Define?????

[Coolteenboy]

So many posts and threads ask or use the question "when did you loose your virginity.?"
What does the term "loose your virginity" mean to you?
Does it have to be genital sex?
Or do hj / bj / petting count?
Is loosing your virginity the same if its same sex, or different if it is with the opposite gender?

[Bull]

IMO, virginity is intact until intercourse. Gender doesn't matter.

[NZPerson]

Having penetrative vaginal or anal sex. End of story, oral dosnt count and its regardless of gender or being top or bottom.

[Abhorrence]

Most people define it as penetrative intercourse, be that anal or vaginal. But ultimately it doesn't fucking matter. Virginity is a stupid concept that nobody needs to think about. Thinking that it is such an important thing in life just adds so much pressure to young people to either "preserve it" or lose it quickly.

Ultimately, sex is sex and defined by however you want it to be defined. The first time means nothing more than the second time or the third, or the hundredth. Sex is just sex.

[ska8er]

So many posts and threads ask or use the question "when did you loose your virginity.?"
What does the term "loose your virginity" mean to you?
Does it have to be genital sex?
Or do hj / bj / petting count?
Is loosing your virginity the same if its same sex, or different if it is with the opposite gender?

Glad u brought this out-I have been questioning the same
thing here. "R u a virgin?-Have u had sex?"-Its a generalization
of what one defines sex or losing ur v card. I always took it as
having vagina or anal sex-others have told me No it is also a
h/j or b/o which can mean sex I guess if u want it to b but I
don't consider it. Giving or receiving either guy or girl I don't
think matters either.



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[Mina]

Eh I think when there's penetration involve then its first time/loss virginity

[jamie_n5]

Most people define it as penetrative intercourse, be that anal or vaginal. But ultimately it doesn't fucking matter. Virginity is a stupid concept that nobody needs to think about. Thinking that it is such an important thing in life just adds so much pressure to young people to either "preserve it" or lose it quickly.

Ultimately, sex is sex and defined by however you want it to be defined. The first time means nothing more than the second time or the third, or the hundredth. Sex is just sex.

I had never really thought about it this way before. I was always taught the old school way. I always felt that your virginity was something special and that you should loose it to someone you loved or deeply cared for. Also I felt that sexual intercourse was how you lost it. Being vaginal or anal.
But now after reading what Abhorrence said and thinking about that I think he has a great point. What is really the difference I guess.
My boyfriend and I have always held this thought however. We are ok with giving someone else a BJ or HJ but that is where it stops. Intercourse is the special way of making love left to a couple that are either married or in love. Before you jump on me for that. All sexual outside activity would end when we would be married.

[pjones]

for me it's having intercourse which i haven't so i consider myself a virgin

[SeeEmilyPlay]

For me it's any sexual contact. It can be penetration (either vaginal or anal), BJ, HJ, etc.

[Bontigo Papi .]

Most people define it as penetrative intercourse, be that anal or vaginal. But ultimately it doesn't fucking matter. Virginity is a stupid concept that nobody needs to think about. Thinking that it is such an important thing in life just adds so much pressure to young people to either "preserve it" or lose it quickly.

Ultimately, sex is sex and defined by however you want it to be defined. The first time means nothing more than the second time or the third, or the hundredth. Sex is just sex.

bruv , this is so true .

Basically , I'm judged for being the only virgin in my group of friends and it's really stupid . They had their first times also so I don't know what the big deal is . Some people (like myself) prefer to have passionate sex instead of a one night stand where eventually , the girl gets pregnant or something goes wrong . Not saying you should not have sex at a young age , just saying that losing your Virginity is no big deal and whether you lose it by anal or vaginal intercourse , shouldn't really matter .

[Ragle]

What does the term "loose your virginity" mean to you?


That's a meaningless term I even would think about.

[Hermes]

So, the history to why virginity even matters is that, particularly when issues of potential inheritance were at stake, it was important to know that the child a woman had was her husband's child. In the days before any effective form of birth control one way that would make that more likely would be to insist she was a virgin at the point of marriage, i.e. she could not be going into the marriage already pregnant.

