Year period? If not you'll need to slyly try and figure out what she is thinking about the whole thing. Does she want the same as you and want something to happen or was it just a kinda "one night" thing and she wouldn't want anything like that to happen again.

ClaraWho
January 3rd, 2017, 12:14 PM
Well, the short version of it is 'Should I pursue something that makes me happy, or be unhappy and scared of homophobes'.

Life's too short to be someone else. You get one opportunity at life, every hour could be your last. Live unapologetically. You owe nobody an explanation and who you kiss or love is entirely between the two of you. Haters will find something to hate, unless you just 'exist' through life instead of living. I'd say do what makes you happy and to hell with everyone else.

~ Clara

Mayuri
January 3rd, 2017, 12:57 PM
Some love story ...

Clearly , you want her . the problem is you can't deal with what others are gonna say or think . If you really like this girl , then nothing should come between the two of you .

I definitely do. And it's not quite as simple as that- it's more that I'm worried about what people will DO rather than say/think. Bare in mind that we spend the majority of the year, apart from Christmas and 6 weeks in the summer, living at this school. When you LIVE with the bullies, and can't get away from them it can be quite daunting.

I'm not so much bothered about myself as I am her- I don't want to do anything that's going to get her life made a misery.

Nice story. I think with this one you're going to have to wait until you go back to school and see where it goes from there to be honest. Try and hang out with her a bit after you go back and see if she wants to talk about what happened. I mean have you spoken about what happened over the Christmas and New Year period? If not you'll need to slyly try and figure out what she is thinking about the whole thing. Does she want the same as you and want something to happen or was it just a kinda "one night" thing and she wouldn't want anything like that to happen again.

Yeah.. I guess I won't know until I see her again. I'm fairly certain that this was a "thing", and that there was something there- we both acted as if there was going to be something more when we got back to school. I'm just not sure HOW I'm supposed to act. I've never been in a relationship with anyone, and I'm still getting used to the fact that I'm interested in girls (or anyone for that matter..)

We have spoken a bit over christmas but it's been a bit disjointed and I wasn't really sure what to say. I'm much better talking in person. I feel like we'll probably talk more about it when we're actually back at school. Hopefully.

Well, the short version of it is 'Should I pursue something that makes me happy, or be unhappy and scared of homophobes'.

Life's too short to be someone else. You get one opportunity at life, every hour could be your last. Live unapologetically. You owe nobody an explanation and who you kiss or love is entirely between the two of you. Haters will find something to hate, unless you just 'exist' through life instead of living. I'd say do what makes you happy and to hell with everyone else.

~ Clara

Very well put :)
I guess what I'm more worried about is just.. what if it ends up making her life a misery? As I said before, we're all kind of stuck here. A lot of us, our parents don't even live in this country. And the village I mentioned is the only place for miles around, and even that takes a fair amount of walking to get too...

Maybe I'm just scared.. this is all new to me, I'm not really sure what I'm doing. It feels like there's definitely something here, and I want to try and make it work, whatever it is.




And sorry, didn't mean to write such a.. novel about this, I was panicking slightly when I wrote everything before. (Which you can probably tell)

Uniquemind
January 3rd, 2017, 02:11 PM
I definitely do. And it's not quite as simple as that- it's more that I'm worried about what people will DO rather than say/think. Bare in mind that we spend the majority of the year, apart from Christmas and 6 weeks in the summer, living at this school. When you LIVE with the bullies, and can't get away from them it can be quite daunting.

I'm not so much bothered about myself as I am her- I don't want to do anything that's going to get her life made a misery.



Yeah.. I guess I won't know until I see her again. I'm fairly certain that this was a "thing", and that there was something there- we both acted as if there was going to be something more when we got back to school. I'm just not sure HOW I'm supposed to act. I've never been in a relationship with anyone, and I'm still getting used to the fact that I'm interested in girls (or anyone for that matter..)

We have spoken a bit over christmas but it's been a bit disjointed and I wasn't really sure what to say. I'm much better talking in person. I feel like we'll probably talk more about it when we're actually back at school. Hopefully.



