Define man

[datboijoey]

When are you really a man? What is a man? I don't mean macho crap, just when they say that's a man, not a boy.

[pjones]

for me when you reach the age of majority, or 18 here

[ethan-s]

If you have a Dick you are a guy, contrary to what some people will have you believe.

[Just JT]

When you become mature enough to handle shit properly what ever than means for you. Take a look at idk maybe your dad uncle or grandfather. And how they do stuff and managed through their life

Being a man isn't how much hair you have or about an age thing. It's about being responsible for yourself and the people you brought into this world, and making good on your responsibilities. Teaching your own kids proper values, doing the right thing. And that's different for everyone.

Becoming a man is not the same as becoming an adult IMO

[ska8er]

When u take responsibility for ur actions.

[NZPerson]

Mm everyone has their own definition whether its related to end iof puberty or how you act as a responsible person. Its arbitrary.

[jamie_n5]

When you become mature enough to handle shit properly what ever than means for you. Take a look at idk maybe your dad uncle or grandfather. And how they do stuff and managed through their life

Being a man isn't how much hair you have or about an age thing. It's about being responsible for yourself and the people you brought into this world, and making good on your responsibilities. Teaching your own kids proper values, doing the right thing. And that's different for everyone.

Becoming a man is not the same as becoming an adult IMO

I think that JT is absolutely right. Manhood isn't a number or anything like that. Being a man is when you are mentally mature and look at things as an adult and not a child anymore. You can reason things out and handle pressures in life better and understand problems that come up and solve them on your own. It is things like that that make you a man not some number.

[Kory123]

When you are in your own and dependent

[KBar33]

A lot of people will say that when your body is matured that is the only thing necessary, I call bs. While I do think that a matured body is kind of a pre-requisite it isn't the only component, nor is it the most important component. I feel that I man is someone who has a core set of values and abides by those, a man who does right by his friends and family, a man who protects the things that he values most. I feel that a man should be willing to stand up to injustice against what he holds dear in the face of adversity, we all have our own fears of course, I am not saying that you are unmanly if you are afraid of X Y or Z. However, when push comes to shove I think that a man is easily able to prioritize what is most important when it really counts. I truly believe that it is mainly about mental maturity more than it is physical. Here's the difference in a nutshell.

A boy is still more juvenile in thought, all a boy wants to do is have fun and doesn't truly understand the world or what he needs to do to make it better for his future children and family.

A man is matured, he has a role on someone's life and does his best to treasure and protect what he holds dear. He understands that the world isn't a fair place, but he is willing to brave it all to do right by his loved ones and his fellow man.

That's all what I have observed in my step-father, he was there for me when my abusive biological father wasn't. When I see my step-father, whom I address as my actual father, I see a man with a desire to prioritize me and my mother above everything else on this earth. When I see my biological father, actually I haven't seen him since I was 3. When I see pictures of the guy on facebook, I see him post pictures his gym progress and his girlfriend and his mustang. When I see those pictures I see the eyes of a withered fool, I see a pathetic shell of a child masquerading as a man. He doesn't abide by a morally just set of values, he just wants to live the fast live. And the guy is like 38 years old. He's almost 40 years old and he is still acting like a college douchebag, so in my mileage a man is a guy like my step-father. A man who stepped into our lives and shouldered the burden of helping support a single mother and her kid all while he himself was just 23. That's a real man.

[Harrier]

I think being 18 is a big part because you can be drafted, vote and go to jail ... basically the government sees you as a man then. But also I think paying your own bills are a big part regardless of if you are 18 or not. So like if you are kicked out of your parents home and on your own at age 16-17 I think you are also a man. If you are 20 and you're parents are paying for everything in your life idk if you are a man. Also like KBar33 said your morality plays a part. You can be 80 years old but if you're a dick to your family and the world you're not truly a "man".

[Eli.]

I think that JT is absolutely right. Manhood isn't a number or anything like that. Being a man is when you are mentally mature and look at things as an adult and not a child anymore. You can reason things out and handle pressures in life better and understand problems that come up and solve them on your own. It is things like that that make you a man not some number.

I also agree, but, many people believe they are mature, but really aren't. So unless you are 100% sure you are mature, or other people think you are mature, you aren't.

[Fleek]

When you are In your 20's and not teens

[datboijoey]

If you have a Dick you are a guy, contrary to what some people will have you believe.

I had a dick as a boy tho. I mean what is a man, not just a guy or male.

[Mercy99]

If you have a Dick you are a guy, contrary to what some people will have you believe.

Not really. Nice hidden transphobia you got there. You're male when you feel male, but since the guy is asking about the line between boy and man i'd say it's somewhere after 18

[ethan-s]

Not really. Nice hidden transphobia you got there. You're male when you feel male, but since the guy is asking about the line between boy and man i'd say it's somewhere after 18

What are you saying?

[Just JT]

What are you saying?

Think it could be understood from what your saying is that gendervwould define someone being o rather becoming a man. When in fact, it most probabaly is not quite that way. Not harm done I don't think. Just in choice of words is all

[themanconnor]

Each culture, family, and person has their own definition of what it means to be a man. No sentence can summarize it.

[NewLeafsFan]

18 years old and mature

[Ricky.h]

In my opinion, when you have sex for the first time that's when you become a man.

But when you are a mature adult that's when you are self sufficient.

[austinchase99]

18 according to the law, but it's mostly up to personal definition

[Just JT]

In my opinion, when you have sex for the first time that's when you become a man.