From that perspective the only sexual activity that would count, i.e. cause a girl to lose her virginity, would be penis in vagina sex and virginity would only be of concern in relation to a girl or woman.

Now bear in mind this historical perspective holds virginity among single girls as an advantage, not a burden and simply irrelevant to a boy. I am not sure I see a need to change that. Certainly I don't see the point in having sex just because you view virginity as burden and sex as the means to unburden yourself. And I can see the point in having something you reserve for someone you love. That other people have had sex earlier than you or draw the line in a different place should not put pressure on you.

Of course, other people may have legitimate reasons for defining virginity differently. Gay boys may, for example, consider anal sex as the act that loses one's virginity on the basis it is the nearest equivalent to penis in vagina sex, though that ignores the fact that whereas just about 100% of straight couples will have penis in vagina sex at some point the same is not true of gay couples.

I think you need to know why you are interested in whether someone is a virgin or not before you can be sure whether any particular definition of virginity is compatible with that purpose.

[NewLeafsFan]

I think everyone has a different opionon on what losing your virginity is. Some people would say that blow jobs count while others would disagree.

[zzzzzzzzzz]

It can be so important to some people to keep it or for others to lose it. If I wanted to know what people were, I would probably be more specific with the question if I was curious to know what people had or hadn't done

[Canadian Dream]

Generally I've always thought of losing your virginity as going past a blowjob, so including any sort of penetration. I also don't think gender matters. However you're right, it's a very broad terms that doesn't have any set boundaries so to me it's important that you define virginity the way you personally think of it, versus what others think.

[KBar33]

So many posts and threads ask or use the question "when did you loose your virginity.?"
What does the term "loose your virginity" mean to you?
Does it have to be genital sex?
Or do hj / bj / petting count?
Is loosing your virginity the same if its same sex, or different if it is with the opposite gender?

To me personally, to lose your virginity is when you have penetrative sex with your partner. I would say that a bj/ hj definitely counts as permiscuos activity, however I wouldn't call it a virginity stealer either. As far as how gender plays a roll in determining if you lost your virginity, I am probably very biased on this. However, I will say that as a non-virgin, my first time was with another guy when I was 15, and yes it was penetrative. As a bisexual male, That was the farthest hay me and my partner could go as males. I would say that the equivalent for straight couples is vaginal sex. I think they are different simply by virtue of anatomy, but not necessarily in value or morality at all.

[Hufflepufflife]

Having penetrative vaginal sex. That's it, regardless of gender/sexual preference

[mick01]

Having penetrative vaginal sex. That's it, regardless of gender/sexual preference

Okay, so according to you, if a vagina is not involved no one loses their virginity? If 2 gay guys have penetrative sex, they don't lose their virginity? WTF? I'm new here, but I'm thinking this could be the wrong forum for you Hufflepuffle.

[Hufflepufflife]

No, no you misunderstood. That is the "definition" in my opinion. Nothing official lol

[Hufflepufflife]

Okay, so according to you, if a vagina is not involved no one loses their virginity? If 2 gay guys have penetrative sex, they don't lose their virginity? WTF? I'm new here, but I'm thinking this could be the wrong forum for you Hufflepuffle.
No, no you misunderstood. That is the "definition" in my opinion. Nothing official lol

[mick01]

No, no you misunderstood. That is the "definition" in my opinion. Nothing official lol

No, I don't think I misunderstood your opinion. You are saying that if a gay male never penetrates a female, he will never lose his virginity regardless of the amount or type of sex he has with other males. Same with females who don't have sex with men. They could never lose their virginity either.
It seems to me to be a very close-minded view, just my opinion.

[Zachary G]

Having penetrative vaginal or anal sex. End of story, oral dosnt count and its regardless of gender or being top or bottom.

I agree. Being penetrated or penetrating vaginally or anally regardless of gender is the definition of losing ones virginity -- IMO

[nicole97]

I'd agree with vaginal or anal penetration mostly because that's 'going all the way' and generally speaking it's what people mean when the term sex is used.