Relationship problems

[City Kid]

Basically, my boyfriend wants to spend way more time with me than I want to spend with him. It's getting really exhausting to have him ask me to come over several times a day when I really only want to see him 2 or 3 times a week. He has told me that he doesn't believe that our relationship will last much longer if this continues, and I think he blames me for it even if he says he doesn't. I still love him, but at the same time, I don't feel the desire to kiss or touch him. Maybe I'm not in love with him anymore? I don't know. I'm just really scared of what will happen if we break up. Like I said, I still love him and I can't imagine a life without him. I wish we could just be friends, but I'm pretty sure that he'd never agree to that.

[mick01]

It seems like you already know the problem and the solution. Your not in love with him anymore to the point that you don't want to touch or kiss him, you don't want to see him that much. It seems pretty clear, right? And it's probably not fair to him to mislead him. I think it's better to have the talk with him and see what happens. If you lose him, that's better than the current situation where you're both unhappy.

[Emilyyy]

Yeah I think this relationship has run its course, really sad when this happens but you gotta be true to yourself and end it if you don't feel that the relationship is going to work for you.

[Bontigo Papi .]

Basically , you might need some time alone to think . although you may want to make him happy , you need to consider yourself first , he needs to respect your decisions too because a relationship is not a one person thing .

[Uniquemind]

The honeymoon phase of a relationship doesn't last forever.

I'd love 2-3 visits a week with my partner but it's more like 2-3 multi-day visits a month.

But neither of us leverage each other like this.


Love is patient and understanding, not demanding like your partner is doing. It's a sign of immaturity imho.

The more he gets under your skin too the more you'll feel distant in regards to wanting to touch him when you do have time together because of that emotional distance and blame game.