Is it sexist to open doors for girls/women?

[Jason Mark]

I've been accused more than once of being sexist for opening doors for girls. Do you think it's sexist? For me it's just good manners to open doors for people. I do it for guys, too, and especially the elderly. It's how I was brought up.

[Dames]

not at all, those are just dumb girls. It's a really nice gesture done by gentlemen

[Jinglebottom]

No, most girl I know would appreciate it. It's really not worth getting worked up over.

[NoahNoah]

I open the door to whoever the fuck I feel like. I open it for girls, boys, old, young simply because it's the right thing to do and I'm not a cunt.

I don't understand why every single act of kindness has to be taken as a misogynistic, racist, nazi-loving hate crime as a lot of people seem to think it is.

[LiamC]

Of course not... That is ridiculous. It's just a normal thing to do if you're even a reasonably decent person, whether the person behind you is male or female. Women who say that its sexist to do that are the reason feminism gets an unfair bad rep because they are so extreme with it :/

[ethan-s]

No. Absolutely not.

[boytoynamedtroy]

I think the problem with society now is that people over-analyze everything, and so they get offended by everything. Personally, I don't think it's sexist to open doors for women, or men, or anyone; I think it's chivalrous. And good on you for keeping chivalry alive.

[Phosphene]

I'll be the first girl to reply :P

I don't understand girls who get all worked up about a guy opening a door for them and think it's sexist. It's a nice gesture. See someone with their hands full? Open the door for them. See a little kid who the door's too heavy for? Open the door for them. I open doors for people all the time. When I do it for guys I don't hear them saying "Hey, that's sexist, are you saying I can't open a door?" It's just being polite and such a simple act of kindness shouldn't be so over-analyzed.

[Taryn98]

Nothing wrong with being a gentleman.

[ImCoolBeans]

No, I think people who get worked up over things like that should worry about more important issues, like actual gender inequality. I hold doors open for anyone who is entering directly after me, it's just polite.

[Muddy Sneakers]

If there's someone right behind me - M or F - then I will hold the door open for them, and I don't see how it's sexist. I'd make a special effort to linger and wait for an older person behind me, regardless of their gender.

[PlasmaHam]

I see holding open the door as just respectful. I do prioritize women, but not because I see women of incapable of opening doors, but because I was raised to respect women to a greater degree than men. That's just being a gentlemen.

I haven't had anyone call me sexist about it before, but I may be a bit shielded from feminist extremists as I live in the semi-rural South.

[BlackParadePixie]

No, there is nothing wrong with opening/holding the door open for a female. If one of us complains about it, just falcon punch her in the cooter. (kidding...sorta)

[Uranus]

I would say definitely not, besides you'd look like a total dick not to really. Really it's more about respect for others and not just to females. I open doors for pretty much anyone, unless they are like not even close to the door. It's just about respect for everyone, or look like a dick.

[Jason Mark]

no, there is nothing wrong with opening/holding the door open for a female. If one of us complains about it, just falcon punch her in the cooter. (kidding...sorta)

lolol

[Rendez-Vous]

personally I'd slam the door if someone'd said that it's sexist to open/hold the doors(am I an asshole?)
it's a nice gesture and if you're trying to find something sexist in it - uh, you have a problems I think...

[Bull]

From My 76 year old grandfather: In the early days of feminism (70's) when opening a door for a female on a cold, blustery day, she responded "What, do I look helpless?", his response, "Excuse me, I mistook you for a lady as he walked through the door." Let's just be civil and courteous and nice to all people.

[ethan-s]

No, there is nothing wrong with opening/holding the door open for a female. If one of us complains about it, just falcon punch her in the cooter. (kidding...sorta)

This ^^^ would probably be my reaction...:D

[everlong]

Nope

[Babs]

No, and whoever says it is just enjoys being outraged about stuff.

[dean96]

Opening a door for others is a good gesture and I think everyone like it. Some might don't like others being polite, it would be better to avoid such people. I will hold doors for those who are coming behind me and I don't understand what is the sexiest thing in that.

