How much do looks matter to you?

[Obsidian]

I know this question has been asked time and time again and seems ridiculously repetitive. But I'm not asking if you care more about looks or personality, because I think that it's pretty much proven that everyone cares about both. You might value one over the other, but both have at least some importance.

But what I want to ask is: If you met somebody with a personality you totally and completely love and that you have a real emotional connection with that you've never felt with someone else, yet didn't find their physical appearance attractive, would you still pursue a relationship with them?

I'm just really curious what people's opinions are.

[Synyster Shadows]

I don't know if I could do it. Without the physical attraction, I might succumb to desires and cheat. I don't think I'd be able to pursue a relationship with someone whom I only loved for their personality. I'd need that physical attraction to seal the deal for sure

[ImAurora]

Personality beats looks every time for me.

[Cygnus]

While personality does beat looks I do have some few standards look-wise that I am not willing to violate even if the personality was perfect, so looks do matter, but as long as they're not crossing the line it's completely fine, and believe me, you have to be in a terrible position to cross that line.

[JollyToes]

Looks don't matter at all. It's what's in their head and heart that matter. IMO if two people are compatible and can get along in an online environment w out physical contact then having that person actually closer after that would make it 1000 x's better.

[radsniper]

well emotionally i'm attached and even more attracted to people than physically,but that desire for a good looking person sill lingers inside of me because i'll point out a hot girl or guy

[sieg]

i have this with a girl im very close friends with, however since she's a woman i cant find her very attractive at all.
both have got to be there for it to work.

[Miserabilia]

If you met somebody with a personality you totally and completely love and that you have a real emotional connection with that you've never felt with someone else, yet didn't find their physical appearance attractive, would you still pursue a relationship with them?

No. This may sound stupid and rude, but this is in a scenario where I am just not attracted to them.
Maybe they could be my friend? :)

The thing is, I honestly don't care that much for a person's looks, but in the scenerio where I have 0% attraction towards them, it just won't work out. Even if their personality is ideal, it wouldn't work.

[Karkat]

It took me months to become attracted to my fiance when I was engaged to him.
Likewise, I didn't fine my current partner attractive when I first met him, but lord help me he is a sexy beast to me now.

This is the way it is for most guys, though. I'm generally not physically attracted to guys until I'm attracted to their personality. In fact, I can't think of an exception.

I'm more physically attracted to girls, but if I was to date a girl I didn't find 100% attractive at first it would by no means be a deal-breaker.

I'm demisexual, so this is kind of a weird question for me, hah.

[ksdnfkfr]

But what I want to ask is: If you met somebody with a personality you totally and completely love and that you have a real emotional connection with that you've never felt with someone else, yet didn't find their physical appearance attractive, would you still pursue a relationship with them?

Yes, if felt compelled to do so; looks would not get in the way.

[AlanPeanuts]

Honestly, for me the difference between a friend and a romance is that romantic spark and sexual attraction, which isn't strictly linked to appearance, but if THAT wasn't there, we could only be friends.

[Hollywood]

It's tough to say, people usually fall in love with looks before personality. I don't think it would stop me, but then again I have no idea.

[Melodic]

Personality always makes a person attractive.. But I guess I can admit if there is not any physical attraction it does make things a lot more harder..

[CharlieHorse]

Honestly, once you fall in love with someone, looks don't really matter, but looks might draw you to approach someone, starting a friendship.

[Croconaw]

Everyone is beautiful. Look don't matter in my opinion.

[Harley Quinn]

I do look for looks, probably a lot more than most actually. Personality can only go so far and for so long before it gets boring, if I'm not attracted to you physically then there's literally no point for me. I wouldn't pursue a relationship with them.

[Hermes96]

yes if i felt a true conection to that boy

[Ethe14]

Well yes personality takes precedence to looks, without some looks I might end up cheating and I don't won't to do that. I guess I have some standards that have to be met even if personality is amazing. I would rather have a 90% perodnality match with looks than 100% match with no looks. Besides different personalities make life interesting.

[Miserabilia]

Everyone is beautiful. Look don't matter in my opinion.

Yes but could you be in an actual relationship (love, sex, etc.) with someone that you find totally unatractive?

[Ethe14]

^^ probably not, you probably only date.

[AlexOnToast]

Honestly, looks do matter to me to a certain extent. But I would rather go for Great personality+mediocre looks than Great looks+Mediocre personality.

[Croconaw]

Yes but could you be in an actual relationship (love, sex, etc.) with someone that you find totally unatractive?If they have a good personality, yes.

[KansasNavy]

For me, personality is what shapes the way I view the physical features of the person. So it's really all about personality for me.

[Alex_3869]

I do care about the way someone looks. I mean, yeah if I only like their looks and not their personality I am not going to try to pursue a relationship, but I feel like it should be a balance. If I find someone who is exactly compatible with my personality and they aren't attractive to me, then I probably won't go for it, I will probably become really close friends with them (has happened multiple times)

Personality is a huge part, as with looks, but to a lesser extent. If I don't be bottle emotional and physical connection, I don't think it would work

[SweetFang]

Looks are very important to me and that includes body too. Im sorry if that makes me a shallow person but at least I'm an honest person.

Looks and body alone without personality will never work. If you have nothing in common, it will never work.

Still, I couldn't spend the rest of my life with someone that I wasn't physically attracted to.