Very well put :)
I guess what I'm more worried about is just.. what if it ends up making her life a misery? As I said before, we're all kind of stuck here. A lot of us, our parents don't even live in this country. And the village I mentioned is the only place for miles around, and even that takes a fair amount of walking to get too...

Maybe I'm just scared.. this is all new to me, I'm not really sure what I'm doing. It feels like there's definitely something here, and I want to try and make it work, whatever it is.




And sorry, didn't mean to write such a.. novel about this, I was panicking slightly when I wrote everything before. (Which you can probably tell)

You two, if your in need of a stable communication system need to use email or Facebook's private messaging if cellular strength is an issue.



If she's into girls and you like her, I don't see a problem, she's probably just as awkward about it as you are, make sure that tension is diffused and just do that by hanging out, and if the time comes have a serious discussion about where both of you stand with acknowledging the chance bullies discover you all.

School rules also probably should be discussed as well, I know some boarding schools are strict with public displays of affection.

Mayuri
January 3rd, 2017, 10:00 PM
You two, if your in need of a stable communication system need to use email or Facebook's private messaging if cellular strength is an issue.



If she's into girls and you like her, I don't see a problem, she's probably just as awkward about it as you are, make sure that tension is diffused and just do that by hanging out, and if the time comes have a serious discussion about where both of you stand with acknowledging the chance bullies discover you all.

School rules also probably should be discussed as well, I know some boarding schools are strict with public displays of affection.

Yeah, we definitely need to get something sorted :/ I'm bringing my new laptop with me this term though. We're not technically supposed to, but... there's nothing that outright says that we CAN'T have them either. If nobody knows about it, it should be fine.

And yeah, I guess I hadn't thought of it like that... she's probably feeling the same way as me. I am starting to feel a little excited about seeing her again as well now, with it only being a few days away. But I'm also still kinda scared... I definitely want to make this work though, I've never felt this way before and I just can't stop thinking about her!

I guess we can try and keep it a secret for now just to be safe?

And you're right, out school does have rules like that. I just checked in the handbook online and... well...

The guiding principle on personal relationships for the
whole community must be respect for others at all times. This includes
respecting those who have different values and opinions. It also includes
behaving in a considerate manner that considers the feelings of all. For this
reason, excessive displays of affection, apart from normal greetings, are not
allowed. Sexual relationships between students are forbidden in any
circumstances. Students who overstep the boundaries will face serious
disciplinary action.

I've never understood those sorts of rules! The rules about not having sex make sense of course, but is there really anything wrong with people kissing?

And notice the phrasing.. "excessive displays of affection"- not "public displays of affection". :/

Mayuri
January 4th, 2017, 10:25 PM
Sorry for the double post (Although this is an entirely separate post that I'm writing 24 hours later, in an entirely different state of mind)

So tomorrow is the first day back. I get to see her again tomorrow.

I'm still scared, but... I'm also getting kind of excited. I went shopping before I left for school again, and I bought her a book that I think/hope she'll like, in a nice hardback print with a pretty cover. I'm going to give it to her as a belated Christmas present.

I don't know what is going to happen, but I am certain that I like this girl and that I want to make this work if I can. I've never felt anything like this before.

You're only here once, so... to hell with the school rules and the bullies, we'll just have to make sure that we're careful. I guess it's not like we haven't already broken several rules together anyway.

I still don't quite know how I'm supposed to act when I first see her again, but... I guess I'm going to find out soon.

Edit: It's 3:27AM and I can't sleep because I have butterflies in my stomach.!>

Mayuri
January 11th, 2017, 06:28 PM
So I'm back at school now. This is the first chance I've had to post again on here...

The first day back, I didn't really get much chance to see her, what with moving my things back and getting settled in again.

I waited around before I went in for dinner, and went in with her. We hugged when we met again and ended up eating together, although it was really awkward and quiet. Then we walked back to the dorms together, pretty much in silence again.

I was just about ready to start kicking myself for not saying anything when I got back to my room, when I got a text asking if I could meet her by the sports hall (which at that time in the evening is pretty deserted). I went and met her and from there we went for a walk around and sat down in the gardens again and talked things over.

We're now a couple though :)