[PinkFloyd]

It's absolutely ridiculous. I open the door for everyone. Gender has nothing to do with it. The ONLY way it would be sexist would be for a man to open a door for a woman, and say out loud "As a woman, you are weak and cannot open the door by your self. Allow me to assist you."

Again, not something that would happen in the world...

[pjones]

I've been accused more than once of being sexist for opening doors for girls. Do you think it's sexist? For me it's just good manners to open doors for people. I do it for guys, too, and especially the elderly. It's how I was brought up.

i'd probably get a kick in the rear from my dad if i didn't hold a door for a woman or an older person. i don't even think about it, just naturally do it.

[ska8er]

I've been accused more than once of being sexist for opening doors for girls. Do you think it's sexist? For me it's just good manners to open doors for people. I do it for guys, too, and especially the elderly. It's how I was brought up.

Bro u were brought up right-No its not sexist-do what
u think is the best and don't let the others put u down. :yes:

[AutumnWinds]

I've been accused more than once of being sexist for opening doors for girls. Do you think it's sexist? For me it's just good manners to open doors for people. I do it for guys, too, and especially the elderly. It's how I was brought up.

you're fine. i think that most people who get on that are just looking for moral high ground. i mean if someone tells you they don't like it then sure, don't do it for them, but don't change the way you behave around others based off them. :)

[Svetlana2000]

i love guys who open doors for girls. gentlemen are sexy :)

[darla]

It is not sexist

[Melodic]

It's a nice gesture. I open doors for anyone when I can.

[Just JT]

It's not a sexist thing at all. I hold the door for people either behind or in front of me. Their gender doesn't matter. It's si ply a nice human gesture

Now if your noticed holding the door ONLY for females, and nobody else, that could be interpreted like that

[ItsJustSomeone]

It's just opening a door! Nothing wrong with that. In fact, we need more of those lovely manners in this generation... I've had the door thrown in my face when my hands were full more than once! Anyways, keep opening the doors. We all appreciate it! :)

[Microcosm]

Some girls with radical feminist mindsets might see it as a dick thing to do because, in their eyes, you're either trying to be nice to them to get in their pants or you're saying they can't hold a door open or you're adhering to traditions that emerged from the "gentlemen" or chivalrous times.

All of these potential reasons for getting upset are, in my opinion, just over-analysis. Even assuming that you're doing it because of some sense of forgotten chivalry, that doesn't make it wrong to hold the door open for someone. Of course, I think you should treat everyone equally in such matters whether they be women or men, but still I think it very unnecessary and counter-productive to get upset about.

I can actually relate to this because I had a girl get semi-frustrated because of it. She didn't get pissed off, but she sort of scoffed, then thought about it, then said thank you (if I remember correctly).

[Dying Ember]

Eh no it's polite to, but you shouldn't do it on the basis of gender - do it for everyone

[Uniquemind]

The girls who complain are the ones who have "chips-on-their-shoulders" because they're hypersensitive to the meanings of small things, which indicates some level of psychological priming to be sensitive like that on a social issue in the first place.

Most people are gonna see having a door opened for them as a small issue, as will most guys who are nice people in general will think about opening said door. It's a door, the meaning behind it for strangers whether is opened or closed has very little benefit to whomever wins that debate, so why make a big deal over it?

[Hyper]

No.

Yes if asking on Tumblr.

[dude_g]

It's called manners lol

[James_Wilson]

Well, feminists claim they want equality but are then offended when you don't open the door and some are offended when you do. So, really, no I wouldn't say it's sexist more so, it could offend certain people. So if you are worried, just open the door for everyone, like the good Canadians we are.

[Bob billy]

Don't fall for that load of crap. Of course it's not

[Uniquemind]

Well, feminists claim they want equality but are then offended when you don't open the door and some are offended when you do. So, really, no I wouldn't say it's sexist more so, it could offend certain people. So if you are worried, just open the door for everyone, like the good Canadians we are.


That is possible, or it is an indication that feminism, as a shifting social label, lacks concrete definition, and so many people who adopt that label have variation on the behaviors they expect to see within society.