But when you are a mature adult that's when you are self sufficient.

Not to put you on the spot or cause an debate or something, but having sex makes you a man?!?
I was 8 first time I had sex. That mean I was a man at 8 or 9 I think. That's when I became a man?

[Falcons_11]

I think you are a boy when you are under the control of your parents or any other adult. You become a man when you are no longer under control of your parents or other adult. You are legally responsible for yourself and any actions that you might take. You are on your own.

[ImCoolBeans]

Being a man has more than one connotation attached to it. Being a man could mean being a physically mature male, who is finished developing, but when I think of "what makes a man?" I think it has more to do with being a (at least semi) responsible adult who can take care of himself without being dependent on someone.

[rvale22]

18 is the legal adult age, but uour actions and thoughts are really the ones that make you a man

[Hufflepufflife]

When you are responsible and caring enough to support yourself and make educated decisions. Oh, and having a penis too

[datboijoey]

Being responsible is the one thing said the most it looks like. :)

[TheTallGuyPH]

[Opinion: the definitions are based on my opinion·]
There are many definition for the word 'man'.

Lawfully, it is when you debut in your 18 and in some countries, 21.

Morally, it is when you fully understand your problems and maturely manage and face your trials.

Romantically, it is when you are attracted to opposite sex.

Socially, it is when you are above the maturity age and you have the ability to make money for your own.

Anatomically or biologically, it is when you have a penis and traits of a male or you chose to be a man when a hermaphrodite.

Traditionally, they are much cooler. They are gentleman. They are the partner of women in surviving.

Regiously, the only human that God created for the "eve-s" or women as partner in marriage.

[FPFanatic]

When u take responsibility for ur actions.
This. A boy doesn't take responsibility for his actions the way a man does.

[ska8er]

This. A boy doesn't take responsibility for his actions the way a man does.

The boy has to learn to become a good man.

[FPFanatic]

Yes, exactly. Men and their behavior are the results of how they were raised as boys.

[coolio120]

that's an age old question. Read some books - there's been lots of books on this subject, not sure you're going to really get a legitimate answer here.

[Bull]

In my opinion, when you have sex for the first time that's when you become a man.

But when you are a mature adult that's when you are self sufficient.

Sorry, but 13 year old boys having sex does NOT make them a man. They are just a horny boy. That is not a put down, just what it is.

[KING_ivy]

I think a boy becomes a man when he knows how to carry himself mentally and physically. He doesn't necessarily need to know who he is (identity-wise) but, if he's putting an effort towards it, I believe that level of maturity and responsibility makes a man.

[Beach Bro]

When u take responsibility for ur actions.

Well said.

[datboijoey]

Romantically, it is when you are attracted to opposite sex.

Are you saying I can't be a man because I'm gay?

[Ricky.h]

Not to put you on the spot or cause an debate or something, but having sex makes you a man?!?
I was 8 first time I had sex. That mean I was a man at 8 or 9 I think. That's when I became a man?

I mean obviously with Sex there's an age to it as well with it. when I said having sex makes you a man. I stand by that. I lost my virginity at 16 and in that sense I did become a man.

When I become self sufficient on all aspects in my life then that's when I'll call myself a mature adult. But I think calling someone a man just because they don't have their own house and car and stuff isn't fair. I'm 19 and in college so because I'm working towards it but don't have it...doesn't make me a man? That's why I feel like Sex is good at defining that. Not in a horny sexual way bug as a defining moment

[rynoblue]

i dont know but i think its 18 or maybe 16 wen you can drive

[hairy balls]

when you have sex for the first time that's when you become a man.

[Ricky.h]

when you have sex for the first time that's when you become a man.

Exactly man

[Just JT]

I mean obviously with Sex there's an age to it as well with it. when I said having sex makes you a man. I stand by that. I lost my virginity at 16 and in that sense I did become a man.

When I become self sufficient on all aspects in my life then that's when I'll call myself a mature adult. But I think calling someone a man just because they don't have their own house and car and stuff isn't fair. I'm 19 and in college so because I'm working towards it but don't have it...doesn't make me a man? That's why I feel like Sex is good at defining that. Not in a horny sexual way bug as a defining moment


I agree with some of that, it's good your going to college. Key word is "working towards" that, not taking away or minimizing that. That's a part of becoming an adult. A lot like sex, "there's an age to it", as it's just a number. Owning your own house shows your responsible to get a house and take care or it. Having your own apartment shows the same level of responsibility. Same as a car. There's plenty of "men" who don't own a house or car. Those are possessions you can own that are adult like. But doesn't proove your manhood.

Sex is an act that is also adult like. But could you at 16 take care of the responsibilities that your acts could have caused. Like a child or getting sick. Probably not.

Like @Sta8er was basically saying. When you can take care of those things on your own. I'd add into that maturely also. Sometimes that's admitting you've made a mistake and taking ownership for your actions. And becoming responsibile for them. Not working towards them.

I think at 19 your an adult, a young adult. But still an adult. We're all b coming men. In making mature responsible decisions and actions lead us into manhood, not just cause of one action one hot afternoon in the summer. All that does is pressure younger virgins unprepared into an act their not ready for so they feel like a man, and not ready for those responsibilities yet.

[Booker]

Being a "man" should be based on your maturity, integrity, and the responsibilities you carry through each day, not necessarily on your age or your physical development alone.

[maxbaker2002]

In my opinion, a boy becomes a man when he turns 18.