First potential relationship nerves, advice?

[Ckonbass1999]

I'm 17, never dated a guy before, mostly because I was very shy growing up and had hard time talking to guys. However, there's this guy in my homeroom and we're friends but things seem different lately. He's the first guy I've ever been comfortable talking to. We have great conversations, I like being around himZ He's been walking me after class, and I notice him "accidentally" touch me a lot and being closer than normal. He talk about plans to go hiking, movies, etc and I always say that'd be fun but we never actually make plans happen, mostly because I'm scared to show I like him.

I decided to dm him one day and had a really great conversation, he did the same a few days later checking on a concert I went to saying how he should've gone but nothing about "us". Since we've never talked outside of school, I'm curious to how he will act when we go back from break on Monday like if things will be different between us.

My friend called him out one day in front of me about how he told her I was pretty which I just laughed at but then he responded "because you are" and laughed it off. Then my friend called me out by telling him "she still hasn't been on a date, had a boyfriend, or been kissed" and he seemed shocked and told me "you're joking" and told me how many he's had. Sometimes he'll show me a pic of a cute girl that followed him or likes them but it almost feels like it's his way of figuring out if I'm bothered by it which I never show it if it does. Kind of embarrised me because I can't relate to those experiences. Feels like I'm the only one even though I know I'm not.

Ever since we messaged each other I feel like it's become a little more obvious to both of us, maybe I'm wrong. It makes me kind of excited but nervous because I don't know what to expect and I don't want to mess up. He's seems like such a pro at it all. I really like him though and I want to see what could happen but so scared to say it even though I think he's there too. Do you think he is? Thoughts and advice?

[lliam]

can't say he is, can't say he isn't. I guess you just describe the typical feelings everyone feels at this stage of a potential relationship. Same to me.


I suggest, date each other more often, hang out with him ...

... and at some point you both will realize that you are already in a relationship.

Then it's easier to say something like this to each other: "Huston, we've a relationship." ... or such.


good luck

[Microcosm]

Ckonbass1999,

2 problems stick out:

1. The "touching." I'm not sure if that means sexual or intrusive touching or not. If that's the case, then it's a problem.
2. The showing you pictures of girls he's dated and such is kind of a dick move.

Other than that, he seems pretty nice. I'd say go on a "date," but it doesn't have to be super romantic at first. When I go on first dates, it's usually just testing the waters to get to know each other better and to get an idea of what the other person likes.

Guys can really be a flip of a coin in terms of whether they just want you to use you or not. Sometimes, they flip flop: one day they really care about you and the next their hormones are sky high. Understanding where the line is drawn is important, but it's also important to realize that dealing with hormones makes guys do stupid things that they regret later. You've got to find the middle ground and see if he's a genuinely good guy, and that is largely your call.

[Melodic]

I can't say for sure that he likes you, but he enjoys your company. If anything, you just made a new friend! Take things slowly and see what happens! :)

[ska8er]

I think he has a crush on u-the showing of
picture thing I think is his way of seeing how
u would react but forget it ask if the two of u
can go out but find a place where there r many
people-a fast food place-movies-the mall and then
c what happens-not saying but don't get hurt if it
doesn't work out but give it a try.

[jamie_n5]

I would say that he is just as much fond of you and just as much apprehensive and scared. I think you should just go ahead and ask him out for a date. Tell him hey lets go out together and really get to know each other. Then go have dinner together someplace where you can talk and get comfortable with each other. Then go for a walk or something together and see how things go from there. Good luck.