19 year old girl and 16 year old boy

[Seraph]

Need your opinion on this.

During the last few months my love is shifting towards a girl who is much older than me. She has allowed me to use her nickname 'Ferrous'. Let me just tell the tale.

We knew each other since the very beginning of our lives, being 3.5 years older than me she used to play with me when I was an infant. We used to fight a lot and still play, she was like my older sister. She moved away when I was 8 and she came back a few months ago. So far I had only seen her as a grownup on Facebook but when I met her she looked more like my age.

But the problem was that now she's sexually attracted to me. Till date she kisses me like a girlfriend, but the problem is I already have a girlfriend and surprisingly enough she approves me having a polyamorous relationship. But I don't want it to end it badly, neither do I want to hurt Ferrous by rejecting her, she already told me that she wants to have sex with me. Should I proceed?

[Dames]

If your gf said it is ok, I would say definitely do it

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[Lukas1999]

I would suggest that you should just talk to her and speak about this.
On the one hand it can work with you two but on the other hand there
are some relationships which aren't working well in cause of this age
difference.
Talk to her. The worst thing that can happen is that she says no, but
when she does it, i would convince her. Just to try this out.

I was in this situation too. There is a girl I like. She was 14 and I am 17.
We texted for each other for a few months but we haven't met each other.
She seems to be very shy.

[Muddy Sneakers]

Your reference to "she approves...." is ambiguous: does Ferrous or your GF approve of the multiple relationships?

Regardless, I think it's a bad idea and I don't see how this can end well. Think about it: what's gonna be the situation in 3 months???? Is that what you want?

[Seraph]

Your reference to "she approves...." is ambiguous: does Ferrous or your GF approve of the multiple relationships?

My girlfriend approves it. Ferrous for her part is attracted to me and it doesn't seem like she cares whom I call girlfriend.

[Jakeosaur]

My girlfriend approves it. Ferrous for her part is attracted to me and it doesn't seem like she cares whom I call girlfriend.

Just check that your GF really means that. I have been in situations where I've been told its ok, for it not to be afterwards. Be aware that emotions will come into play, Jealousy will likely rear its head at some point.

If you are ok with all of that though, and its something you want to do, then I'd say go for it. Whatever happens, keep the lines of communication open.

[Devinsoccer]

Need your opinion on this.

During the last few months my love is shifting towards a girl who is much older than me. She has allowed me to use her nickname 'Ferrous'. Let me just tell the tale.

We knew each other since the very beginning of our lives, being 3.5 years older than me she used to play with me when I was an infant. We used to fight a lot and still play, she was like my older sister. She moved away when I was 8 and she came back a few months ago. So far I had only seen her as a grownup on Facebook but when I met her she looked more like my age.

But the problem was that now she's sexually attracted to me. Till date she kisses me like a girlfriend, but the problem is I already have a girlfriend and surprisingly enough she approves me having a polyamorous relationship. But I don't want it to end it badly, neither do I want to hurt Ferrous by rejecting her, she already told me that she wants to have sex with me. Should I proceed?

As long as you gf approves and your friend is okay with it go ahead. The only thing holding me back from saying "GO DO FOR IT BRO!" Is the leagal terms. The fact the she is an adult and your a minor can cause complications for sex. If you really like this 19 y/o you would be woried about her going to jail or not.

[dean96]

Is your gf of the same age as yours? Since she approves you can go for it. But I think you should talk to Ferrous about this. There shouldn't be any issues in the future. You can't say what happens after 2 months. What if your gf don't approve it after 2 months? What if Ferrous stick on to you? Just think about positives and negatives and then make a decision.

[Seraph]

Is your gf of the same age as yours?

Yes, only 5 months older.

Overall, Ferrous is just attracted to me, she knows well that I won't be dating her. And what I mean by my girlfriend allowing me is: when she saw Ferrous grow on me she said "go for it boy, I don't mind." So I guess she doesn't have much problem.

[Falcons_11]

IMHO, she is too old for you right now. Maybe when your are 18 and an adult the relationship may be okay. Remember she is an adult and you are a minor and if anything remotely sexual happens between you guys she could get into big trouble. Be careful.