(1st wave, 2nd wave, 3rd wave brands of feminism)

Then you have the magnifying glass of social media on random people, including video sharing sites (like youtube), of literally mentally diagnosed people with schizophrenia, who are smart enough to have learned general social justice education topics, but those facts get spun-up in their psychotic outbursts.

There's this one viral youtube video of a lady (you can't see her face) verbally self-identifying herself as a feminist and she is freaking out as she films in some parking lot in the snow, about how the hazard reflectors in the piles of snow (are somehow a indicator of male privilege) and she flips out.


The internet doesn't know she's schizophrenic, (this was discovered upon further research), but you have people like that who have been attached to the feminism is crazy movement and it hurts their ethos.


I think there needs to be a step back from society here, to really filter and tier-classify what that platform means and what really "equality" is gonna mean, because the term equality is a vague, undefined ideal, which I don't exactly think exists in real life (look at the planet for example : ie. not equal).

[sara___]

Don't fall for that load of crap. Of course it's not

:):):):):):)

[KBar33]

Absolutely not; smh people these days are seriously actively trying to find ways to get triggered. I'm tired of all the damn virtue signaling.

[Leprous]

No, it is not, and has never been.

[Londongirl01]

No way is it sexist- it shows the guy is considerate

[Tesserax]

Sexism is to discriminate based on gender. Technically, to only open doors for girls and women is sexist, but realistically it's not a bad thing. It's chivalrous, reg ardless of what people say. There's a distinction between good and bad (blank)-ism, for example, as an Asian person I like to make a lot of racist Asian person jokes, however, they're all light-hearted and making fun of stereotypes that have been built, which makes this in my opinion fine. However, Hitler had genocide committed against the Semites (Jews), which would be considered bad racism, because it is harmful.

tl;dr, if you're not harming anybody, you're not being offensive, you're just a target for SJWs

[Katedabomb]

I think its manners to open the doors for anyone. How can it be sexist to be a nice person???

[gemma.2000]

It polite

[Fleek]

Um, Hell no Its not sexist! Any sane person would love not to have to open their own door.

Think of it this way:
It is sub zero conditions outside. The door opens only once. Then it locks nobody can open it from the outside... Bet you wished someone would've held open that door-- huh? :D

[gemma.2000]

I open door for everyone. Good manners

[messid]

Nope...its just about being respectful and curteous! I open doors for girls all the time. By that same thinking, if someone respectfully declined me opening a door for them, I would respect their choice

[SethTheGreat]

With the opening doors and women first thing I don't know. Women want all that but then when you help them with something they tell you that they are independent and can do things on their own, so really I feel they can open their ouwn door if they act like that. I open doors for old women and men or women I don't know.

[user-999]

No, it's only a nice gesture, in school, most guys wait till girls go in and then go afterwards.

[katie3]

It's definitely not sexist to hold a door open for someone... some people...

[Mayuri]

I've been accused more than once of being sexist for opening doors for girls. Do you think it's sexist? For me it's just good manners to open doors for people. I do it for guys, too, and especially the elderly. It's how I was brought up.

It's polite to open doors for people regardless of their gender

[Falcons_11]

No, it isn't sexist to open the door for a lady. It's just common courtesy.

[Cassius16]

I don't care if it is. If someone is close enough behind me then I would hold the door to save them some time and effort, haha

But I grasp what you mean in your first sentence

[Miss Ophelia]

Its a nice and polite thing to do.

Its appreciated and I always say thank you.

[blooky]

People are overreacting, it's just a friendly gesture.

[Cute_Jenny]

It is a nice gesture. I would tell "thank you". and nothing more.

Did you think, you could them ask for sex?

[Barbara.]

No its only being polite no matter of gender.

[FPFanatic]

I know that dozens have already answered but I'm going to add my opinion anyways :lol: It's only sexist if you do it specifically for women. I hold doors open for whomever is behind me, regardless of gender. It's how I, like others here, was raised.

[Sandra123]

No is not! That is cool man should help layd's!
Also woman should follows her husband leadership in famliy relationships!

[VioletPerkins]

I don't see how it's sexist. I think it's really sweet when guys open doors for girls. I've had it done for me, and I always appreciate it