Advice Needed for a Shy Guy

[TotalDbag]

OK, I'm a really shy person....REALLY shy. I'm shy around my father for Pete's sake. Don't know why I'm this way, just am. Now my dating life is non existent if I'm being honest. I've asked 2 girls out before, however it was done in the typical shy person fashion. Awkwardly blurt it out and scare the girl away. Any who, my question. What can I do/say that will clue them into my feelings for them, but is subtle enough that I can actually pull it off without turning into a nervous wreck? I appreciate any advice.

[ska8er]

First u have to befriend someone before u go
and say that u have feelings for them. If u r
shy and have a hard time making friends one
hint is to start a conversation with someone-
ask about schoolwork-music-sports-favorite
things to do-compliment a girl on her looks.
Be urself even if u r shy trying to b something
else is a turnoff. Many shy people lack self
esteem-u got to build that up and only u can
work on that-go out for a sport-join some kind
of a club-volunteer for something where u will b
helping someone and not thinking about ur shyness.
Second hold ur head up and Smile. As for ur Dad y not
just come up to him and explain to him that it is not easy
for u to talk or b around him because u r shy and ask him
if he can help u-if this is not possible then start a discussion
with him on something at home-b his friend even tho he is
your Dad.

OK, I'm a really shy person....REALLY shy. I'm shy around my father for Pete's sake. Don't know why I'm this way, just am. Now my dating life is non existent if I'm being honest. I've asked 2 girls out before, however it was done in the typical shy person fashion. Awkwardly blurt it out and scare the girl away. Any who, my question. What can I do/say that will clue them into my feelings for them, but is subtle enough that I can actually pull it off without turning into a nervous wreck? I appreciate any advice.

BTW-Everything what I said above Plus-Don't Ever put urself down.
I c by ur TotalDbag is Not becoming of u if u want to make friends
or find a girlfriend-u r not going to get anywhere if u feel this way. :(

Double posts merged. ~Lost Horizon

[Just JT]

@sk8ter said it really good. You need to befriend them first. You kinda need to bridge those feelings first. Be yourself. If your not then you present someone your not. And that's not right. If your shy then you really shy, that's fine, nothing wrong with that it's just a characteristic not negative or positive. And a girl will either like that in you or not, and that's that. So embrace it

How to start? Pay attention to what they like, what theire interests are. And at a good opportunity make a general comment on the topic. Something she'll get an peak her interests.

Sir with her at lunch one day, bold move I know, but just sit down smile and say hi, see where it goes. She won't be a bitch about it I'm sure. She might even start a convo with you.

About dad? Ask him if he wants to have a cup of coffee with you or a soda or ice cream. And enjoy that time together even if nothing is said. Then do it again in a couple days

Let us know how you make out ok? We are interested....

[Tpyro]

Hey, becoming a friend with the girls showing some interest in school, sports or Hobbies will break the ice and make things a little less awkward just be yourself comfortable and confident and it will happen maybe don't mention your username.

[karenessi]

Make a good relationship with them by helping them in some ways. Keep your shyness away and be bold. Girls normally don't like shy guys. lol..

[Microcosm]

TotalDbag,

The dating world is cruel to us shy guys. Girls--most girls anyways, those girls who adhere to the stereotypical wants and desires of a female which consequently tends to be the "hot" girls many times--want someone who is perceptively confident, or you can tell that they are confident by looking at them. They want someone physically strong just like guys want someone physically pretty or sexually attractive. It's mostly just human nature.

The good part is that many girls--and guys for that matter--can get past this and see the good in all people. They see opportunity past that physical barrier of natural and common human psychology which dreams only of sex. These are often just better people anyways: more sympathetic, more constructive, etc.. They are the optimists 9 times out of ten.

So, what is my advice for you? See the good in those people in whom you may have not noticed it before due to the barrier of your natural wants and desires. *Look* for the shy girls or the not-so-pretty girls and they will sympathize with these feelings you are having. If you want someone who will end up meaning a lot to you, look at them holistically.

I'm not saying that you only see people in a sexual way, but what I am saying is that we, as guys, always tend towards the prettier girls and that's okay. It's natural, but there is opportunity out there for guys like you that is equally as satisfying in a romantic relationship.

[Anniebanannie]

People who are outgoing tend to be noticed more than introverts. They're also more comfortable in more social situations than introverts are. So what places, activities and situations are you most comfortable? You'll exude more confidence there. Do you happen to be attracted to introverted girls? That's something you would have in common.

[dude_g]

I think you should just go with the flow maybe let the girl lead

[Bontigo Papi .]

Well , I just usually do everything over the phone . It's easier for me since I'm an insecure guy , and it beats out any awkwardness . Maybe that's not your style but it seems to be the easiest option if you're not that confident in person .