Why it might be a good idea to take a break from the dating game .

[Bontigo Papi .]

Relationships takes strain on other areas on your life . It's taken a huge hit on my confidence too . Many people deal with it differently and deal with the outcomes of attempted relationships differently too .

I know it's a daily thing we all deal with , but if things aren't working out relationship wise , just stop . That's all you need to do . Focus on other aspects of your life , other than your dating game . We are all young and we have our whole lives ahead of us .

Many of you might feel I'm saying this for the insecure , shy people or people who just feel luck is not with them regarding dating . It goes for the people who are doing well in the dating department too . It's all good now but when things get tough , just take a break . Do things on your own time .

When the time comes , find someone who you appreciate and who appreciates you . It's no use crushing on a girl who you barely know , asking her out on a date and the feelings are not returned . Get to know the person first and evaluate if the decision you want to make is the correct one . It's all about being patient . Things will happen when the time comes .

This is personal preference , but it might help some members going through relationship problems .
Remember , take things slow .

[RJH98]

I completely agree with you, so I feel like adding a little to your post myself if you don't mind :)

I had been trying to get a girlfriend really hard for a long time. I went on a few dates with different girls but nothing was working. I decided that I needed to take a break from dating anyone. So I decided not to date anyone untill the end of the year (this was half way through september), because I was trying too hard, I was forcing something that you can't force.

Two weeks after I decided to stop dating, I had a girlfriend. I wasn't trying to get with her to be honest. I had liked her for a long time and at some point when we went to a party with our mutual friends it just clicked and we started dating. There really wasn't a point were I asked her to be my girlfriend or the other way around. It just happened and it felt right, as it should, when it comes to love and dating.

I completely agree with Justin. Sometimes it is good to stop dating, take some time for yourself and focus on other things. You can't force love or finding someone, it just happens...

[jamie_n5]

Nice post man. I think that you put a lot of thought in there. Yes definitely we all don't to need to rush into relationships and feel bad if some don't work out. That is life and we will find that someone eventually.

[brandon9]

I feel this post 110% man. I for one, as someone who has always been led on and never had a girlfriend, am totally done with letting women get in my head and just totally mess it up, taking a step away from anything is what I need. Time to fix myself, get help for the things that are wrong, and just focusing on getting done with this school year are my priorities. I see it like this; I go to college in August, what the hell do I want to tie myself down back home for when all I've wanted for years is to leave the place?

It's all about perspective.