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Iamsolost
November 27th, 2016, 02:47 PM
So, I ask this cute girl out to coffee and we go and have a great time and it felt exactly like a date, awkward, the typical questions to try and get to know someone better. Anyways, after that we went and explored a few antique shops and she was dropping hints and what she liked and didn't like. She even asked me to play the guitars and we played together for a bit, and she used "we" when talking about how we should go and do this one thing and then she said you when I asked about what she meant. At the end I asked her if I could buy her dinner and I said we could just work it out via email. She responded but didn't mention a time or date or if she even wanted to. I wasn't direct? Is this one of those things where I need to ask her specifically for a date because she feels I am not being direct enough? Or do you think she purposely ignored it? Also, should I just specifically mention next time we see each other that I was trying to ask her out on a date and tell her I have an eighth grade question, do you like me? Any thoughts?

UPDATE: also she told me this adorable story about how when she went to summer camp her sister cut off all her barbie dolls hair and she used to get so upset, so I bought her one from the antique shop for her Christmas present. I thought it would be really cute. Any idea what I should do?

She was hinting about gifts... It was very obvious she wanted to drop me hints.

ClaraWho
November 27th, 2016, 04:33 PM
Whilst hinting about gifts when you have only just met someone is a bit... well anyway. The only way to find out if she wants to date you, is to ask her out on a date. Simple as that. No 'do you like me' or awkward 'I meant to ask you'. Just simply, will you let me take you out for dinner? Yes? When are you free?

~ Clara

N.B. whilst we could sit here trying to guess her motives and give our conjecture on her innermost thoughts, asking is the only real way. Having said that, I think all this 'will she won't she' is actually quite a lovely part of the whole early romance experience. Sure, it is nerve racking when you are in the midst, but if it works out well then you can look back affectionately after. Oops... my NB is longer than my reply x.e

brandon9
November 27th, 2016, 08:16 PM
She either likes you or you're stuck way too deep in the friend zone to ever climb back out. Your only option is to ask her directly how she feels. Don't let yourself become entangled in a mind game where you're always guessing if she cares or not, that's the worst feeling imaginable and its hell on your mind after awhile.

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Just JT
November 28th, 2016, 02:51 AM
I agree with ClaraWho. Seems like first date she's droppong a strong gift hint a lot. I'd play it slow and watch for more meaningful hints. Hints she likes you for who you are and what you like and not what you'll gift her and what she likes

jamie_n5
November 28th, 2016, 09:16 PM
Just be direct with her and ask her out to dinner. I think that was very kind and good of you to buy her a Barbie to replace the one that was damaged. I am sure she will be touched when you give it to her. You will be fine just ask her out my friend.