sex with my girlfriend

[Shado99]

hey guys well my girlfriend and i are at 3rd base and i want to go all the way
what do i do

[radsniper]

how long have you been dating and how long at third base?

[Swagging god]

Talk with her about your relationship and then see if you can go for it, start slow and communicate.

[radsniper]

but don't make her feel bad if it is not what you had expected

[Karkat]

(Third base? I have no idea what that means lmao. I've heard that first base is kissing, so 3rd means you've at least seen her naked, right?)

Ok, coming from a female standpoint, there are a few ESSENTIAL things you absolutely need to keep in mind. And honestly, they'll benefit you as well.

1. Communicate beforehand. Make sure you're on the same level. Then, once you get into the heat of things, especially if penetration is going to be involved, make sure you're both on the same page there as well. Going inside of her without getting the green light is technically rape-there's no consent. Make sure she knows what you're doing, and she's 100% fine with it.

2. Relax, take it easy, go slow. Involve some foreplay. Really get in tune with each other's bodies and get into the groove before you start anything further.

3. Communicate while things are happening. If you like the way something feels, make sure she knows. If you don't like the way something feels, make sure she knows. If you want to try something, run it past her. Make sure she knows this as well- sex should be fun and enjoyable, not a chore.

4. Remember that it's not going to be perfect, it's almost definitely going to be a bit awkward, and that's ok. You'll both get better. Just have the best time you can while you're in the moment- no need to stress things.

A little extra: Sex tends to come naturally at some point. It isn't as hard as it's made out unless you do crazy positions. Lube is a nice add-on, but not necessary. If you're going to use a condom, make sure that you know how to use it right! Make sure you both know the consequences of having sex, and are both comfortable with the idea.

Hope this helped. :) Good luck!

[Shado99]

thanks guys

[Karkat]

thanks guys

No problem at all. :)

[Ben101]

(Third base? I have no idea what that means lmao. I've heard that first base is kissing, so 3rd means you've at least seen her naked, right?)

Ok, coming from a female standpoint, there are a few ESSENTIAL things you absolutely need to keep in mind. And honestly, they'll benefit you as well.

1. Communicate beforehand. Make sure you're on the same level. Then, once you get into the heat of things, especially if penetration is going to be involved, make sure you're both on the same page there as well. Going inside of her without getting the green light is technically rape-there's no consent. Make sure she knows what you're doing, and she's 100% fine with it.

2. Relax, take it easy, go slow. Involve some foreplay. Really get in tune with each other's bodies and get into the groove before you start anything further.

3. Communicate while things are happening. If you like the way something feels, make sure she knows. If you don't like the way something feels, make sure she knows. If you want to try something, run it past her. Make sure she knows this as well- sex should be fun and enjoyable, not a chore.

4. Remember that it's not going to be perfect, it's almost definitely going to be a bit awkward, and that's ok. You'll both get better. Just have the best time you can while you're in the moment- no need to stress things.

A little extra: Sex tends to come naturally at some point. It isn't as hard as it's made out unless you do crazy positions. Lube is a nice add-on, but not necessary. If you're going to use a condom, make sure that you know how to use it right! Make sure you both know the consequences of having sex, and are both comfortable with the idea.

Hope this helped. :) Good luck!

Pretty much agree with all of this.

[NotShortButFunsized]

You shouldn't be asking for advice to somehow strategize how to get a girl to have sex with you, because no two relationships and no two girls are the same. If you don't have the good relationship and strong communication, maturity, or commitment for a sexual relationship, then you shouldn't be having sex at all, and no list of advice from strangers can change that.