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SevenRhye
January 2nd, 2017, 01:45 PM
Sooo.. I have a bit of problem...

For new year me and few friends were drinking and there was also a girl I am into. So we drank like A LOT of alcohol, and then she wanted to go to bathroom. I said I'll go with her, as I also had to go. The moment we left the gang, she almost jumped at me and we started kissing with each other. It wasn't like a two minutes job, we were kissing for like whole hour. Then, she got a call and she wasn't back and I had to go home, so we didn't see anymore that day. Next day, she wrote me a message, that she is really sorry and that she lose my hat I gave her because I wanted her to see her again and she was scared, that she lost it. Few minutes later, she told me, that she found it, and she was quite excited. Then, we talked a bit how much we remember, and she said she doesn't remember much but she remembers me kissing her. Later, my best friend, who is her best friend (they are like sisters since first grade) texted me, asking what was I doing with her, but she was kinda happy for me that I had my first kiss and it sounded like she likes it that way ��.

So, I'm seeing her tomorrow, as I have to give her money for alcohol and to get my hat back, and we will surely talk about new year's. The problem is, that I don't know really what she remembers. I am planning to tell her that I remember it was great and that I liked it, but I really don't know what else to tell her.

I heard that she was kissing other guys on some other parties last year, but I don't know. She was really passionate in my case.

I am 16 years and I have never been with a girl before. I talked to her before, but never really like it was now, so I know our relationship as friends is stronger, as we have some common things to talk about

Thanks for responses

Just JT
January 2nd, 2017, 02:28 PM
I'm not sure I get whatvthe question is. Seems like your making a statement or maybe I'm misunderstanding it. But seems to me if you like her your off to a good start and don't rush it. Especially if you really like her and not just wana get off with her

SevenRhye
January 2nd, 2017, 02:31 PM
Well I don't know what to do, as we both remember just highlits. When she was drunk she looked that she likes me, but I don't know how it is when she's sober

Just JT
January 2nd, 2017, 02:33 PM
Well I'd try that. When you mix booze with that only bad shit can happen. Might feel good, but it's not usually a good thing when the big head listens to the little head

Go to a movie and just talk and stuff

SevenRhye
January 2nd, 2017, 02:36 PM
Well, we live in a place without a cinema, so that is not really an option ;). But when I see her, we will definetly talk and I just want to know if I am moving into a right direction

Just JT
January 2nd, 2017, 02:53 PM
Well that's ok, get a cup of coffee or something. Yeah you are. Just don't go faster than either one is ready for. You'll know what the next step is when your ready. Talk about it to when you get there. That's huge

SevenRhye
January 2nd, 2017, 04:54 PM
Thanks for answer, I hope it will end well.

Emilyyy
January 3rd, 2017, 08:06 AM
Good luck with it all. Just act casual about it to start with and don't make a big thing about the kiss, if you do mention it, mention it in a kinda jokey way that you enjoyed it and stuff so that if she's like "Oh no, I don't want anything like that to happen again" then you can blow it off as a jokey comment. Other than that try and strike up a friendship, hang out with her doing whatever there is to do in your town and see where it goes from there. Best thing you can do is show her that you are interested in her not just what happened but I'm sure you know that already ;)

SevenRhye
January 24th, 2017, 06:49 AM
Okay, so after nearly a month, nothing changed. We are friends, we see each other almost every day before school and we talk, but I don't really feel like it's progressing. I heard that her ex wanted her back, but she was unsure about getting back with him. However, we were talking and she mentioned that she decided to be single for some time. Now I don't know if she wants to play unreachable or she wants to say between the lines that she is not interested in me. She was asked to go out by a few people in this month and she turned all of them down. I need to escape that "friendzone" and try to get to the part where I can ask her out confidentialy, but I don't know how to get there... Any advice?

Uniquemind
January 24th, 2017, 07:24 PM
Okay, so after nearly a month, nothing changed. We are friends, we see each other almost every day before school and we talk, but I don't really feel like it's progressing. I heard that her ex wanted her back, but she was unsure about getting back with him. However, we were talking and she mentioned that she decided to be single for some time. Now I don't know if she wants to play unreachable or she wants to say between the lines that she is not interested in me. She was asked to go out by a few people in this month and she turned all of them down. I need to escape that "friendzone" and try to get to the part where I can ask her out confidentialy, but I don't know how to get there... Any advice?

I think she means what she said, she wants less relationship drama and expectations in her life for a while.