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Lee360TheCoder
February 22nd, 2014, 03:05 AM
Ok, me and him, we called a each other best bros. I care about about him so much. He knows I'm gay but he's made it clear that he is not. Here's the scenario:
I didn't talk to him for about a month because I thought I was smothering him.After a month of not talking to him I messaged him about 20 times no response. This was on iMessage and over the course of about 4 days. Outta of no where he told me on me publicly on one of my YouTube videos; "Cody don't talk to me on iMessage anymore, my iPod is broken." I got on Xbox and told him that I didn't understand how he would know that I was messaging him, he told me after that, you need to clam down, then I said what did I do you bro it seems like you are bothered by something else, he responded with, YOUR SMOTHERING ME you told me to tell you when you were smothering me. I stayed silent for minute. And I kinda started crying in the background, he couldn't hear me. I made sure, I then said that I guess I'll leave you alone for awhile. He said nothing then I said well I guess I talk to you whenever. So I went to school after all of this then I got pissed at one of my classmates because he thinks that I like him and I turned around and said "YOU NEED TO CALM THE FUCK DOWN!", right In front of the teacher. Got ISS for 5 days. It felt like I was holding that in all day. When I got home, I was texting him over Xbox LIVE again, I asked him if he still considered me his best bro, he said ok. I said what do you mean by that. He then responded last time I check ok is casually considered yes. Then I said something like, sorry, I didn't know. Either way, good night bro :/. And he didn't respond, which really hurt my feelings. He was playing Madden for awhile and then just stayed at the main menu for awhile, I'm guessing he was gone. Later that night his mom post a picture of him sitting beside a chick, which wasn't his sister. And he was right up against her. I don't know if she's his girl friend or what. I just feel really hurt. X.X :(

ausley
February 22nd, 2014, 03:32 AM
Dude don't trip over it your "best Bro" kind of sounds like a douche and I mean I've been through what you've been I thought this one guy was my best friend but I was always just the rebound one who he went to once everyone else wasn't there. Just let it be and see how it turns out

Hermes96
February 22nd, 2014, 10:30 AM
see how he acts over the next few weeks if he gets worse pull him up on it if you don't tell him now he'll think he can get away with it and he'll continue to try it.

JamesSuperBoy
February 22nd, 2014, 10:41 AM
People change over time - find new friends. Thats life

refrigeratorx
February 22nd, 2014, 10:57 AM
you could be growing apart. there are plenty of people in this world, in your school, in your area. I know it would be hard at first, but think about if you can picture being friends with him forever. He isn't treating you nicely and you don't deserve that. You shouldnt have to make all of the effort in a friendship

Living For Love
February 22nd, 2014, 04:45 PM
Give him some time so that he can clear up his mind. Make sure he understands you're sorry and that you want to be his friends again. And you don't need to feel jealous because he might be with another girl, you should feel happy for him, because you know he's straight and you won't have any chance with any him. Still, don't give up, at least for now. Keep in touch with him, but not too regularly. He might get the message, and even though you two probably won't have the same relationship you had before, at least you'll stay friends.

Croconaw
February 22nd, 2014, 04:53 PM
I'm sorry, but your friend is an asshole. You need to find a new friend because you deserve much better. He doesn't have the right to treat you that way. I understand why your feelings are hurt. It sucks to be treated that way, doesn't it? It's not your fault, but people change. The best thing to do would be to move on. You'll find other friends who deserve you much more than him.

Lee360TheCoder
February 22nd, 2014, 06:34 PM
Hey guys, I wanted to do a update on the situation. I talked to him today, let's just say he said that we were the closest out of his 2 best bros. and the condensation ended with "I love you bro, not like that. And he said"Same to you. :)". So... Thanks for everyone who replyied!

By the way, I found out something. I knew his mom was going to have surgery soon but I didn't know that it was so close. She has surgery tomorrow. I like to think that was just because he was stressed out once again, what do you guys think?

Croconaw
February 22nd, 2014, 06:45 PM
He could have been stressed.

Lee360TheCoder
February 22nd, 2014, 06:56 PM
He could have been stressed.

My thought exactly. :)

Celtics
February 23rd, 2014, 02:53 PM
People grow apart, its apart of life sadly. Me and 2 of my old bestfriends dont even talk anymore really... I haven't talked to one for over 3 years and one I text from time to time....

Snydergate
February 25th, 2014, 10:53 PM
Been there done that, my best friend since I was 2 years old is no longer a friend of mine. When turned 15 or so, it started going downhill when he became less of a friend and more of a douche. We got into smoking weed, girls, and drinking. I dont like drugs or alcohol, girls is fine, but he would talk about how he was such a ladies man and get bj's and have sex whenever I saw him. I tried to mend the issues but he stopped talking to me or made excuses when I tried to hang out so I ended the friendship. I never told him I ended it, but I have not spoken with him for about seven months and he doesnt seem to care. He would never text me to hang out, I always had to reach out to him.